I'm looking for a sub, either online or real life in the SF Bay area. If you are married, I understand about the need to remain discrete. We can start online and after getting to know each other decide if we want to meet. I'm easy going, but I do expect total submission. I understand that submission is a gift that is offered and because it does not have to be accepted, it becomes a privilege to serve when it is. I am very much on the mild side. I enjoy spanking, clamps and clothes pins, bondage and verbal humiliation. I like to give tasks, which help to show your willingness to submit to my authority, which will include how you will dress each day as well as maybe being expected to endure something unpleasant to please me. The thing when you do please you will be rewarded. When you don't, then you will be disciplined. It's through the tasks and getting to know each other that we will be able to develop the trust that is necessary for D/s to work so you will know, you are safe under my control. If you are interested, PM me.