Lovelorn

[carini]

OK... so surprise i need advise again.... i swear for being te friendly ear to everyone i know i can't seem to solve my own problems for shit.

So here goes. I'm single (not too uncommon). I have absolutly no clue how to date (a little less common). I spent ALOT od time online. All my friends are either dating, pregnant, married or so inbittered by dating they have chossen a life of celebasy (ok so only two are celebate). I'm a BBW. I am a flirt but can only seem to do it when i don;t realize i am doing it. Finally, i keep getting myself into the same three romantic situations
1. Married/engaged/dating guys hitting on me
2. Recently burned slash damaged guys who i help fix then find someone else.
3. Guys who don't see me the way i see them.

It's a horrible pattern i have gotten myslef into and all i want is a nice guy who will take me to movies and like me for me.

Any advise on how to find someone who isn't one of the above or even who may be one of the above but can still like me?

 

[Starfish]

Hi sweetie,
I would say stop looking and he'll come outta nowhere. That is what happend to me. I was in a cycle of bad choices, so I stopped seeking and started doing for myself...and now four years later I am happily married, and we will be celebrating our third anniversary this year.
We have our differences that lead to problems, but we are in love and will be together for a long time. I am one of those girls that men hit on or gaze at, when they are already engauged in a relationship, so my going out to get a relationship with a man always failed. They want sex.
My partner sought out a friendship with me first and it turned to love very quickly. I have to say that the time I spent alone, before we met, was worth the wait!
Good Luck sweetie!
(oh wait, aren't you bi? Are you willing to have a relationship with another woman, or just a man? You'd have more options if so! or you'd think you would!)

 

[carini]

yeah i am bi but women are even harder to find and the last one i knew started seeing someone behing my back and couldn;t bear to tell me so just stopped talking to me for a month then told me

 

[Celestiale]

*hugs you tight*

I've actually met some wonderful people on-line that got to know me as a person before ever seeing something more from me. I think that a lot of people that frequent these boards are very open and honest too. Have you ever connected with anyone on-line? It seems that all my unattatched friends are finding love on the net lately. I don't know if it will necessarily lead to something longer-term, but I do think it's helped them to get their feet wet a bit.

I dunno...I wish I had some better suggestions for you sweetcakes! You deserve to be happy! Maybe you should move to that bigger city up north of ya. More people to interact with...

 

[carini]

Re: *hugs you tight*

Have you ever connected with anyone on-line?

Maybe you should move to that bigger city up north of ya. More people to interact with...

Yes i have met and been majorly scorched by a few people online. Have been told... did you really think we stood a chance... oh you did... sorry

i met someone else and well this kinda stuff just happens....

i like you a lot.. you;re just sooo far away...

etc etc etc

as for bigger city... EEP scary... i'm a smalltown girl that just want to get married have kids and write books