Looking for a genuine companion to quell the loneliness

[cl_trail]

Greetings everyone. I won't beat around the bush too much. I am a lonely guy in his early 40s, in a tough situation, utterly bereft of any kind of intimacy, be that sexual or just emotional. Perhaps many of us are; there does have to be a reason we are here, after all.

And so I cast my net out there into the ocean of lit one more time, to see if there are any kindred spirits out there.

In a nutshell, i am on the tall side, pretty thin, fair, extremely clean cut and professional in appearance (imagine no tattoos and no piercings on a guy who cuts his hair weekly).

I'm happiest when reading a good book or taking a hike or jog outside, or getting in a good workout at the gym.

Outwardly I am pretty stoic and conservative, but on the inside I am a swirling mass of curiosities. I'm the kind of guy who likes to tumble down some rabbit holes with a fellow traveler.

Who should you be? A woman in her thirties to fifties who has a decent accumulation of life wisdom. Someone who is kind hearted and open minded, and seeks a true connection more than just a passing hookup.

Ideally at some point we can transition to a messenger and keep one another company that way. But until then, this seems like as good a place to try as any

Hope everyone is having a great day.

 

[Good_girl_4_u]

Hi. I can completely relate with your situation. I think the loneliness is the worst part of it all. You could be sorting right on front of them. And yet. At least for me I feel less alone when he is gone. Compared to how lonely it feels when in the same room or house. I'm sorry you're going through that.

 

[ned63]

Hi. I can completely relate with your situation. I think the loneliness is the worst part of it all. You could be sorting right on front of them. And yet. At least for me I feel less alone when he is gone. Compared to how lonely it feels when in the same room or house. I'm sorry you're going through that.

I hear you through your words. Being lonely when my other half is home and I feel better when she gone I can be here or take something in my hand and get some pleasure.

 

[Bassytian]

I'm in a similar situation, a lonely introvert (almost seems like an oxymoron) in his early 40s. Good luck to you, I hope you find what you're looking for.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

Best place to meet people these days is the gym. Go to classes. Become a regular and you eventually meet someone.

 

[TemptmeTameme]

Would love to talk with you

 

[CuriousCat89]

Best place to meet people these days is the gym. Go to classes. Become a regular and you eventually meet someone.

Please don’t normalize using the gym for this.

 

[TemptmeTameme]

Please don’t normalize using the gym for this.

Agreed. It's creepy... I bet there's very few there looking for love. Not a good look

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

Agreed. It's creepy... I bet there's very few there looking for love. Not a good look

…it is possible to go to the gym classes and talk to people without being creepy. People can be friendly without being lecherous.

I’m now horrified that if I were to go to a gym class and if I decided to engage with people it would be seen as creepy .

 

[Jim1855]

…it is possible to go to the gym classes and talk to people without being creepy. People can be friendly without being lecherous.

I’m now horrified that if I were to go to a gym class and if I decided to engage with people it would be seen as creepy .

The worse case would almost certainly be the one of the staff asks you to leave as they have received a complaint / complaints about you.

That I would like to believe (even for a nano second) is unlikely.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

The worse case would almost certainly be the one of the staff asks you to leave as they have received a complaint / complaints about you.

That I would like to believe (even for a nano second) is unlikely.

 

[Verynaughtyukguy]

hey there... .wishing you luck in your search for company. I went through something similar 15 years ago ....was alone in my head (but lived with partner for 25 years) I was eventually set free and now enjoy my life. but also enjoy spicing it up online .
keep your head above water , and try to talk about your feelings with someone. (even if its online, so I guess you have made the first step )

 

[Jim1855]

A polite warning: this is going to be quite long.

An addition to what has already been said, there is more to life than sexual relationships (I know this probably sounds quite rich coming from a 30 year old single man who has never had a serious relationship and is quite jaded).

That said sometimes (and speaking from personal experience) the best cure for loneliness is being a part of something bigger than one's self (BLEEP cults) / volunteering within your local community which allows you to easily meet like minded people.

If I can make some related suggestions:
- Toastmasters (an international leadership and public speaking organisation, the main website is https://toastmasters.org ), I would suggest visiting a local club (which you can easily find via using https://toastmasters.org/find-a-club and putting in either your area or address). Thanks to the internet there are also hybrid options.
I know for a cold hard fact that I hadn't taken that first step of visiting and then joining the local club while I was at Uni, my life would look completely different (no doubt a reclusive loner who in short order would be on the news) and I wouldn't nowhere at all the confidence / drive / motivation / ability or willingness to speak in public or attempt to lead (as it takes two tango) as I have now.

- There is likely no doubt some form of local low commitment repair organisation e.g I have been volunteering as a IT / DIY station holder for about 3.5 years.

In both cases I have had the pleasure of both making long life friends and finding several like minded individuals (the vast vast majority of which have so much wisdom to impart).

I would be more than happy to answer questions you might have either in this thread or via PM.

At the risk of being labeled an interfering little matchmaking BEELP who can BLEEP off, you might want to send @EliseElise a PM as it appears to this complete outsider that your goals / desires are deeply aligned even to the point of having very similar titles (https://forum.literotica.com/threads/looking-for-a-good-chat-companion).