Looking for advice/instructions

[airatome]

Hello all 22/m here in St.pete Florida. To help better understand a certain, special someone whos entered my life, i'd like some advice and knowledge about the Master/dom Slave/sub lifestyle. how should a master be, what is expected out of this kind of style. What is the basis of it, things like that, Im a total amature when it comes to this so i need everything from the ground up. PM's are always welcome ^^

 

[airatome]

Monday afternoon bump folks, how is everyone?

 

[lord_bob]

well what kind of sub is your special someone? then you gotta see what kind master you want to be
though I'd recommend it only if thats what you want to do, trying to be a master simply because someone wants you to be doesnt really work out

 

[airatome]

well what kind of sub is your special someone? then you gotta see what kind master you want to be
though I'd recommend it only if thats what you want to do, trying to be a master simply because someone wants you to be doesnt really work out

oh no one said she wanted me to be, no one said she didnt already HAVE a master, just going out on a limb and wanting to learn more about the style as an interest. And, if anything ever goes wrong and she ends up falling into my lap (Seeing as how she's SOOO close) then bonus for both of us. Its something that interests her, so as a person who aims to please, i myself would like to find out what there is to know about it. If things do change and she finds herself wanting a change of pace, well then at least i've had learned something sexually new.

 

[ima6uldv8]

I think you would be happier if that's what you really wanted. The Master/slave thing isn't something you play once in a while, it's a way of life. I feel like I've finally found what I've been destined for. I would do more research to see if it's right for you.

 

[Countryboy1981]

Like other have said.. You really must be a dom type of guy for that role. It's more than just an act you put on every now and then.. Look at your every day life and and your self a few questions 1st..

Do you just go with the flow, or do you take a step ahead and be the leader?
Do you give in to others and let other people tell you what to do?

If your not a born leader then it's gonna be hard to live the master/slave lifestyle with you being the dom master.

Myself I'm not fully into that life style yet, but I do like sub women and I love being in controll and in charge of everything in my reg. life and my sex life.

 

[airatome]

I think you would be happier if that's what you really wanted. The Master/slave thing isn't something you play once in a while, it's a way of life. I feel like I've finally found what I've been destined for. I would do more research to see if it's right for you.

and i understand its a 'way of life', hence my thread to know more about it before i decide its going to be MY way of life, and not just a thing im interested in. Im the kind of guy who loves to study religion and beliefs and other ways of life, even though I very much have my own agnostic beliefs in life; its the study off that entertains me. If i acquire enough knowledge to want to place myself within that life style then that shall be my choice because i want to, not because im trying to impress someone; or that would make for an untrue system. If i do decide that its for me, then of course its not going to be something i 'play' every now and then; its going to be a way of life between the both of us like its meant to be.

If i sound a bit angry or cold or whatnot, nevermind me; i tend to ramble alot and it gets a bit monotone so i appreciate everything you all have posted and keep them comming as i try and explore everything about this that i can.

(To answer your questions on a side note: im very much a leader in and out of my sexlife, and though i aim to please, i love to be in control of how much, how quickly, and how often i get my own pleasure.)

 

[airatome]

hello all, home from work -_-;

 

[airatome]

any up for more on this topic?

 

[sexymom]

I can only speak from the slave point of view, although I have from time to time played at domination at the direction of my Master.

Something not many people outside the bdsm arena understand is that owning a slave, or mastering a submissive (as opposed to playing at it, which isn't the same thing at all) creates an obligation. All too many people want the fun and thrills without doing the work and accepting the responsibilities.

 

[airatome]

I can only speak from the slave point of view, although I have from time to time played at domination at the direction of my Master.

Something not many people outside the bdsm arena understand is that owning a slave, or mastering a submissive (as opposed to playing at it, which isn't the same thing at all) creates an obligation. All too many people want the fun and thrills without doing the work and accepting the responsibilities.

you are very true, but most guys that are unlike me, dont have the patience; or think too much with other things; to understand the emotional importance that goes into all this. not just, having a fuck toy to order around because she'll obey everything you say. She'll just get bored and then its meaningless unless she's being fulfilled also. While i am not at the point of understanding just yet, i've had many a chat and PM's since starting this thread; and the understanding is starting to creep in.

btw, would love to hear your view point of all this from the opposite side of things, that too will better help me to understand, not just one side of everything.

 

[airatome]

hmm, weekends here, thread bumping time.

 

[CutieMouse]

You do realize there is a BDSM forum here at Lit, right?

Link

I would suggest organizing your thoughts, prior to asking questions- it makes everything much easier.

 

[airatome]

You do realize there is a BDSM forum here at Lit, right?

Link

I would suggest organizing your thoughts, prior to asking questions- it makes everything much easier.

I admire your....resolve, in this issue, but this is also a place for personals, and as this does seem to be the place for that, my post is not ill thought up. And i have gotten both answers, and PM's on both sides of this topic. Thanks again for the assistance, but for now my thread is serving both of its purposes right here in this section.

 

[CutieMouse]

I admire your....resolve, in this issue, but this is also a place for personals, and as this does seem to be the place for that, my post is not ill thought up. And i have gotten both answers, and PM's on both sides of this topic. Thanks again for the assistance, but for now my thread is serving both of its purposes right here in this section.

I didn't believe your thread was poorly thought up, and apologize if I implied such. I was merely attempting to point out there is a treasure trove of information in the BDSM forum (Library thread of topics, discussions with people who are everything from "bedroom kinsters" to 24/7 TPE, suggestions for books on the subject, etc), and when asking questions in the BDSM forum, it is sometimes more productive to start with a specific topic of interest, rather than the general umbrella of BDSM. It seemed to me as one looking for assistance in understanding the Lifestyle "from the ground up", the information might be appreciated. My apologies for intruding.

 

[airatome]

I didn't believe your thread was poorly thought up, and apologize if I implied such. I was merely attempting to point out there is a treasure trove of information in the BDSM forum (Library thread of topics, discussions with people who are everything from "bedroom kinsters" to 24/7 TPE, suggestions for books on the subject, etc), and when asking questions in the BDSM forum, it is sometimes more productive to start with a specific topic of interest, rather than the general umbrella of BDSM. It seemed to me as one looking for assistance in understanding the Lifestyle "from the ground up", the information might be appreciated. My apologies for intruding.

no no you were not intruding at all, and forgive me if i came off angry, i am a blunt and open person though. Your informatin was welcomed and was just pointing out (to everyone else also) that this was meant as both advice and a personal.

 

[airatome]

well, sunday afternoon, new avatar up, lets bump a few threads.

 

[airatome]

UPDATE

since posting this thread, and it dying, this...special someone has been my exclusive sub for a few months now. It is amazing how much of myself i feel around her. She's gorgeous, naughty, very loyal, and all mine. She has also taught me many other things aside from the obvious >.> , beyond the sexuality of it all, its crazy how something like this could fall into my lap delivered from the gods and be as perfect as this. I also want to thank everyone for their advice (everyone consists of all of five people but STILL >.>) My shift into dom/sub has been complete and its great.