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Honesty...the best policy

Thanks, Georgia, for the encouragement! And, yes Jack, all the little things are important (so far, we spend at least a half hour sharing the "little" events that happened to each of us every day). Will try to keep this all in mind as our LDR moves ahead.

"Too honest" might be tough to take, but so far, so good.

And really looking forward to your story Shameless. Will look out for "in the flesh".

thanks again to everyone responding....

Hopefully I'll get my partner to respond soon too!:p
 
jennyomanhll

hi all! considering im the other half of the ldr of the starter of this thread,i tought id share my feelings,too. I never thought Id be involved in a relationship that started on the net,just browsing one day,i stumbled across a chatroom,the one on lit,and thought id try it out for some fun.Fun was all it was until i chated with jenny,something just clicked between us.She is one very special lady.I think LDR can work with alot of work like most of you say and feel this is the same with any type of relationship.you get out of it what you invest in it. LDRs have distance to deal with,other types of relationships have other things to deal with,but if the relationship is worth it you deal with the situatuion and reap the rewards of the relationship.Lucky me has begun to reap the rewards of this relationship.After reading many of your posts ,i began to think you can really tell when a relationship is working,what you once considered working on a relationship,you begin to think of a want, Everyday,i want to share with jennyeven the most trivial of things,every day i want to be totally honest with her,everyday i want to help her with everything.this is one of the rewards,two hearts becoming one.thank to all you well wishers,ii know it will work out for us because we are investing ourselves in the relationship.to all the rest of you involved with LDRs ,goodluck to you and your loved one, like any other relationship,its worth the effort.Gosh,i can tell LDR feelings are real.just checked aol instant messenger and saw my heart sink seeing that she is offline. once again,thanks and good luck to you all and thanks for replying to my ladies posts.Please keep your thoughts coming.
 
Thanks for that, jenny

My partner and I have only been together a short while, so all this is still new. It does take alot of hard work...in LDR's...keeping up the communication, that is. In my case, my online love lives on the other side of the world...very different time situation. When we can talk, it is night for me, and I stay up late to talk to him...and I work, too.
But it is soooo worth it...and yes, the time apart from each other makes you realise what life would be without them in your life. Makes you see how cherished the relationship is...regardless how hard you have to work for it.
He is a very wonderful man, and i can see that we will make it thru.
So, folks...keep up the old chin up, and I wish everyone lots of luck in love.
Take care of yourselves, and each other...
Espressolover:)
 
Day by Day

Dear lovetoread: thanks for continuing to read this post, and for your many responses.

Dear espressolover: wow. The other side of the world! I suppose it is somewhat of a comfort that my love is only one hour behind me! Makes it much easier to chat. But I do believe that no matter the distance, time spent with each other does link a couple together, whatever the means of connection. Hopefully you will get closer together in distance with time.

Jack Steed... if you come back to this thread, please feel free to express some more of the sad side of this situation if you care to. Each relationship is unique, but I have to admit that it's more of a comfort knowing others have tried this path.

And then, of course, my dear Oman.... Yes, espressolover, he is so tender and sweet. I want to admit that each day has brought me to a different level of appreciation and love for you. I'm so thankful you stumbled into this site and found me.
 
Thanks for that, jenny

Yes, he is trying to get closer as we speak. Thinking of coming here to find work and start a new life, close to me. God, I feel soo lucky to have him.
And I'm also happy for you two. Lots of good wishes and thoughts for you guys!!
All the folks who have replied to my ramblings, thanks also!!
Till next time....
espressolover:)
 
"Internet Romance"

It doesn't cease to amaze me
How some people fail to see
How tedious the connection can be.
Online.

Internet infatuation
mental masturbation
lacking acreditation
full of trepidation
nothings certain.

There in lies the beauty
Also lies the pain
However you let it effect your heart
it will never be the same
 

Fo r you Jenny,
P

If I Could Order Dreams
by Erotic rebel ©
If I could order dreams my love
I`d take you in my arms
To carry you to paradise
In land of drifting palms
Stroll naked on the sand each night
Make love until the dawn
To live a life of ecstacy
Your pussy, sweet and warm


To cuddle with your clitoris
Your G spot to explore
My cock alive, close by your mouth,
To suck, and to adore.
My fingers rampant all the while
My tongue, no words to say
Eternal life in bliss of sex
Our games forever play

Make love throught the evening
And in the morning sun
A million cries of passion
As once again you come
If I could order dreams my love
I`d lick you every night
Forever slep in pussy sweet
With legs, and arms, wrapped tight
 
Thank You All!

espressolover said:
Yes, he is trying to get closer as we speak. Thinking of coming here to find work and start a new life, close to me. God, I feel soo lucky to have him.
And I'm also happy for you two. Lots of good wishes and thoughts for you guys!!
All the folks who have replied to my ramblings, thanks also!!
Till next time....
espressolover:)
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Sending all good thoughts back to you espressolover! Maybe one day we'll ALL get together and celebrate!

And sending my love and appreciation to the two master poets on this thread! Thank you SO MUCH pleasureu and shameless! What a wonderful way with words you both have; thank you for sharing!:)

Hope this weekend brings a lot of love and good feeling for all of us "romantics"!
"Love is the answer."...John Lennon ("Mind Games")
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Wonderful, jenny

Hi,
Thanks for all the good wishes and support!!!
Very much appreciated.


espressolover
:)
 
It must be love!

Wanted to also thank those who have shared their LDR experiences with me by private messaging. Overall, I feel more positive about my situation, while still staying aware of some of the pits and distractions that might arise.

Tonight my love and I were able to just be quiet, and still feel the comfort of knowing our thoughts were so connected in "real time" (so to speak). A truly amazing surprise for me, since I was really geared up for a bit more excitement (blush). It must be love!:)
 
Almost there!

Well, I will soon be "losing" my virginity! Sigh...

But I wanted to congratulate both Shameless and P regarding their new stories! Reading them truly enhanced my evening (and looking at the clock, early morning!). Reading "In the Flesh" made me feel that someone "peeked in" at one of my recent dreams!:eek:

Thanks again guys for sharing your talents on this thread. Looking forward to sharing more of your writings!
 
Re: Day by Day

JennyOmanHill said:

Jack Steed... if you come back to this thread, please feel free to express some more of the sad side of this situation if you care to. Each relationship is unique, but I have to admit that it's more of a comfort knowing others have tried this path.
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Year #1 was just fine and dandy--phoning all the time, phone sex, lots of trips back and forth between her place and mine, a feeling of 'we're gonna get through this together' ....

Year #2 was up and down--still quite good on some occasions, but the work involved in keeping up the relationship began to conflict with the increasing demands and responsibilities of our jobs...and since we'd both just got our dream jobs, neither of us was willing to give those up....

Year #3 it all sort of fell apart, and both of us got involved with other people with whom we were interacting on a daily basis. The work involved in maintaining the LDR just seemed ridiculous now, with the demands of work and the less demanding relationships we had developed....

Hesitated to post this, since it's not a hopeful story. But I'm sure you understand already that LDR's have the odds stacked against them. That isn't to say you can't make it--and I hope you do--but try to keep a clear head in the midst of the starry-eyed romance.

Best,
~J~
 
Thanks Jack

I know the pitfalls in a long-distance-relationship...and i'm still new. Hopfully, things will work out. Odds are long...but going into this thing with eyes wide-open, aware of all the work and sacrifice that it is going to take. Already feeling some of it.
But, we do love each other...hoping that will pull us through.
I am in an extremely long dist. involvement...other side of the world between us. But, I do think we'll be fine.
He is working towards coming here to live, and be closer to me. So, we'll see what happens!!!!
Good luck and best wishes
to all!!!
espressolover:)
 
Loving him from a distance

I've been in a LDR for 2 years now. We are almost amazed at times at how it keeps getting better and better. I think it can really work for some people... and not for others. One reason why it's gone on for two years is because we're both married. If we had been single and not able to get together in person, then I'm sure we'd be seeing others. Of course, now that we've invested 2 years, if we suddenly found ourselves without spouses, we'd try to find a way to bridge the distance.
The best way to keep this kind of relationship going (and others) is to be friends and lovers. Be creative, be open, be honest! Don't always look at the LDR as just a prelude to an in-person relationship. You may never meet. So take it and enjoy for what it is. My lover and I still hope to meet, but as time goes by, we realize more and more what we truly have and how good it is.
 
Much Appreciated

Jack Steed said:


Year #1 was just fine and dandy
...
Year #2 was up and down--still quite good on some occasions, but the work involved in keeping up the relationship began to conflict with the increasing demands and responsibilities of our jobs...and since we'd both just got our dream jobs, neither of us was willing to give those up....

Year #3 it all sort of fell apart, and both of us got involved with other people with whom we were interacting on a daily basis.
...

Hesitated to post this, since it's not a hopeful story. But I'm sure you understand already that LDR's have the odds stacked against them. That isn't to say you can't make it--and I hope you do--but try to keep a clear head in the midst of the starry-eyed romance.

Best,
~J~
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Dear Jack: Thanks for coming back here and describing your experiences. I really appreciate you sharing such a personal situation.

3 years of involvement (I know marriages that haven't lasted that long) I see as a plus at this point in my life, and it sounded that the 1st year was wonderful. Even though it didn't last, you indicated that "dream jobs" and "other people" replaced the initial desires of wanting to be together. These factors can affect any type of relationship I'm afraid.

Although I know we will meet, I suppose actually meeting face to face might be the biggest challenge. I don't remember ever feeling so close to someone without actually meeting them first. Being so honest and direct with him so early in our relationship has been a good "reality check" for me, and I am able to better focus on the "now" rather than getting lost in expectation. I am trying to keep a "clear head"!

Guessing that espressolover might agree with me on this. I am rather grateful that I'm only one time zone away from my heart; it must be much harder with the distance of half a world away.

Thank you Faraway Lover for your input. I find it interesting that each of you are married and yet still have a sense of commitment to each other. Yes, honesty is definitely a necessity, and I agree that it's important not to think too far ahead and spend the time enjoying what we have now.

Best of luck to us all!:)
"Love is the Answer." John Lennon ("Mind Games")
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best of luck on the meeting

Jenny, I wish you the best. Your situation is certainly different, having never met your LD partner. You have other challenges to worry about first! ;)

~J~
 
Ty jenny

Thanks for that...
Yes the distance sometimes seems insurmountable, bit we love each other, I think we can make it through.
Thanks for the advice on not having too many expectations, and living in the here-and-now. I'm still new at this, so any help is much appreciated. Sometimes i get too wrapped up in the 'when', and not enough in the 'now'.
I have to keep my feet on terra firma!!
I'm a bit worried now, he went on an expedition into the forests of a tiger preserve in india...he called day-before-yesterday, but haven't heard from him since then. Maybe he's too remote to get thru on the cell phone...but I'm going crazy!!!
I worry too much.
Thanks all, for listening to me prattle on!
Take care of yourselves, and jenny thank you!!
espressolover:)
 
My fiance is in the military, so we are long distance 11 out of 12 months of the year. We have been doing the LD thing for 3 years, and one thing we have learned is you have to let a lot of little things go. When someone has had a bad day, and says something mean, you can be mad for a week, because it is easier to avoid a phone call than a person, as would be the case in real life. Try to see each other as much as possible. We know that when we start to argue on the phone a lot, it's time for a visit. People tend to get more nitpicky when they don't see each other every day. And send lots of letters. Phone calls are nice, but a unexpected letter is great. So is a package. If you need any care package ideas, I have tons. Sorry this is kind of negative in some places, but you have to go into a LDR knowing it is going to take much more effort than a "normal" relationship. If you know what to expect, it makes it easier.
 
please find a way to meet your LDR lover!

just want to add my two cents, after having read this thread all the way through...

you HAVE to find a way to meet soon. I got caught up in the intimacy of LDR... phone calls all the time, email, chat, etc. But those forms of communication also leave out the reality of being with a person face to face, seeing his face as he talks to you, looking into his eyes, and all the other body language, habits and nuances that are so important in discovering love with another person.

You have probably built up the sexual tension to the point where it cannot go wrong, because its so easy to share your needs and desires when not face to face, body to body. That's the good news. The bad news is that you have also idealized so much about the physical side, and you know that needs constant work.

That's just one example of how different things can be face to face. But there's so much more, such as whether you are impressed or embarrassed by the way he treats a waitress when ordering food. Or whether you feel secure or nervous when he drives. I could go on and on...

The point is, the longer you experience this LDR in its idealized form, the greater chance for a letdown face to face. I wish you the best, but cannot stress enough the need to know your man in the flesh.
 
Very good ideas

Bitch_Goddess said:
My fiance is in the military, so we are long distance 11 out of 12 months of the year. We have been doing the LD thing for 3 years, and one thing we have learned is you have to let a lot of little things go. When someone has had a bad day, and says something mean, you can be mad for a week, because it is easier to avoid a phone call than a person, as would be the case in real life. Try to see each other as much as possible. We know that when we start to argue on the phone a lot, it's time for a visit. People tend to get more nitpicky when they don't see each other every day. And send lots of letters. Phone calls are nice, but a unexpected letter is great. So is a package. If you need any care package ideas, I have tons. Sorry this is kind of negative in some places, but you have to go into a LDR knowing it is going to take much more effort than a "normal" relationship. If you know what to expect, it makes it easier.
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Thank you so much BG for sharing, and I would be very interested in your care package ideas. Yes, I seem to agree that this type of relationship will involve more effort, but somehow I feel it will be worth it. And it's important for me to be aware of the various "negative" things that might crop up, even though each of our situations have there own uniqueness. Again, honesty is essential.

And to "unregistered": I posted a reply in your separate thread which I will try to recreate here! Thanks to everyone!

Have you heard anything yet, espresso lover? Hope so, and hope all is well.
 
Copied from Unregistered's Thread

Here's the reply I left on your thread:

I have heard from a few others the danger of going on too long without meeting. Hopefully my love and I will get to meet early in 2002. Trying not to anticipate anything -- the good things as well as the bad. This, as you know, is a very hard thing to do; hopefully we'll remain honest with each other and be patient enough to just let things happen.

Thanks for mentioning some of the little things!
 
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