Losing one's virginity

[InLove]

How about a Poll?

I would be surprised if this topic has not been addressed. Yet I am a virgin still and I haven't seen it.

Feed my curiosity please

I realize that I start this virginity poll with a young age. There are some of us who have lost thier virginity very young ~ some without consent.

 

[Elizabeth]

2 weeks before my 16th birthday but I chose 16 in your poll. I can tell you it was a wonderful experience I remember very fondly.

 

[lovetoread]

I was 16 and it was the most horrible thing I ever had done to me.

 

[InLove]

Lovetoread
I can relate..... I was 12. Didn't even know what was happeining. I saw the asshole about 4 yrs ago I'm 36 now and I almost vomited I was so upset

 

[Lord]

heh some ppl strike the unlucky gold.... met that assh0le heh

 

[PowerOfOne]

Can I vote twice?

15 or 16, it is something I would prefer to forget. I think that my "deflowering" is one of the major reasons I go for older men now. The guy was the same age as me and it was horrible!!! If that was making love I was sure I wanted no part of it from then on. You will be happy to know I have since changed my mind.

 

[Dynamite]

It was two weeks before my 21st birthday.

It wasn't anything special. Just wanted to get "rid" of it.

He sucked, it was awful. He told me I wasn't a virgin. He was so wrong. He just didn't have a big enough dick to fulfill the job position!

Good poll choice!!!!!!

 

[rexfelis]

I wish

looking back that I could have waited. On the other hand, after years of trying to making love and being fucked in return, I have become experienced and this is valuable to me as well. Now I know how to do it well, and how to avoid being fucked when I want to be making love.

I lost my virginity at the age of 20, by the way.

 

[Georgia Girl]

16

I was 16 yrs old and lost it in the back seat of my car. The thing I remember the most is that the whole thing struck me as funny for some reason and I laughed so hard I cried. To this day when I see him, he asks why I laughed. I wish I could give him a sane answer other than it was funny.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Senior year of HS

It was a positive experience, but at that age any orgasm was. ~shrug~

 

[bubba_986]

im an 18 m living in australia and im still a virgin definitely not by choice i would shag any woman who would let me how much longer will i have to wait to lose my virginity? hope fully not long

 

[SpiritRaven]

I'm 20 years old and still a virgin. I feel so unloved.

 

[rexfelis]

Unloved?!

Why would losing your virginity make you feel loved? It sure as hell didn't for me, or for anyone else I know, for that matter. That's because sex does not equal love.

If you're still a virgin, my advice is, be proud of that. That's something not everyone can say.

I'm 20 years old and still a virgin. I feel so unloved.

 

[horny_giraffe]

Here's something that will make you feel better, SpiritRaven.
I was 28 when I lost it. What can I say, I'm socially inept.

Virginity is marked with some rather harsh stigma in our society (especially for men) so I wouldn't advertise it. However, I think that it is not uncommon for people to remain virgins until in their twenties. You aren't that weird. My best friend is still a virgin and he's nearly 30. Obviously, people at Literotica are slightly more sexually-oriented.

When the circumstances are right, you will make it happen. Like that song "You can't always get what you want ... but if you try sometimes you just might find--you get what you need."

If you are interested in speeding up the process, remember that you have to start small. Work on the "lesser" but important details: making social networks, making acquaintances, making friends if you can, dating, hugging, kissing ...

 

[rexfelis]

Hmmm...

SpiritRaven, I know a guy approaching his mid 40's who is still a virgin. He claims to be proud of it, but in reality, he's just terrified of sex because he thinks it's a horrible sin.

I advised you to be proud of your virginity, but who am I kidding? I wasn't proud of my virginity. The only reason I said that is because I wish I had been.

But, giving you the outcome of my experiences without the benefit (?) of my experiences is empty, so let me try to help you a bit.

Step 1: Read. Read about relationships, finding them starting them, maintaining them. Read about female sexuality. Read about psychology. Read about subjects women are likely to find interesting. Find out what they are reading, and read that. That is what they will probably be thinking. The educated man is the well armed man.

Step 2: Talk to people. Network. Make friends. Divide and conquer. Instead of looking for Miss Right, look for friends. Seeking friends does not restrict you to people you are sexually oriented towards, and if it doesn't end up working out to more than friendship, then seek new friends through that person. Soon, you'll have lots of friends, and everyone knows a few more people. The more people you know, the more women you'll be exposed to.

Step 3+: When presented with an opportunity, take it. Approach her. She won't approach you. Not unless you're rich and/or famous. Now that you have approached her, open your mouth and use that education you got in step 1. Be kind and courteous. Be thoughtful. Do not assume. Do not dominate the conversation. Do not steer the converation. Compliment her, but be geniune. ALWAYS BE TRUTHFUL with this woman. Let her choose the topic and LISTEN to what she says, because she'll tell you everything you need to know to take it from there. If she's not interested enough to tell you anything you can use to continue the conversation, move on. Don't get discouraged. After all, this is essentially a numbers game. There are approximately 3,000,000,000,000 women on earth. There's got to be some of them compatible with you. You will get shot down.. Don't take it personally. Just brush yourself off and move on.

Go find them. Use every method you can think of. And don't get discouraged or give up.

Once you have a woman, treat her better than she expects to be treated. Showing your appreciation for your woman will go a long way, but only if it's genuine.

 

[sweetpeaz321]

I lost my virginity and got my first period the same week when I was 12. Lost it to my step brother without telling him that I was still intact.
Sadly, I had lost my innocence 8 yrs before at the start of being molested.
Sex wasn't a positive experience until I met my hubby, who had to teach me that I had worth and could be loved without having sex.
First experience and we had no condom so, don't laugh, we used a plastic baggy! I can still hea the crinkly sound perfectly.

As for the virgins out there- I urge you to wait until th timing, partner, situation and emotions are right rather than just wanting to lose it to get it 'out of the way.' You never forget the first time so make it as perfect a setting as possible. (sounding lie my mom!)

 

[wetnhorny_slave]

i'm 18 years old and still avirgin. my family always stressed waiting till marriage, though i think and talk about sex frequently, i am not going to have sex till i marry. i know thats considered freakish nowadayz. out of my core of really close friends all around my age only one has had sex, and said she still regrets is. for those of us who are still virgins and waiting, stay strong, i know how hard it is!

 

[InLove]

wet & horny slave

I commend you!!!!!! I have two children. My 14 yr old boy is dating now. And although I think *and hope* the idea of sex scares the hell out of him right now I want to be as open as a mother can be to her son ( we do have a wonderful relationship ~ when a 14 yr old boy feels free enough to ask him mom about masturbation) I want him to wait until marraige ~ as you know by my reply,, I did not, but I was also a 12 yr old, flat chested child raped by a Senior in High school. I wish my experience could have been loving and kind, and I want my children to know about making love that way. After they know what making love is, and have a loivng partner,,,,, they should experiment with sex and hopfully be secure enough to allow thier bodies to feel good in every way. But what is MOST important, is that they find that loving partner. I pray this for them and for you. Once you lose your virginity, its gone forever, and it takes your innocence with it

 

[tn_8tiv]

Well, since I'm over 50, married with seven children and eight grandchildren, I guess I don't qualify as a virgin (laughing loudly). I remember losing my virginity though as if it were yesterday. (Or was it, at my age it's hard to remember). I was 14, she was 13. Real Quick!!! Made a mess. Couldn't wait to do it again.

 

[Scabbers]

poor babies

Lovetoread
I can relate..... I was 12. Didn't even know what was happeining. I saw the asshole about 4 yrs ago I'm 36 now and I almost vomited I was so upset

I'm glad you recovered enough to be interested in posting here and all. That's just a crime--no other word for it. We'd have done the villain in if he'd been sent to the Scrubs.

Myself, I was seventeen, so was she. I think we both had fun.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

i was 19.. almost 20 (not too long ago this happened mind you)

i originally had the intention of waiting till marraige.. but i changed my mind. i met a guy, a really nice guy that has pretty much changed my life. we spent some time together, and we played together (meaning sexually). and the day i let him go all the way with me, i just knew it would be special, whether we were married or not. we were playing some.. completely nekkid.. and he kept stopping, burying his face in my shoulder and apologizing to me. and i asked him what he was apologizing for, and he would just tell me that he was having thoughts about he didnt think he should have yet (i.e. having sex with me). and a few minutes later (this was not the first time mind you) he kissed me, then whispered in my ear "i love you" and i kissed his cheek and whispered in his "take me" and it was great. he was very gently with me, and he moved slow since i wasnt sure what was going on. it felt great, and i dont think my first time could have been any better.

 

[Guest]

Believe it or not--I lost my virginity at the age of 12 to the family pet. He was always trying to sniff my crotch or butt..One day when my parents were away shopping, I got completely nude --got down on my hands and knees and let him mount me.He found me and it hurt terribly at first but after awhile it didn't feel too bad.. It was quite an amazing experience.....

Evie

 

[rexfelis]

That's really cool

to hear a losing-one's-virginity story that's actually good, WillingAndUnsure! Thanks.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

thanks rexfelis.. i try to share my story cuz it was a good one (even though i do think its rather personal) and i hear about so many bad things that happened to so many people that i want those virgins taht are out there to know that the first time isnt always bad. mine didnt hurt, and he did everything he could to make sure i enjoyed it

 

[rexfelis]

Virgins

I have always wanted a virgin. I want to know what it's like to be the first and only. That must be amazing. I also want to make her first time a pleasurable experience she will remember always. That would be something that would make me proud, I think.

Not betting it'll ever happen, but it would be nice.