Love is all around

[tamol]

Whenever I have an affair the woman always falls in love with me, even though I always tell them before we get down to business that I'm married and wouldn't leave my wife for anyone.

Is this just me or is it more common than I think, anyone out there with similar problems, and ladies do you find that woman take sex more seriously than us guys, that is sex equals love or am I just unlucky. Whatever happened to sex for the sake of sex.

 

[VanB]

hehehe

Didn't you know that women don't do sex without love even if they tell you that they will? Jeez!

Learnt that through bitter experience - but - they are *not* all the same. If you have to have an affair try someone ho has as much to lose as you do and then life is easier all round.

 

[Savage Kitten]

i dunno?

Maybe the next time someone you are having an affair with falls in love with you maybe you can tell her this >>> "Look at it this way, if I did leave my wife and family and marry you then you'd be the one I was cheating on."

makes sense, right?

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I'm not saying I am perfect. I have had an affair with a married man. I even allowed myself to love with him. But I knew what time it was. I never expected him to leave his wife. I even pondered, that if he was to leave his wife would I be willing to be in a relationship with him. As deeply as I felt for him, I knew I would never be able to trust him.

For some women, sex and physical contact with a man is synonymous with love. Other women, recognize the difference, and use sex to replace the affection they are missing in their life.

A simple question for you tamol, "Do you really care?"

 

[VanB]

SK, that "once a cheater always a cheater" is just so wide of the mark. Sure, it's probably true of someone who just cheats for the thrill of the conquest but there are so many situations where an "affair" is brought about (on either side) by circumstances that may mean the marriage is, in all but name, broken down. Is that the same thing?

Personally I don't think so and it is possible to remain completely faithful to a subsequent partner

 

[pyramider]

We men have a linear sexuality, sex is a goal for us and our sexuality is limited by penetration and achieveing orgasm. As I once wrote when I was younger and nastier: The three pleasures od women: Watching her come, making her cum and then watching her go.
Women's sexuality is more well rounded and includes much caring that we us men know. Some love the feeling or idea of being in love. You will enjoy relatioships better if you learn to enjoy sex using part of your feminine side. It is of course easy for me to say. I am in an age group where all my lady friends are married and don't want to destroy a family for sex however good and warm. When I was younger I used to play along and even think I was inlove myself. When it got very dangerous I intrioduced her to someone else and. That worked most of the time.

 

[dqrich]

Re: i dunno?

Maybe the next time someone you are having an affair with falls in love with you maybe you can tell her this >>> "Look at it this way, if I did leave my wife and family and marry you then you'd be the one I was cheating on."

makes sense, right?

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I'm not saying I am perfect. I have had an affair with a married man. I even allowed myself to love with him. But I knew what time it was. I never expected him to leave his wife. I even pondered, that if he was to leave his wife would I be willing to be in a relationship with him. As deeply as I felt for him, I knew I would never be able to trust him.

For some women, sex and physical contact with a man is synonymous with love. Other women, recognize the difference, and use sex to replace the affection they are missing in their life.

A simple question for you tamol, "Do you really care?"

SK, I don't know you all that well so when you say you were involved with a married man, am I to assume that you were not married and In that case it was okay to be involved with someone who was? Who is the one to be trusted? Not really confrontational, just curious...

 

[Savage Kitten]

Re: Re: i dunno?

am I to assume that you were not married and In that case it was okay to be involved with someone who was?

You are right. I was single at the time, and by my own choice, he was the only man I was seeing. I didn't say that being involved with a married person is "Ok", whether you are single or not. I know it's something that I won't do again, with someone else that is. I'm still single and if he asked me to start over what we had I would. Still with the knowledge that he would never truely be mine. Why, you might ask. Well, it's complex. I enjoyed showing him affection. I enjoyed showing him how a sexual relationship should be between a man and a woman. I liked making him feel worthy. Honestly, we didn't have sex that often. It was more like a romance. What was most important to me though, was learning what it felt like to actually love someone with expecting anything in return, without any conditions.

I'm still not saying it is right, that I'm right, or that my reasoning is right.

As hypocritical as it may sound, I have never, nor would I ever, cheat on my S.O. If I am not anything else, I am loyal.

Sk~

 

[dqrich]

No jury in the world would hang you now, damn you sweetie

 

[quilesed]

i think you are just unlucky