Looking to fall OUT of love ❤️

[starved_wifey]

Being in a sexless marriage takes its toll. Finding distractions and excitement here consumed me and satiated the hunger until it didn't. I adored the authors and their intimate writings. I joined the board to pay compliment to a favored author whose work I thoroughly enjoyed -many times over.

I found that by joining the threads and having an obviously female name with stated situation, I was inundated with amazing gentlemen and then some that were not. I wasn't looking for anything in particular. I answered them all until they became crass or off-putting. Don't misunderstand or mistake me. I am not a prude. I have been raised to be a lady and only when you get to know me and I you, do I allow you into my inner workings. I completely grasp that the site I'm on is for all intents and purposes a sex website. I am just unable to separate the woman and her needs from the lady and her requirements for behavior and standards.

I found Lit for the cheap thrills and to "get off". No harm-no foul- no hurt- no drama- no pregnancy- no STDs.

But I met him and he changed me, Forever. We both stuck to the unwaivering script. This is fun. This is not real. Until it was. Now I'm struggling to be a friend and not a love. I'm struggling to remember the script and keep my family.

I have come to the conclusion that I need to reopen my line of communication. To NOT narrow to my favorite man on this planet. To have intellectual and stimulating conversations with other like minded guys. To discuss politics, religion, and sex. To find a way to fall out of love and regain myself.

So, if you are interested in conversations that develop into more intriguing, deep meaningful chats but also are interested in the day to day. If you are not looking to change your real life situation. If you are interested in speaking on the phone and cam once trust has been established, please feel free to reach out. I'm hitting the reset button and trying to move forward.

Oh... about me...
I'm 40, long blonde, blue, professional career, mom of 2, very athletic and fit but still maintain curves, sassy mouth, open minded, adventurous, and minimal drama.

 

[allstarmountainguy]

You sound like fun, how do you stay in shape? I find chasing my 2 kids around does tell trick but also biking and working out help, lol. I am 37 male married and quite interested in chatting about anything under the sun. I guarantee I won't obsess as I want to keep my life separate and not let lit infringe on real life, fun, sex and stimulation right, hope to hear from you

 

[shyguy7619]

Starved wifey....

I know the feeling as I am in a sexless marriage myself.. It can be so lonely and confusing sometimes. Feels like nobody cares or loves you.

Feel free if you want to just talk to PM me, a broad shouldered (big enough to cry on) salt-n-pepper haired late 50's male father with interests in sports, music and travel.

If not best of luck in finding what you are looking for

 

[Jayw56]

I empathize

Sexless marriage for me was a symptom and one that led to the examination of the whole. My choices was to end my marriage, and on the whole have been happier fro that decision.

That being said, I do not fall in love on the internet, there are too many ways to create unintentional hurt. For a local person, I would meet and if the spark continues, it continues.

If that type of thought intrigues you. Fell free to reply or PM

 

[hamlet994]

Dear Starved - Oh wow, did it feel like you were talking to me. I get it and I understand. I as well am not looking to change my situation but the idea of having another like minded woman to discuss these things with would be an amazing thing.

I have in essence been in a sexless marriage as well, largely due to medical reasons for her. Still does not mean I don't crave intimacy. Have had some fun on cam and in chat but it can stand to be a bit more intellectual then it has been before.

Me? I am 45 - average build I would say but working on it more and more. Blue eyes, a good soul, and one who deeply cares for others. I know how to take control but give it too in intimate situations. Would love to get you know you more. While I appreciate the arts I am also not into drama so I do not look to create any for you. Let's connect. What do you say?

 

[texas cop]

I certainly understand your position. If youd like to chat, please by all means, drop me a line. Im not here all the time but Id like to believe "i give great conversation".......

 

[SecretSubM88]

The recognition I am feeling while reading your post isalmost painfull. Sometimes I wonder why love and lust are so intertwined.... why are we only allowed to love people who share our sexual interests, or sufferfor it. On the one hand I am glad you found someone who fulfilled your desires on here, on the other I feel sad that such a relation threathened your family life. Feel free to hit me up with a line or two if you feel like talking about your day, or almost anything else. And who knows, maybe be can help eachother with our frustrations.

Love,

 

[JeffyD1959]

Well bummer, you sound like someone I'd like to get to know. Problem is, I've been gone for a few days and when I see your post I looks like I'm too late. Seems there are plenty of guys ready to talk to you and I would probably get lost in the shuffle. My loss. But, if they don't work out, PM me. Good Luck!

 

[RacyWilde]

But I met him and he changed me, Forever. We both stuck to the unwaivering script. This is fun. This is not real. Until it was. Now I'm struggling to be a friend and not a love. I'm struggling to remember the script and keep my family.

I have come to the conclusion that I need to reopen my line of communication. To NOT narrow to my favorite man on this planet. To have intellectual and stimulating conversations with other like minded guys. To discuss politics, religion, and sex. To find a way to fall out of love and regain myself.

Very smart girl!!

Always keep your options open. Sharing your heart with many offers greater rewards. Never be afraid of getting in too deep, though when you do, always hold onto your sanity and reality.

 

[MissAshleyToYou]

But I met him and he changed me, Forever. We both stuck to the unwaivering script. This is fun. This is not real. Until it was. Now I'm struggling to be a friend and not a love. I'm struggling to remember the script and keep my family.

To NOT narrow to my favorite man

You can try this all you want. But your favorite man cant be replaced. Every single man will be compared and not meet expectations. Til one does if you are so lucky...and the circle stars over again.
But once you've fallen in love it consumes. And that just never leaves. Even when you or he leaves you. Your mind...heart..inner sexual needs will crave what it wants..needs..has come to know as satisfactions..
But I wish you luck. I suppose we are all different. Maybe the attention of many can make up for 1 for you. Sadly when that one was all you needed before many only become bothersome.
Lit can be an evil place on the mind. Be strong
Time helps too.
Have fun. That too will help. You at least are trying to make what you believe to be right

Enjoy

 

[ManofExperience]

love is unlike any other emotion. except when it's not

Thank you for your honest post. I have fallen in and out of love more than once. Sometimes I've managed to force it; sometimes it forces me.

Distraction can help. Conversation that interrupts isolation can definitely help.

It would be fun to get acquainted with you.

 

[fulmineo]

If you wouldn't mind, I'd be up for a bit of conversation tonight. I like how you mention getting to know one another. A lot of people don't want to do that anymore.

 

[hot hugo]

Being in a sexless marriage takes its toll. Finding distractions and excitement here consumed me and satiated the hunger until it didn't. I adored the authors and their intimate writings. I joined the board to pay compliment to a favored author whose work I thoroughly enjoyed -many times over.

I found that by joining the threads and having an obviously female name with stated situation, I was inundated with amazing gentlemen and then some that were not. I wasn't looking for anything in particular. I answered them all until they became crass or off-putting. Don't misunderstand or mistake me. I am not a prude. I have been raised to be a lady and only when you get to know me and I you, do I allow you into my inner workings. I completely grasp that the site I'm on is for all intents and purposes a sex website. I am just unable to separate the woman and her needs from the lady and her requirements for behavior and standards.

I found Lit for the cheap thrills and to "get off". No harm-no foul- no hurt- no drama- no pregnancy- no STDs.

But I met him and he changed me, Forever. We both stuck to the unwaivering script. This is fun. This is not real. Until it was. Now I'm struggling to be a friend and not a love. I'm struggling to remember the script and keep my family.

I have come to the conclusion that I need to reopen my line of communication. To NOT narrow to my favorite man on this planet. To have intellectual and stimulating conversations with other like minded guys. To discuss politics, religion, and sex. To find a way to fall out of love and regain myself.

So, if you are interested in conversations that develop into more intriguing, deep meaningful chats but also are interested in the day to day. If you are not looking to change your real life situation. If you are interested in speaking on the phone and cam once trust has been established, please feel free to reach out. I'm hitting the reset button and trying to move forward.

Oh... about me...
I'm 40, long blonde, blue, professional career, mom of 2, very athletic and fit but still maintain curves, sassy mouth, open minded, adventurous, and minimal drama.

Wow!!! That's the first reaction when I read your post.

I am sure many men here were amazed and impressed by your very open and peronal statement. I must ay i can undersand every word of your pot and see myself reflected in it. I hesitate to just pull a numer and wait in line. Not because of being imatient or to line up for getting to know someone how sounds interesting and classy. More just from a natural reaction to your post.

But I an also modest and don't want to push for getting your attention. In any cass just hope you find whT you're looking for and have not only fun but the kind of interaction you are hoping to find.

Oh and about me: I'm a 42yr old Swiss/German guy who lives in Mexico. Privatly ina similar unsatisfactory situation as you discribe it.

Wishing you all the best and would feel privileged to hear from you.
HH

 

[starved_wifey]

Thanks!

Thank you all that have responded here and on pm. It is a pleasure to have such a warm understanding forum to fall back on. I have to admit I did not anticipate receiving such an incredible and compassionate response.

Everyone who has reached out has been more than gracious and forthcoming with their own stories of hurt and success in finding their way to better places. Many are in my same predicament of needing to sacrifice their own happiness for that of their children or spouses. Just feeling like you are not alone in the world makes it easier.

To those who have reached out on here... I was so inundated with private messages that I haven't had a chance to respond and for that I am sorry. I am making every effort to respond to you all and in a meaningful way. So please forgive me if it has taken awhile. I will reply.

Thank you to all of the women as well! Your friendship and camaraderie is truly a blessing and such a rarity these days. Many best wishes to you all in finding the best lives you can live.

 

[Lcox530]

You've run out of space in your inbox.

 

[Vicemeister]

I can understand your situation completely.... I know how easy it is to fall in love online.... and how much it hurts when it ends.... I am fortunate that in R/T I am now married to my best friend, and she and I have a great life, including fulfilling sex, though not as often as I need.... However, there is a kinky side to me that I cannot bring to her.... so I return to various sites online to find what I seek....

I made a pledge to myself to never again become attached to anyone in the cyber world.... What I do online must remain there, forever separated from reality.... no commitments expected, desired, or given.... If that sounds like someone who might suit your needs, please check out my profile, and PM me.... *soft smile*.... I prefer email contact, because it is easier to be discrete....

 

[Teechurgye]

I get it. It's easy to have depth in conversation when there is a level of anonymity. You are free to be open and vulnerable...and that makes you so much more attractive to the person you are communicating with. For me, it was an old college friend on FB. She was married with children...and before I knew it, we were swallowed in an intense emotional affair.

I was the last person she said goodnight to most days. The first person she said good morning to.

I would love to chat with you sometime and experience some of the same...knowing boundaries this time! Message me.