Looking for Muses

[ericviking69]

I am a new member and have posted my first three stories. )Two are still pending approaval). I have some other stories that I will post after a final edit.

I am seeking real woman for staring roles in new stories. It is easier to write a good story with the heroine is based on a real person. Names or online names are fine. Cypering and one on one fantasies are optional. I mostly want to understand you as a person:

1) Your likes and dislikes
2) Your fantasies
3) Your passions
4) What kind of man and situation would break down your inhibitions.

Let me know your thoughts.

 

[defiantdee]

This is still my first day at this and I'm not exactly certain what you are looking for, but I'm game. I believe from your message you are interested in knowing what a female {specifically me} would want, etc., in a relationship, partner, encounter, which I think I can do. The one thing I can honestly say about myself is that I possess a great imagination and an open mind.

If I can help just let me know.

Dee

Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.

Rudyard Kipling

 

[ericviking69]

replying to Dee

Dee,

You could be a wonderfully real character in a story. I am glad you feel you are over ("at least you can laugh" the divorce. I am glad no children were involved.

Would you like to be a star in one of my stories? See my stories here at Lit.

Tell me why did you choose "defiant"?

What would motivate you to take a risk on a new guy? Looks, caring,

If a man approached you in the grocery store, would you just run? why or why not?

Feel free to post or private message.

 

[defiantdee]

I'm not sure how to do the messaging so I guess I'll stick to this for the time being. My email address is on my profile, feel free to email if it works better.
I actually used to work in a grocery store, right after high school. I've seen all kinds of pick-ups in such settings but the vast majority of them seemed to be unique situations in some way. In other words men who outright hit on women aren't usually the ones who close the deal. They tend to annoy us. It is the man who offers a helping hand or just seems friendly that attracts us. There is nothing like a self confident man who just gives a hint of a smile, maybe reaches for something off a high shelf for us or shares a knowing nod when another customer annoys us {slow movers, those parents who bring all their children and let them run wild}.
Once that initial connection takes place, every woman wants that guy to continue paying attention, to "bump" into her in the next aisle with a smile, a wink, a light touch of the hand in passing. Most women go for the subtle approach but that cocky self-confidence is a must; the guy has to be a man {not an awkward boy or roving Romeo}. I think that is why so many of us fall for men in uniform {military, police, firefighters}, there is just something highly erotic about a man who knows he doesn't need to act like a jerk. It doesn't even matter if he isn't the most handsome man on the planet.
If the flirtation progresses in such a way, it is so easy to take it further; the attention is like female viagra. The men need only to keep up the warm attention, make us feel sexy and we are putty in their hands. I've gone to a breakfast with a strange man after he was like that in the store with me. I've seen women who were so enamoured by it they ventured into more secluded areas to share some kisses, petting, a few who shared a sexual encounter in the restroom or even in a car.
Married women seem particular vulnerable to this type of attention, makes sense when you think about it. Most have husbands who aren't the most attentive and the vast majority of men feel shopping for groceries is "beneath" them which is another reason a self confident male can excite us so much.

I don't know if that is any help, I can be more explicit or direct, I just need to know more of what you are looking for I guess and I think email might be more comfortable. But I'm still game for offering any kind of help I can.

Almost forgot, defiant is because I'm attempting to change my life, to be "reborn" in many ways. I experienced a few rough spots in the last year and this, including joining Literotica, is my way of opening doors and making changes. I don't want to be someone who lets other people "hurt" me, physically, emotionally, sexually. Defiance to my past, not future.

Dee

There's a woman at the beginning of all great things.

Alphonse de Lamartine

 

[ericviking69]

PM

Dee,

That was a wonderfully insight message.

To PM a person go to a post py that individual and click the PM down at the bottom. You can also go to their profile in much the same way where you can email or private message.

I think I am going to enjoy getting to know you.

 

[ericviking69]

Attire

Dee, or anyone else

What is proper attire for a first date?

You want to show that you are available but not easy?

Would the same attire be appropriate at say a gocery store?

 

[sexymom]

Hi: I'm not sure if I am what you are interested in, but I'm willing. I am a frustrated writer myself, so I understand the process of getting to know your characters. I guess I am your basic, happily married but frustrated working mom. My life is good, but not what I want it to be. I'm basically not the "affair" type, and certainly not the "casual sex" type, and yet I would be/am vulnerable to a friendship that develops- I had a very close call a few years ago and thinking about it still turns me on. Pwesonal details: 33 yrs old, married 10 years, one child- a beautiful 7 yr old girl. Not a lot of sexual experience prior to marriage, and practically none since (um- that sounds bad- I mean practically none except with my husband).

 

[ericviking69]

Hi: I'm not sure if I am what you are interested in, but I'm willing. I am a frustrated writer myself, so I understand the process of getting to know your characters. I guess I am your basic, happily married but frustrated working mom. My life is good, but not what I want it to be. I'm basically not the "affair" type, and certainly not the "casual sex" type, and yet I would be/am vulnerable to a friendship that develops- I had a very close call a few years ago and thinking about it still turns me on. Pwesonal details: 33 yrs old, married 10 years, one child- a beautiful 7 yr old girl. Not a lot of sexual experience prior to marriage, and practically none since (um- that sounds bad- I mean practically none except with my husband).

Sexymom,

Can you tell us what made you vulnerable to the friendship of three years ago? Was it like Dee's gallant and caring hunk? Was it caring?

I think you are just the real type of person that I am looking for. Real feeling and desires...

Take a look at my first three stories and let me know what you think. I would like to continue this discussion. Here or in private...

 

[sexymom]

Wow ! quick reply. It was more than three years ago- it was one of those coincidental things, but it made me realize how vulnerable I was. You see, I love my husband dearly, but he doesn't and can't give me enough of his time. I ran into an old friend from my college days, and things went on from there. I would like to e-mail you, if you give me your address.

 

[nudeintpa]

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[defiantdee]

I witnessed many, many encounters during the time I was a night cashier in a grocery store. It seems like there were many women who'd come at night to shop and with no kids tagging along or husbands, flirtations were most welcome. I got the impression they were more open to it because there weren't people around to "witness" it or whisper and point. There was also probably an element of safety in the respect that no one would really know if they indulged themselves.

This was my very first job and as big a shock as this will be, I was actually a virgin at the time. I was very guilty of flirting and more than a few times I was tempted to let myself go but the truth was I had the biggest crush on one of the men I worked with. To make it worse, he was married, not very happily and the feeling was mutual. It was an open secret among the entire store too. The only reason nothing more than some mild petting and one remarkable kiss didn't happen was because he was transferred to another store {promoted}. We still run into each other a few times a year, there is still a huge spark between us and someday I will probably take him up on his offer to "do" lunch.

He was the only man I really became physical with. During the time a female friend had set me up on a blind date with one of her husband's friends and although I have no idea why it happened I married him. Too young, too immature and far too dumb for my own good. I look back at it as a learning experience.

I'd venture to say people who work in grocery stores and restaurants have far more sexual activity around them than the rest of us who get stuck working in stuffy formal business settings. My years at the store and then at as a manager in a pizza place were quite memorable compared to the friendly yet boring as hell time spent being an administrative assistant. I don't know why it works that way but for one reason or anything it just seems to.

Dee

 

[nudeintpa]

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[ericviking69]

Hi: I'm not sure if I am what you are interested in, but I'm willing. I am a frustrated writer myself, so I understand the process of getting to know your characters. I guess I am your basic, happily married but frustrated working mom. My life is good, but not what I want it to be. I'm basically not the "affair" type, and certainly not the "casual sex" type, and yet I would be/am vulnerable to a friendship that develops- I had a very close call a few years ago and thinking about it still turns me on. Pwesonal details: 33 yrs old, married 10 years, one child- a beautiful 7 yr old girl. Not a lot of sexual experience prior to marriage, and practically none since (um- that sounds bad- I mean practically none except with my husband).

I can hardly wait for the details...

I bet they are juicy or revealing if you do not want to share here..

I have sent you my email by PM...

 

[ericviking69]

I really do not get these men that are not attentive. Then again, the women probably say whats with these guys wives that are unattentive too.

Dee, that is very erotic, the people casually meeting in the grocery store and petting or playing in a secluded area. You saw this or participated? ;-)

What is not to get...any relationship requires 110% from both sides. When either party stops playing...ouch....

My observation is that in most broken relationships things have spiraled so out of control that even the more motivated partner is intimidated by the effort it would take to fix it. Fixing a broken relationship requires good will on both sides.

After 25 years of marriage, I am not all knowing but I know I need to continue to find little thjings to do that are special...

 

[ericviking69]

I witnessed many, many encounters during the time I was a night cashier in a grocery store. It seems like there were many women who'd come at night to shop and with no kids tagging along or husbands, flirtations were most welcome. I got the impression they were more open to it because there weren't people around to "witness" it or whisper and point. There was also probably an element of safety in the respect that no one would really know if they indulged themselves.

This was my very first job and as big a shock as this will be, I was actually a virgin at the time. I was very guilty of flirting and more than a few times I was tempted to let myself go but the truth was I had the biggest crush on one of the men I worked with. To make it worse, he was married, not very happily and the feeling was mutual. It was an open secret among the entire store too. The only reason nothing more than some mild petting and one remarkable kiss didn't happen was because he was transferred to another store {promoted}. We still run into each other a few times a year, there is still a huge spark between us and someday I will probably take him up on his offer to "do" lunch.

He was the only man I really became physical with. During the time a female friend had set me up on a blind date with one of her husband's friends and although I have no idea why it happened I married him. Too young, too immature and far too dumb for my own good. I look back at it as a learning experience.

I'd venture to say people who work in grocery stores and restaurants have far more sexual activity around them than the rest of us who get stuck working in stuffy formal business settings. My years at the store and then at as a manager in a pizza place were quite memorable compared to the friendly yet boring as hell time spent being an administrative assistant. I don't know why it works that way but for one reason or anything it just seems to.

Dee

Dee,

You are prolific...I have almost three pages of information from your posts and other more private communication to serve as the basis for story...

I hope my talent is up to the challenge of the good material...

From what I know about you, your Ex was an idiot...

Shame he did not grow up and realize what he had...

 

[defiantdee]

Prolific? Yikes, I just hope I'm not running off at the mouth! I have been known to do that from time to time. I really enjoy sharing with people, especially ones who don't make judgments about my ideas, thoughts or behavior.

I think every single person has the need to connect with others and feel appreciated in some small way. Unfortunately there are people in the world, like my ex-husband, who make themselves feel better by belittling others. It is sad that inorder to feel good they have to make someone else feel so awful but in the long run I really believe they are the ones who end up bitter and alone.

That's the main reason I decided to stop living my life worrying over what other people will say about me. I don't ask the world to adopt every view I have but I do expect it to allow me to live my life in the manner I choice, even if some people find it "different" or "unusual."

I am who I am so why fight it.

Thanks for the encouragement and support!

Dee

 

[ericviking69]

Prolific? Yikes, I just hope I'm not running off at the mouth! I have been known to do that from time to time. I really enjoy sharing with people, especially ones who don't make judgments about my ideas, thoughts or behavior.

I think every single person has the need to connect with others and feel appreciated in some small way. Unfortunately there are people in the world, like my ex-husband, who make themselves feel better by belittling others. It is sad that inorder to feel good they have to make someone else feel so awful but in the long run I really believe they are the ones who end up bitter and alone.

That's the main reason I decided to stop living my life worrying over what other people will say about me. I don't ask the world to adopt every view I have but I do expect it to allow me to live my life in the manner I choice, even if some people find it "different" or "unusual."

I am who I am so why fight it.



Thanks for the encouragement and support!

Dee

I am glad you choose my tread to share on...

I am happy to have made your acquaintance and expext to get more closely acquainted as time goes on...

 

[nudeintpa]

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[ericviking69]

Being Real

There are have been a lot of viewers...

Any one else have some insights into the romantic and erotic process?

 

[defiantdee]

I've noticed more people taking a look at your thread as well. It was the title that caught my eye on my first day here and convinced me to post a reply. The threads with lots of postings are a bit intimidating to someone like me who is new and completely uncertain how to meet new people.

If I can share when my life is so boring I'm sure there are countless others who have more they could be saying. I'd like hearing what other people think. I'd like to know my thoughts on men aren't as crazy as I sometimes fear they are.

How about it? Are there other women out there who want to share or exchange thoughts and ideas? Anyone else who thinks sex is should be more about sharing and exploring?

Dee

A kiss can be a comma, a question mark, or an exclamation point. That's the basic spelling that every woman ought to know.

 

[ericviking69]

The right of it

Dee is getting it all right....

I wonderwhat lucky guy is going to get it right by her?

 

[imaginarylrv1290]

I would like to become a muse. I have read your stories, and have been aroused by them......

I have 3 children, 22, 21, and 15. It interests me very much that you are interested in what motivates a woman.(sorry - that does not sound not quite right!)

I have been married for 16 years. I have just started having an extra marital affair.

I have never cheated on a partner in my entire life.

I used to write a lot when I was younger, and have procrastinated for a long time about replying to this thread.

I think every woman should become a "muse".......
As in "do with me what you will".....

I feel bad I don't have a "cute quote".... But maybe that will come with time......

Thanks,
Rennae

 

[ericviking69]

Your needs and wants

Rennae,

Welcome to Lit. I am honored that you chose my thread to grace with your first post.

Age, children, married or single....those are categories that we all fill. Being a muse is not about these categories. It is about inspiring action. The inspired action could be a picture, a poem, a story or even something more physical (do I need to make a list?).

What about you will inspire me? I want to know more about you.

Why are you having an affair? What prompted the change? Is he or she a wonderful person?

I look forward to hearing more from you.



I do not have a cute quote either...

 

[Lady_Sam]

I'm still relatively young I like to think but I have a healthy appetite that unfortunately is currently only tended by my fantasies. I don't know what i would actually do if I found a man that gave me 125% of his attention and who actually wanted, needed and desired my company.

More pms will be forthcoming my dear, hope I am at least a smidgeon of a muse

 

[ericviking69]

What can I say?

You indeed are a muse...I am sure you must inspire many things...

Your avatar inspires my thoughts...

I am sure a profound exploration of your passions will engender more than just thoughts....

kiss