looking for intense dom play partner

[kajiraahava]

Hi y'all.

Little new to the strictly play scene. I'm a very good trained sub, but not looking for a LTR necessarily. Maybe some scene play at first. You should be able to give me some references, I can do the same.

I want to see about my masochistic sub side. Working my way up with a couple of scenes might be a good idea. The more play things you have the better. I like the feel of lots of things.

Be local or ready to travel because I can't. Discretion is a must. My town is small and I'm not really wanting it to go around the gossip vine just yet. So, if you are an experienced (preferred) Dom who wants to play and has a small sadistic streak in OH, IN, IL, KY, or maybe even TN then PM me. Really you can be anywhere in the USA if you can get to me. We can talk about more specific areas then. Again, it's the discretion thing.

~ ahava ~

 

[kajiraahava]

I have added a poll for a little fun.

People are looking at this post, but not responding to it, aside from a few PM's. Tell me why I may not be for you.

This may never have been done before and could be interesting. Speak up, the floor is yours.

 

[DarkSteven]

Issue 1: Location is inconvenient.

Issue 2: I feel very uncomfortable with ads like this, that say nothing about the poster (she's a sub who spells and uses English well - I know nothing else), and will accept almost any Dom. No requirements for age, looks, interests, etc.

 

[kajiraahava]

Issue 1: Location is inconvenient.

Issue 2: I feel very uncomfortable with ads like this, that say nothing about the poster (she's a sub who spells and uses English well - I know nothing else), and will accept almost any Dom. No requirements for age, looks, interests, etc.

While I am not addressing you directly, this should answer some questions that you and many others have had. I have yet to see where it says I will ACCEPT any Dom. Quite the contrary. I will SPEAK to most Doms, those who become any closer to me are a very select few!

It has been my intention to further discuss interests via PM and/or IM. This is not a subject or lifestyle move that is to be taken lightly, regardless of seeking play partners or seeking ltr. Hardly something that one could post all of their requirements and preferences in one message.

I will say that I am very well grounded in my community and local groups. However, I would like to introduce someone new to fulfill my variety of interests. Those who are closed off to appearances and the like are definitely not going to be the person for me. I used to live in the "world of popularity", however that was before I opened my mind and ceased being a lemming.

For those of you who say that I am not a real sub due to my requests/restrictions, well, to hell with you. Most everything takes negotiations and "meeting halfway". I have lain out my single requirement. So, "Super Doms Unite", play amongst your small world and don't waste my time.

Finally, this is my advertisement the last time I checked. It is at my discretion that I provide or admit details and information. Generally, I am not a bitch, however I have grown quite weary of receiving "holier than thou" emails telling me how I should act or what might work better for me.

To those friends of mine, thank you for taking the time to get to know me. I love you all. Hope everyone has had fun with the poll.

 

[MelancholyBaby]

Very well said.

It never ceases to amaze me at how guys think the minute a woman says she is submissive she is inviting every man who entertained a notion that he was a Dom to contact her and give her instructions.

Fortunately it is an easy way to weed them out although it gets frustrating clicking delete, delete, delete and rolling your eyes at their foolishness.

With that said I want to you wish you a ton of luck and success in finding the Dom you are seeking.

Melanie

 

[INeedLove]

I was curious what you meant by intense--so I looked for curiosity sake



However, don't you think how "good" you are trained is up to your Dom?? What makes you think he/she would care for your opinion? I think topping from the bottom is a turn off to most serious Doms. Just an observation, not meaning to be critical of you per se.

 

[Tide29]

Delightful

What pleasure I received when I read what you are looking for. How delightful. I, too, enjoy exploring the edge and the feeling received when a Man and a woman wrap themselves around each other in such an intimate way. Reaching down inside to experience something truly spiritual satisfying the needs inside in the way it is meant for a Man and a woman to do. The Man strong and protective. The woman soft and giving. The Man taking her very being in His hands and taking control of her happiness. Allowing her to give herself to Him and happy in the path He leads her taking her to a place she had only imagined.

There is much to this thing of ours and many do not know that it is who we are....not who we act as......

Come.....

 

[kajiraahava]

I was curious what you meant by intense--so I looked for curiosity sake

However, don't you think how "good" you are trained is up to your Dom?? What makes you think he/she would care for your opinion? I think topping from the bottom is a turn off to most serious Doms. Just an observation, not meaning to be critical of you per se.

Let's see, thank you for your input. Considering my grammatical error, perhaps my message was easily mistaken. One would be "well trained" or a "good person". Commas can be so very important.

As for my training, it has been said by numerous Doms throughout the lifestyle that my training has been impeccable - generally speaking. Hence, my offering of references. There are come general characteristics that the majority of Doms prefer. I have been told that I possess those and more.

Yes, topping from the bottom is a bad thing. It is a disservice to both the "Top" and the "bottom". For play, that takes the fun out of it and for LTR's, it could ruin a relationship. Thank you for taking my personal ad to discuss this topic that has been covered ad nauseum on the BDSM threads though.

Much of what I am looking for and have to offer is simply not listed here. This is why I have encouraged potential play partners to email me. There are far too many facets to explore to bother laying it all out on a thread.

 

[kajiraahava]

Very well said.

It never ceases to amaze me at how guys think the minute a woman says she is submissive she is inviting every man who entertained a notion that he was a Dom to contact her and give her instructions.

Fortunately it is an easy way to weed them out although it gets frustrating clicking delete, delete, delete and rolling your eyes at their foolishness.

With that said I want to you wish you a ton of luck and success in finding the Dom you are seeking.

Melanie

You must have read my mind. Thank you for your kind thoughts. I have been fortunate enough to find a play partner or two.

Yes, the instructions are tiring. I have chosen to look for friends. Particularly those who UNDERSTAND that BDSM and play do NOT mean sex. That has been one of the biggest obstacle.

 

[INeedLove]

Let's see, thank you for your input. Considering my grammatical error, perhaps my message was easily mistaken. One would be "well trained" or a "good person". Commas can be so very important.

As for my training, it has been said by numerous Doms throughout the lifestyle that my training has been impeccable - generally speaking. Hence, my offering of references. There are come general characteristics that the majority of Doms prefer. I have been told that I possess those and more.

Yes, topping from the bottom is a bad thing. It is a disservice to both the "Top" and the "bottom". For play, that takes the fun out of it and for LTR's, it could ruin a relationship. Thank you for taking my personal ad to discuss this topic that has been covered ad nauseum on the BDSM threads though.

Much of what I am looking for and have to offer is simply not listed here. This is why I have encouraged potential play partners to email me. There are far too many facets to explore to bother laying it all out on a thread.

Hey-it was you who made it into a poll...... Don't ask if you don't want opinions. Especially here on Lit.

 

[kajiraahava]

Hey-it was you who made it into a poll...... Don't ask if you don't want opinions. Especially here on Lit.

I don't recall your statement, topping from the bottom, being part of my poll.

I certainly didn't use the letters M and E after Dom. FemDoms/Dommes aren't my cup of tea for play. So, either that's not your breast OR if it is, I didn't ask for a female opinion - take your pick.

That's just MY opinion, based upon MY search...... here on Lit.

 

[Tide29]

Yes

Would love to exlore your SM side with you

 

[panzer general]

I don't recall your statement, topping from the bottom, being part of my poll.

I certainly didn't use the letters M and E after Dom. FemDoms/Dommes aren't my cup of tea for play. So, either that's not your breast OR if it is, I didn't ask for a female opinion - take your pick.

That's just MY opinion, based upon MY search...... here on Lit.

Face it I Need Love put you in your place. From top to bottom should be an option