Looking for Daddy

[*Eve*]

Me and a girlfriend were talking the other day about the current relationships that we were in. I mentioned that my boyfriend is a lot like my dad and she said the same thing about her boyfriend. That leads me to the question, is it true that women want men like their fathers. For instance, women who come from dysfunctional families with abusive fathers run a higher risk of ending up in an abusive relationship.
A lot of the qualities that I admire in my dad are qualities that my boyfriend posseses. Ladies what do you think?

On the flipside guys, are you guys looking for mommy?

 

[Ambrosious]

HELL NO!

My mother is an abusive, lazy cow with no ambition or drive whatsoever. I would rather kill myself than end up with someone like her.

However, my fantasy is the consumate mother. She is a professional nanny, mothers our dogs, and tries to mother me. Can't wait until she has kids, she needs 'em. LOL

 

[Merelan]

In my younger years, I found I seemed to be with men alot like my Dad. But I wised up. Not saying he isn't super, but no way am I living life like my Mom. Looking around...
shit.... in many ways this is alot like Mom, but stabler.
I have watched friends do the same thing, hopefully you all had perfect dads and the men you find have all those wonderful strong traits. On the flipside some of my male friends look for Mom. To take over and baby them like their mothers. Who knows, we stick to what is familiar. Anyone to different makes us uncomfortable? Is that it.
Where is Lasher and Slutboy when you need them?

 

[Temptress_1960]

TV moms

ruined it for a lot of us women. They set men's expectations way too high. But can you really picture Donna Reed having down and dirty sex, and explosive orgasms? Way too messy for her.

On the other hand, TV dads were not sexy to me. Too authoritarian, and I just can't picture somebody like Mike Brady getting ecstatic, or going down on Carol.

The only exception I can think of from the 60s or 50s reruns would be Rob & Laura Petrie. I bet they were hot together.

Oops, I think I'm off the topic here. Sorry.

 

[teresafannin]

The men I have been involved share some of the characteristics my dad has, but are also very different. My ex-husband was looking for a mom. His mom died when he was 7 & his dad never remarried. I was a single mom & he fell in love with that image. I love to be a mom & have a tendency to mother everyone I know. It worked for 7 years, but when my son got to where he didn't want to hang out with his parents all the time, we found that we didn't have anything in common. I do know many women who had abusive fathers & have continued that kind of relationship with the men in their lives.

 

[Guest]

Some TV moms certainly destroyed any expectations a guy might have though. I mean Roseanne... I still have nightmares from that show.

And you can't see Mike Brady going down on Carol? Whenever I watch it I half expect porno music to seep in in the background and the acting levels to drop dramatically (if they were ever that high) as everyone gets down and dirty. But I've just watched to much funny old porn.

But do I think eople are attracted to people similar to their parent of the opposite sex (where talking heterosexuals here, of course)? Well that's a little Oedipus-like for my taste, but maybe.

Perhaps it because somehow, genetically or not, you have similar tastes with your parent of the same sex.

Or maybe, it's something to do with family cohesiveness. Say if you're a girl, you marry a guy that's very much like your dad. As they are similar, they should get along great, right? I'm guessing it might be a remnant of an old 'caveman' instinct to find mates similar to your family, as they'll get along and won't kill each other and thus you're family will grow in size and power, and survive better. But I'm no anthropologist.

Hell, maybe it's just coincidence. I don't know. But I do know that if you've found someone great, who cares who he is like, don't let them go.

 

[DriveSouth]

Re: TV moms

ruined it for a lot of us women. They set men's expectations way too high. But can you really picture Donna Reed having down and dirty sex, and explosive orgasms? Way too messy for her.

Never had trouble imagining her getting down and dirty myself...

But I guess that's another story.

 

[Guest]

 

[Skibum]

And you can't see Mike Brady going down on Carol

I think he would rather have gone down on Greg.

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

Nope I did my own Thing I married a Man that is completly the oppisite of my Uselss peice of Shit Father....

I have No regrets I love my Husband ...Just not my father

 

[Expertise]

That freakin' perm tends to make me agree. Does that make Alice a fag hag? Fuck it, it doesn't matter, her amazing ability with minute rice makes up for it.

 

[*Eve*]

Hmmm....not exactly the direction I expected this thread to go but what the heck, when in Rome...

No I have this image of Ward Cleaver for some reason. It certainly puts a spin on the phrase, "Ward I think you were too hard on the Beaver"

 

[Expertise]

Can't ya just imagine June in a dominatrix outfit smokin' wards pipe.

Not euphamisticly, I mean the actual pipe you sicko's

 

[Nicole]

*Eve* I'm going to answer your original question if you don't mind.

I was brought up in a loving family with a wonderful Dad, I was indeed Daddies girl, and I would say that yes I am still looking for a man that is "Daddylike", I would want nothing more than to be Daddies girl still.

I'm going to regret this, but I want a "Daddy" I want a man that is going to make me his "Little Girl". To take care of me and protect me, discipline me when I need it, snuggle me when I'm down and just basicaly make me feel loved and wanted.

I guess I'm still looking for what I had when I was younger. I don't see anything wrong with this, but I do see your point on the Abusive relationships though, and I do think that most women look for that Father figure, even if they don't realise they do.

I hope I haven't scared any of you by admitting that.

 

[Xander]

On the flipside guys, are you guys looking for mommy?

Hell no. If i ever do end up with someone just like my mom....someone please blow my brains out!!!

 

[Svedish_Chef]

On the flipside guys, are you guys looking for mommy?

Hell no. If i ever do end up with someone just like my mom....someone please blow my brains out!!!

Ditto

 

[chatbug]

On the flipside guys, are you guys looking for mommy?

I didn't know that I was, but I married a woman that was similar to my mother. I loved my mother, and I loved my wife for nearly fifteen years... too bad we've been married for twenty years.

I got tired of her mothering me all the time and finally put my foot down. We should have separated, but we've stayed together for the sake of our son. I know he's happier because we've stayed together.

 

[Countess DeWinter]

Does anyone deny that their opposite sex parent influenced their choice of mate?
Personally, I love my Dad and he's perfect in every way. Well, maybe not perfect in anyone else's eyes....but he's MY dad. So I ended up with a man who not only looks like him, but sounds like him and acts like him (my mother loves him).

 

[CW]

On the flipside guys, are you guys looking for mommy?

Hell no. If i ever do end up with someone just like my mom....someone please blow my brains out!!!

Amen brother!!!

 

[Juliangel]

Does anyone deny that their opposite sex parent influenced their choice of mate?

Me! but that is because my dad left when I was 3 and I really did not meet him and get to know him until I was 21 and I was already married.