Looking for real life (eventually) in Toronto

[Thoggy]

I'm not desperate.

I thought it was important I put that out there.

Two questions.

1. Did you buy it?
2. Jesus fuck is this God damn pandemic not the absolute worst?

Now that I've got that out of my system I'll move on to the important stuff.

I'm a dominant white male in my early 40s. I have some lovely online friends who I share my kinky side with, including one woman I would rail the shit out of if she lived closer, say..this country.

I need a real life connection, but given I'm not desperate (see above, right at the top, but don't review the numbered points), I want to get to know you and when things are safe and we're desperate for each other, we meet.

If that sounds reasonable, here's where I talk about you. Yes, you.

You're submissive, or dying to be. You enjoy pleasing a man and want to experience a man who let's you stop thinking and worrying. You can obey and respond and know that I will absolutely use you for my pleasure. If something isn't good, I'll make it good for me.

I don't have a particular type but you have to care about yourself. That means taking care of yourself. Not perfection, but not someone who has given up on looking her best. It's ok if you don't yet, but you have to be trying.

If that sounds appealing, say hi. I won't bite. After all, I'm not desperate.

T

 

[Thoggy]

I need someone to be honest with me.

Did I come off desperate?

I work so hard to be chill and cool and then boom, one little thing I say about being desperate somehow gives the impression I'm desperate. It's shocking really.

Say hi and I'll be cool.

T

 

[Thoggy]

I regret even mentioning the word desperate. I sincerely/genuinely/adamantly/emphatically/ yearningly/beseechingly wish I never used the word.

You know, because it makes me seem desperate.

As such, I'll change tone.

You like me? Cool.
You want me? I get that.
You stalked my posts and stories and now you've got a crush on me? Nice.

There. Did that work? Yes, yes it did. Tone is now officially changed.

T

 

[Thoggy]

It might be time to delete this entire thread, change my name and my hairstyle and move to a new city Then I'll be the cool new guy. Yeah...that's the ticket.

 

[mowi]

Maybe a move and then I could help

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Do not get down, my friend. I found all you said quite funny. I don't think it is the "desperate" part in your ads that is making your search disappointing for you.
My two cents is that the stories on Lit make it seem like 90% of woman are "subs" and love to be "used for a mans' pleasure." There are thousands of stories on here like that, but the reality is that most woman want to be treated well, have their say in the bed and maybe fill all different roles.
My guess is the part where the girl should be happy being used for your pleasure is the "limiting" part of your ad. Forget all you have read. You are looking for a girl who wants to give up the right to say, "Deeper, Faster, find my clit." That can be limiting.
It is not the jokes that give you less results.
So, keep bumping and you might find your special girl, or take it to Fetlife, or keep the funny parts of your advert but broaden the scope of your search. Or change nothing, because who is to say my advice is good. I'm mostly stating I have enjoyed reading your ads, even before I officially joined Lit, but I could never reply and I might not be alone.

 

[bspa78]

I am not the woman you're looking for because I don't share your particular interest, but I appreciated your posts. You are very funny!