Looking for help/advice with wife sharing

[RickHunter001]

Hi there... First let me thank you for taking the time to read my post.

Wife sharing to me is truly one of the most erotic things a woman can do for her man. It has interested me since I was 20 years old and had a girlfriend that wanted to be in a gangbang.

I first told my wife how hot I thought it would be for her to go out and have fun and then come home and tell me about it about a year after we got married. Her first response was a huge smile, a kiss, and her telling me that she loved that I was so open minded. Getting her to try it was another story however.

Gradually her responses became, why would I want her to do that?, it sounds like fun but shes not that kind of person, why would I want that? etc, until finally she said she would try it.

She picked a guy, my best friend, and set out to seduce him. He however was weirded out by the idea and it took several months and lots of prodding from me to both of them for them to finally get in bed.

She carried on a short fling with him and then he ended up getting a girlfriend so they stopped. This fling with him made her decide that she wanted to try a threesome.

About a month after they stopped, I ended up getting her pregnant (yes its mine) and she went back to the idea that it sounds fun but shes not that kind of girl.

This fling she had merely whetted my appetite though. I want to get her back into this. I'm not looking for sex on the side for me but I am a guy. If she says ok I will go for it. I also do not consider myself a cuckold. I am not into the whole humilation aspect of wife sharing, and thats the quickest way for someone to lost whatever chances they have of being with her.

The idea of my wife cumming while someone is fucking her silly, of her making someone else cum, etc etc is a tremendous turn on.

So what I am looking for is people that want to chat, and possibly help me with advice on how to get her back into this.

So if you can help me out send me an email or im and I would love to talk to you.

 

[SweetErika]

Listen to what your wife is saying, it's important. You might be able to convince her to do it again, but how pleasureable could it possibly be if she's not completely into it? Do you really want her to do something she's uncomfortable with? Are you prepared for the consequences that will bring?

Pushing the issue is going to breed resentment and self-hatred...it likely already has, whether you realize it or not. She may start to think she's not good enough on her own, especially after pregnancy/becoming a mom. If she gives in and does it for you, she'll feel 'forced,' resent you, and probably be very upset with herself for going along with it.

Listen, and think carefully: Is your desire worth hurting your wife? Damaging, and quite possibly ending your relationship? Stressing and/or breaking up your family?

 

[RickHunter001]

Thanks for the private messages... They were interesting though I'm not exactly looking for that kind of help... Grin... I'm sure my wife is able to find lovers on her own...

Erica... Thanks for your words of caution... I would not have posted this unless I felt that I was listening to what she was saying... Naturally there is more background involved than what I was able to post in a short message... But to go into the entire story I might as well do just that... Write a story... Who knows maybe I will or maybe someone will write one for me...

Like I said I feel that I am listening to my wife... What prompted me to even offer her the ability to do something like this was that when we first got together she would talk alot about how she has gone from one serious relationship to another... That she never had been able to just date someone much less ever have casual sex or a one night stand... She felt that because of this she was not very experienced sexually and she does have a lot of "firsts" that have happened with me...

There have been other coincidences that have occurred that lets me know that she is into this as well...

I have not been pushing the issue at all... In fact I have not brought it up to her in months... But like I said what has occurred has merely whetted my appetite...

I'd love to talk about this with people so keep the replies and private messages coming if you would like to discuss this...

 

[jaydevine]

Let her be in charge

If she is the one who chooses the time and the person - it will be best for both of you. It is good that you are listening to her because forcing her may destroy your beautiful relationship.

I would also recommend that you explore options for 3-somes or 4-somes so that it is easy on her. She might feel more guilt if she does it alone but if you are there with her you are a "participant."

And it would also be great if it all happened naturally, rather than forcing it to happen.

 

[Eilan]

Thanks for the private messages... They were interesting though I'm not exactly looking for that kind of help... Grin... I'm sure my wife is able to find lovers on her own...

Well, this is the Personals Board, so the PM's from men offering to fuck your wife shouldn't have surprised you. If you wanted advice, the How-To Board would have been a better place to ask for it. But I suspect that it's validation, not advice, that you seek.

Erika's spot-on, as usual. If you're actually listening to your wife, then why are you looking for advice on how to "get" her back into this?

My hubby and I have done MFM's in the past, and I know from experience that you can't "get," "make" or "convince" people to do anything that they don't want to do, not without creating a potential breeding ground for resentment. At one time in her life, she might have been interested, but it sounds like things have changed (parenthood) for the two of you right now, and she says she's not that kind of woman. Respect that and be grateful that she's still fucking you.

Sometimes it isn't about you, no matter how much you'd like it to be.

Good luck.

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks for the private messages... They were interesting though I'm not exactly looking for that kind of help... Grin... I'm sure my wife is able to find lovers on her own...

Erica... Thanks for your words of caution... I would not have posted this unless I felt that I was listening to what she was saying... Naturally there is more background involved than what I was able to post in a short message... But to go into the entire story I might as well do just that... Write a story... Who knows maybe I will or maybe someone will write one for me...

Like I said I feel that I am listening to my wife... What prompted me to even offer her the ability to do something like this was that when we first got together she would talk alot about how she has gone from one serious relationship to another... That she never had been able to just date someone much less ever have casual sex or a one night stand... She felt that because of this she was not very experienced sexually and she does have a lot of "firsts" that have happened with me...

There have been other coincidences that have occurred that lets me know that she is into this as well...

I have not been pushing the issue at all... In fact I have not brought it up to her in months... But like I said what has occurred has merely whetted my appetite...

I'd love to talk about this with people so keep the replies and private messages coming if you would like to discuss this...

You may feel like you're listening to her, and you probably are, since you related what she said (that she's not interested in fucking others at this point) to us. I guess I wasn't clear, and should have said you need to listen and RESPECT her wishes, not just hear them.

Like Eilan said, if she wanted to do this again now, you wouldn't be on here alone asking for help on getting her back into it; you and she would be online or looking for a suitable partner together, or she would bring it up and take active steps to make it happen. Similarly, if I wanted my husband to fuck other women, I'd encourage him to actively look, and would likely even help him look...if I didn't want that, and he didn't respect me, he'd have to try to convince me to go along with it somehow. There's a huge difference there.

Also, if she was into this and you have a healthy relationship, you two would both be initiating communication on it regularly. She'd say things like, "Honey, I'd like to look for a guy to fulfill our fantasy" and "Let's talk about how this is going to work this time." You haven't brought it up in months because you don't want to push it and lose your chance...that's a VERY good indicator she's not on board with this idea.

Tell your wife you are still interested in exploring this, but you understand and respect her wishes, and don't want her to do anything she's not completely into. Invite her to talk to you if she ever feels differently, and use the fantasy to enhance your sex life in the meantime.

There's absolutely NO way to get her to do this without hurting her and your relationship. If you're hellbent on convincing her and don't give a shit about the damage, things like abuse (if you can get her self-esteem low enough, she'll likely think she has to do it to keep you because no one else will want her), bribery, ultimatums, and nagging are probably your best course of action.

I may not be telling you what you want to hear, but I am giving you solid advice based on a lot of knowledge and experience. If you're only seeking validation, you need to state such in your posts...something like, "I don't really want good advice, just validation and suggestions on convincing my wife to fuck others, and it doesn't matter if those suggestions hurt her or our marriage" would probably work quite well.