Lonesome loser keeping an open mind

[Martin709]

I have tried everthing to meet a woman from being kind and sincere to just joining hookup sites looking for one night stands and of course nothing worked. On the rare occasion that I do meet a woman, the relationship usually lasts a few months and she treats me badly and gets my money. On top of that, she is not attractive at all. So since nothing is working and lonliness stinks, I am trying to be more openminded so I can meet a woman.

 

[Christopher2012]

Prepare for the forum to rip you a new asshole over this post. Edit it now. Just do it, dude. I'm looking out for your own good. Bro, listen... it's not worth it. You'll have to create a new email address, new username, new password, and then activate the account. That's a ton of work to go through just to vent openly. If you need somebody to talk to who won't judge, I'm here. But man... edit that post.

 

[Martin709]

Thank you I appreciate that but nothing works for me so will seek married or swingers. I have no woman so therefore have no woman to lose.

 

[sks43]

Thank you I appreciate that but nothing works for me so will seek married or swingers. I have no woman so therefore have no woman to lose.

Not all women are that way. I'm a woman so I should know. Lol i for one hate to be generalized and Christopher can tell you that. You have to not force something and let it happen naturally.

 

[Martin709]

I must be one of the unfortunate ones then. I treat a woman good, help with her bills even though I have little money and everyone I have been with uses me. Seems the kind, caring and attractive ladies like the thug types that are handsome, rich and beat them. Crazy world I guess.

 

[Christopher2012]

I'm a tad bit pissed off right this second but I'll talk to you about how you can chill out and meet some nice people on here. Just let me calm down a bit.

Oooh Xanax, where are you?

 

[Martin709]

You shouldn't be pissed. If you don't like my post then don't involve yourself with it.

 

[sks43]

I must be one of the unfortunate ones then. I treat a woman good, help with her bills even though I have little money and everyone I have been with uses me. Seems the kind, caring and attractive ladies like the thug types that are handsome, rich and beat them. Crazy world I guess.

See you're generalizing again. Not all women are like that. Yes I agree there are women like that but maybe you are seeking the wrong woman for you.

 

[sks43]

You shouldn't be pissed. If you don't like my post then don't involve yourself with it.

He's not pissed at you. At least I don't think he is. Lol

 

[Martin709]

IDK but I didn't insult anyone but myself.

 

[Christopher2012]

edited out

 

[Martin709]

Sorry to hear that. Sounds she is not worth your time or energy.

 

[sks43]

Sorry to hear that. Sounds she is not worth your time or energy.

And you should say that for yourself about any woman that has used you. Fuck em, you'll find someone when you least expect it.

 

[LinusRules]

I must be one of the unfortunate ones then. I treat a woman good, help with her bills even though I have little money and everyone I have been with uses me. Seems the kind, caring and attractive ladies like the thug types that are handsome, rich and beat them. Crazy world I guess.

Only crappy people treat others like that which tells me you've been dating crappy people. Of course you made some comments in your original post that was less than complimentary about some of the women you've dated. As you suggest, maybe finding better prospects and you being more open-minded both will help.

 

[Christopher2012]

Sorry to hear that. Sounds she is not worth your time or energy.

I would put her on blast if she had more than 1 post.

Anyway, just give me some time. I will admit, I am not just slightly neurotic... I'm 100% neurotic. (Just don't black out drink and then call me that... like wtf?)

 

[Conager]

I think you are sincerely and objectively looking at your situation, your history and your apparent prospects.

Keep in mind, that desperation and neediness just are not attractive. I am not a huge fan of faking it, but a lot of life is putting your best foot forward and acting "as if."

Everyone, even handsome debonair men such as myself go through dry spells, rejections and failed attempts at various relationships. You can only tell who you click with by trying it out and unfortunately it takes some misses to figure that out.

Your availability is not generally seen as a plus. It's much better to at least look like a man who might have some options. People do not want to be responsible for kicking someone that is down, so they usually steer clear. Better not to start... then heap another rejection upon you.

I don't advocate treating women badly, but treating them well has no bearing at all on whether you are attractive to them. As I allude to above, it kind of works the opposite. The nicer you seem, the less they want to risk having to ultimately reject you after giving you a try. You have to somehow convey the air that you are a "nothing ventured, nothing gained kind of guy, that you really don't care whether they turn you down or not.

I don't know you, or what sort of girls you are trying for but a piece of advice is always try for the ones you, personally, find the most attractive as looney as that sounds. If you are "settling' because of your desperation, somehow they sense that and it does not go well. there is no such thing as a girl that is more attainable over another. You have to strike up a conversation with them all and see who responds. Talk to everyone, men too, so it does not look like you are just chatting up the ladies.

I wish you better luck.

 

[Martin709]

Thanks Conager. I tried your advice too, perhaps I am just cursed.

 

[sks43]

Thanks Conager. I tried your advice too, perhaps I am just cursed.

No you're not. That's silly talk. Lol but seriously Conager has a very good post right there.

 

[DesEsseintes]

Thanks Conager. I tried your advice too, perhaps I am just cursed.

This is a rarely discussed possibility. Have you consulted an augur, or at least looked in the entrails of a goose? Perhaps you have inadvertently angered a local wise woman?

As you say, you have nothing to lose. You may as well investigate.

 

[Conager]

This is a rarely discussed possibility. Have you consulted an augur, or at least looked in the entrails of a goose? Perhaps you have inadvertently angered a local wise woman?

As you say, you have nothing to lose. You may as well investigate.

Well, that was going to me my second suggestion. As far as my third suggestion, they don't call it the worlds oldest profession for nothing. He might find it cheaper and more esteem building to find a congenial professional to get back in the saddle, so to speak.

 

[sks43]

*sighs* I guess my being a woman and sticking up for other women doesn't help much so I am bowing out of the conversation. Good luck.

 

[LinusRules]

*sighs* I guess my being a woman and sticking up for other women doesn't help much so I am bowing out of the conversation. Good luck.

We're busy focusing on you ladies as the problem. It's you, not me. (At least we'll keep believing that)

 

[Martin709]

Well thank you for joining in but I have to say it is much easier to be woman as far as attacting the opposite sex or same sex for that matter. When my last two girlfriends dumped me they had another boyfriend within a week and my exes were not sexy at all.

 

[DesEsseintes]

*sighs* I guess my being a woman and sticking up for other women doesn't help much so I am bowing out of the conversation. Good luck.

Wait a minute. Did you just cast a spell behind your back?

 

[sks43]

Well thank you for joining in but I have to say it is much easier to bea woman as far as attacting the opposite sex or sane sex for that matter. When my last two girlfriends dumped me they had another boyfriend with a week and my exes were not sexy at all.

Lol women can be used just as much as men. Yes it is easier for us to interest a guy but once they get what they want then they are gone just as fast.

Because they already had another guy within a week doesn't mean he is in it for the long haul. Maybe he was looking for someone to use and she had the right amount of desperation he seeked?