Longing to meet an arch enemy of “facebooking”

[adamISOeve]

Someone who still remembers the days when people applied themselves to conversations; when conversations still entailed genuine exchanges of thoughts and feelings. Instead of merely writing ten words at most, in hopes of collecting 3-5 Likes in return. From people who know only how to click buttons.

I do still remember the days before facebook-like posts and PMs here. If one was lucky, one would run into a “soulmate-like” respondent, and a genuine conversation got started. With now and then some heartfelt resonance flowing across the internet; MUTUAL resonance, in both directions.

Whereas nowadays even the concept of resonance seems unknown to many. Jonathan Haidt, a social psychologist, had expressed in two Atlantic articles in May and July, what Facebook had done to inter-human communications. But the world largely ignores his warnings. And the redesign of Literotica has made it ever more facebook-like.

So I aim to revive – for myself and one very special and unique woman – the days before this happened. And for that I have to find a woman who feels like me on this subject. A woman for whom "resonating with one another" has positive connotations. Preferably one who understand what “connotation” means. But even if you look it up, that shows you are a curious woman on the inside. And I love meeting you. Actually, my signature already says so.

 

[Lionel_Hutz1977]

Someone who still remembers the days when people applied themselves to conversations; when conversations still entailed genuine exchanges of thoughts and feelings. Instead of merely writing ten words at most, in hopes of collecting 3-5 Likes in return. From people who know only how to click buttons.

I do still remember the days before facebook-like posts and PMs here. If one was lucky, one would run into a “soulmate-like” respondent, and a genuine conversation got started. With now and then some heartfelt resonance flowing across the internet; MUTUAL resonance, in both directions.

Whereas nowadays even the concept of resonance seems unknown to many. Jonathan Haidt, a social psychologist, had expressed in two Atlantic articles in May and July, what Facebook had done to inter-human communications. But the world largely ignores his warnings. And the redesign of Literotica has made it ever more facebook-like.

So I aim to revive – for myself and one very special and unique woman – the days before this happened. And for that I have to find a woman who feels like me on this subject. A woman for whom "resonating with one another" has positive connotations. Preferably one who needs not look up “connotation”. But even if you do that, it proves you are a curious woman on the inside. And I love meeting you. Actually, my signature already says so.

I’ve read a lot of Haidt. He’s interesting and makes some good points but is focused primarily on the role of social media in political polarization through the use of algorithms to force feed stories that create engagement.

Everyone thinking you’re an asshole here is entirely organic. No algorithm necessary.

 

[adamISOeve]

I’ve read a lot of Haidt. He’s interesting and makes some good points but is focused primarily on the role of social media in political polarization through the use of algorithms to force feed stories that create engagement.

Everyone thinking you’re an asshole here is entirely organic. No algorithm necessary.

Lionel, I thank you first of all for bumping my ad. You may be right with your interpretation of Jonathan Haidt in general, but with only a little bit of diligence one can easily find passages in his articles like “Babel is …. a story about the fragmentation of everything” or “.... it is happening as well as within universities, companies, professional associations, museums, and even families”.

But of course to discover anything new in anything, one has to read it NOT with an attitude of I am so smart, I don’t need to pay close attention to anything” like you are doing this here.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Someone who still remembers the days when people applied themselves to conversations; when conversations still entailed genuine exchanges of thoughts and feelings. Instead of merely writing ten words at most, in hopes of collecting 3-5 Likes in return. From people who know only how to click buttons.

I do still remember the days before facebook-like posts and PMs here. If one was lucky, one would run into a “soulmate-like” respondent, and a genuine conversation got started. With now and then some heartfelt resonance flowing across the internet; MUTUAL resonance, in both directions.

Whereas nowadays even the concept of resonance seems unknown to many. Jonathan Haidt, a social psychologist, had expressed in two Atlantic articles in May and July, what Facebook had done to inter-human communications. But the world largely ignores his warnings. And the redesign of Literotica has made it ever more facebook-like.

So I aim to revive – for myself and one very special and unique woman – the days before this happened. And for that I have to find a woman who feels like me on this subject. A woman for whom "resonating with one another" has positive connotations. Preferably one who needs not look up “connotation”. But even if you do that, it proves you are a curious woman on the inside. And I love meeting you. Actually, my signature already says so.

In my experience, the best way to prevent Facebook from affecting your life is to ignore Facebook.

 

[adamISOeve]

In my experience, the best way to prevent Facebook from affecting your life is to ignore Facebook.

Bravo, Mike, a really great idea. That is exactly what the text of my ad proposes. And I wonder why the 2 people above you make such a big fuss about my ad.

But apparently the way personal ads work in the days of Facebook is this: anybody who feels bored this morning, or who feels compelled to issue "sanitary warnings" to the public, picks out an ad he does not like, and then he starts insulting the writer of the ad.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Bravo, Mike, a really great idea. That is exactly what the text of my ad proposes. And I wonder why the 2 people above you make such a big fuss about my ad.

But apparently the way personal ads work in the days of Facebook is this: anybody who feels bored this morning, or who feels compelled to issue "sanitary warnings" to the public, picks out an ad he does not like, and then he starts insulting the writer of the ad.

No. Your ad does not propose ignoring it. It proposes hating it.
That's quite different.

 

[adamISOeve]

No. Your ad does not propose ignoring it. It proposes hating it.
That's quite different.

You got a point there, Mike. Arch enemy and hating seems awfully close together, off hand, Right?

I do despise the kind of influence that FB has had on inter-human conversations for the last 12 years or so. Incuding on personal ads, and all the snickering and insulting comments some of mine have received.

And I propose to one rare and very hard-to-find woman: let us interact differently with each other. PLus of course I do not make use of FB.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

But of course to discover anything new in anything, one has to read it NOT with an attitude of I am so smart, I don’t need to pay close attention to anything” like you are doing this here.

I truly enjoy unintended irony!

 

[AspiringAuthor]

It’s good to bump your ads, Adam. Increases awareness. Like public health awareness posters in the subway.

Time for that giant condom again... *sigh*

 

[AspiringAuthor]

I truly enjoy unintended irony!

The jokes write themselves these days.

 

[AspiringAuthor]

Incuding on personal ads, and all the snickering and insulting comments some of mine have received.

Incuding, eh? And your awful grammar and spelling aren't even the reasons we ladies give you a difficult time.

It's well deserved, "dearest."

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Incuding, eh? And your awful grammar and spelling aren't even the reasons we ladies give you a difficult time.

It's well deserved, "dearest."

I do pick up on the arrogance and condescension in Adam's posts. But I do have a bit of trouble getting a sense of why he has become such a target of ongoing vitriol. (Not exactly the phrase I was looking for, but one consequence of advancing age is that it takes longer to put my fingers on the right word. I think you get what I am saying.) I realize that I am not privy to what went on between him and others, but it seems to have reached a point where all you are doing is reinforcing his self-image as a victim of persecution.

 

[AspiringAuthor]

I realize that I am not privy to what went on between him and others, but it seems to have reached a point where all you are doing is reinforcing his self-image as a victim of persecution.

Adam here tends to refer to women as though we're "less than" because we don't think like him... ie., we don't appreciate his usual misogyny with a side order of condescension. He tends to think himself better than everyone. Some of the things he said to me were unconscionable. I've seen him say worse in public forums to women in general. Adam is a contemptible pig, and he deserves the scorn he gets. Not to mention the different alts he uses to praise himself when things are going particularly bad. That's when he makes mistakes and says something to the effect of "women are an infestation."

He's a charmer.

 

[adamISOeve]

your post #14, Mike, was a miracle of political correctness; my kudos go out to you. And thank you for reminding me that the persecution you speak of exists only within my own mind. This thread is only good wholesome clean fun for everybody, of course. Except for AA, who developed a penchant for really insulting me. After I had committed the audacity of telling her, I was no longer interested in her.

But I hope y’all are enjoying all the fun that is availble on this thread. It started out as a personal ad actually, of mine, but pirating personal statements is no longer forbidden here. Ever since facebooking has become the order of the day.

 

[AspiringAuthor]

After I had committed the audacity of telling her, I was no longer interested in her.

Adam, you and I both know that I was never interested in you "that way," because I have a man already who knows how to treat his woman. To imply otherwise is just disingenuous. It was HOW you said your farewell that is deserving of scorn, and then you lied about how I had no proof. Well, I do have proof. I don't delete emails, and they're in my inbox in their unedited glory. All those hurtful, awful things you said about me, to me, and then you turn around and call ME a bully?

I really think that uncomfortable fact—that I didn't want cyber anything with you—is what actually made you angry in the first place. Just... be thankful it's me, Adam, and not my beloved. He would not be nearly as pleasant as I've been.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Your totally random use of italics and bold never fails to confound me.

I think you meant to say that his totally random use of italics and bold never rails to confound me

 

[pikmin1388]

I totally agree with you AllHailTheQueen Guys can never understand what it's like to be targeted for abuse just because you're a lady and considered an easy target . The ladies on here are trying their best to keep fellow lady listers safe .
Guy’s behaviour is indefensible.