Looking to get into BDSM

[AGN3Nole]

I am looking to explore something new, but do not really know how. Mainly, I am looking for a female who is both top and bottom. I have not tried it yet, but looking for a girl to receive as well as give with a strapon. I don't consider myself bi or anything, but a woman with a strapon seems to me to be extremely sexy. Any thoughts on how I proceed?

Thanks Kikori for helping me initially.

 

[Kikori]

That's... kinda vague.

BDSM isn't just dominating women. And 'dominating' isn't just a stereotype. Basically, people here are used to focusing on certain fetishes rather than plain / boring (vanilla) sex. When there's something new we want to try, we either (carefully) experiment with it or ask the more experienced people about what to do, not do, or watch out for.

What you enjoy, do, and how far you take it is up to you. Really, you just pick a fetish you enjoy and either give it a shot or ask about it. If you're asking for women here to do something like cybering to teach you, I doubt that will happen much. Not saying it's impossible here, but there are no women I've seen here that are online sluts.

My actual 'suggestion', if you don't have a girlfriend with you, is to read stories about whatever fetishes interest you, talk here, and get used to the idea of what's expected from both dominants and submissives. It won't be the best experience, but it will educate.