lonely married btw

[curvyjae]

....??

 

[c669]

PM sent...

 

[allstarhockeynut]

Educated white BBW. 30 years old. English teacher. long curly hair. brown eyes. lonely though I'm sitting ten feet away from hubby. Want friendship and flirting via email.

pm sent

 

[red13502]

hi sexy!

 

[shc917]

hello

But friendship & flirting is always good ,
Its like doing & being naughty in limits specially with stranger
As you are teacher , I can learn lots of from you but sometimes teachersshould eager to learn new things

PS :- would love to be naughty friend of you
__________________

 

[8PointSika]

Educated white BBW. 30 years old. English teacher. long curly hair. brown eyes. lonely though I'm sitting ten feet away from hubby. Want friendship and flirting via email.

Intriguing.... so what do you do when you get horny after a good sexy email sitting 10ft away from the husband? I know what I do while in bed with the wife.......

 

[Lollygirl26]

Educated white BBW. 30 years old. English teacher. long curly hair. brown eyes. lonely though I'm sitting ten feet away from hubby. Want friendship and flirting via email.

I understand totally. In the same boat.

 

[jeninifer]

Educated white BBW. 30 years old. English teacher. long curly hair. brown eyes. lonely though I'm sitting ten feet away from hubby. Want friendship and flirting via email.

My friend, if there's anything I can tell you, it's that you deserve to fix this. I'm not sure what the fix is because I didn't do it. Just find it because his shit will not change.

Now I'm 39 years old and in the exact same place.

I'm here if you need a friend, srsly.

 

[cainm13]

You ladies that are in this situation. I just wonder what the cause is. I can only imagine your husband probably feels something similar??? They might be secretly on LIT just as you are. Now I don't know your situation and I apologize if I'm completely wrong here.

I'm not married and not in a relationship but if I were, I can't imagine leaving my 30 yr old wife feeling as such. If there was, I would think there is a communication barrier between us. Holding back what I or you want. I can see there being times when we each want to be left alone and not be nagged but if we were openly communicating, I would know how you feel and want. Don't hide or keep your feelings to yourself. Keeping and holding back, that's just doesn't make sense in a marriage. If you're already communicating, then find out what the problem is and try to work together to fix it.

If any of you ever wanted to talk, feel free to contact me.

 

[jeninifer]

You ladies that are in this situation. I just wonder what the cause is. I can only imagine your husband probably feels something similar??? They might be secretly on LIT just as you are. Now I don't know your situation and I apologize if I'm completely wrong here.

I'm not married and not in a relationship but if I were, I can't imagine leaving my 30 yr old wife feeling as such. If there was, I would think there is a communication barrier between us. Holding back what I or you want. I can see there being times when we each want to be left alone and not be nagged but if we were openly communicating, I would know how you feel and want. Don't hide or keep your feelings to yourself. Keeping and holding back, that's just doesn't make sense in a marriage. If you're already communicating, then find out what the problem is and try to work together to fix it.

If any of you ever wanted to talk, feel free to contact me.

I completely understand where you are coming from and it would be remiss of me not to see that side of it

Our sex life was normal up until we married. It wasn't the best sex I ever had, but it was sex with a man I loved. I also knew my drive was much stronger than his, something I'd never encountered. I knew his first marriage ended because he stopped having sex with his wife. I just never thought it would be the same with me.

Even in the beginning, when the intimacy started to wane, he said to me, "This isn't like what happened the first time." I believed him.

Then it started to cause fights. Once, I tried to initiate and he snapped at me and said, "Do you really want me to pretend that I want to do this just because YOU do?" I thought to myself, "Yes! Yes! That's exactly what I think I want you to do!" Instead, I rolled over and cried.

It only happened when he initiated and it was always gross "lovemaking," nothing spontaneous or raw or adventurous, which is the way I lean 95% of the time. Eventually, it stopped completely.

We rarely have any kind of cross word or argument. We get along great. We laugh so much, enjoy the same things, are career oriented, love to help each other out in our respective business worlds, financially secure, and have a really great network of friends.

I'm sure that it could seem as though I've done something to deserve this, but I am a fucking stellar wife. I am a great cook. I keep our home beautiful. I keep myself looking classy and beautiful. I'm funny and smart. He can take me to a business affair and always be proud. I know when to contribute and when to keep my mouth shut. I've even lost weight and adopted a healthier lifestyle and fitness routine in the recent years.

Have you heard that whole "Lady in the parlor, chef in the kitchen, whore in the bedroom" line? Well, that's me.

I've only been on the forums for a few weeks and it has really helped me. Not only finding people in like situations, but also people that recognize what I have to offer. It feels good to get a private message that says, "You know, your husband is stupid for not giving you the attention you need." Even though I don't respond to most of them, each one reminds me of the person I used to be.

I finally told my best friend about my situation this week. She was shocked, but supportive and has helped me put things into perspective.

So, right now, I'm thinking about how to approach my husband just before our 13 year wedding anniversary and tell him that I'm done. Then I have to figure out being on my own. Then I have to think about being a 40-something in the dating pool. This is not an easy position to be in.

 

[snoopydaddy59]

Educated white BBW. 30 years old. English teacher. long curly hair. brown eyes. lonely though I'm sitting ten feet away from hubby. Want friendship and flirting via email.

Sadly curvyjae, this is all to familiar!
Shall we commiserate together?

 

[fullservice65]

Wow. That's very insightful and, hopefully, helpful for a lot of folks - male and female.

As someone who hasn't had sex with his wife in eight years or so, I hear you, I feel tour pain, I'm on your planet.

Thanks for sharing. Stay brave.

I completely understand where you are coming from and it would be remiss of me not to see that side of it

Our sex life was normal up until we married. It wasn't the best sex I ever had, but it was sex with a man I loved. I also knew my drive was much stronger than his, something I'd never encountered. I knew his first marriage ended because he stopped having sex with his wife. I just never thought it would be the same with me.

Even in the beginning, when the intimacy started to wane, he said to me, "This isn't like what happened the first time." I believed him.

Then it started to cause fights. Once, I tried to initiate and he snapped at me and said, "Do you really want me to pretend that I want to do this just because YOU do?" I thought to myself, "Yes! Yes! That's exactly what I think I want you to do!" Instead, I rolled over and cried.

It only happened when he initiated and it was always gross "lovemaking," nothing spontaneous or raw or adventurous, which is the way I lean 95% of the time. Eventually, it stopped completely.

We rarely have any kind of cross word or argument. We get along great. We laugh so much, enjoy the same things, are career oriented, love to help each other out in our respective business worlds, financially secure, and have a really great network of friends.

I'm sure that it could seem as though I've done something to deserve this, but I am a fucking stellar wife. I am a great cook. I keep our home beautiful. I keep myself looking classy and beautiful. I'm funny and smart. He can take me to a business affair and always be proud. I know when to contribute and when to keep my mouth shut. I've even lost weight and adopted a healthier lifestyle and fitness routine in the recent years.

Have you heard that whole "Lady in the parlor, chef in the kitchen, whore in the bedroom" line? Well, that's me.

I've only been on the forums for a few weeks and it has really helped me. Not only finding people in like situations, but also people that recognize what I have to offer. It feels good to get a private message that says, "You know, your husband is stupid for not giving you the attention you need." Even though I don't respond to most of them, each one reminds me of the person I used to be.

I finally told my best friend about my situation this week. She was shocked, but supportive and has helped me put things into perspective.

So, right now, I'm thinking about how to approach my husband just before our 13 year wedding anniversary and tell him that I'm done. Then I have to figure out being on my own. Then I have to think about being a 40-something in the dating pool. This is not an easy position to be in.

 

[fullservice65]

But back to curvyjae ... Hi. *waving*

 

[jeninifer]

Curbyjae!

But back to curvyjae ... Hi. *waving*

Yes, curvyjae, I am so sorry to bogart your thread! I just kind of went off on a tangent.

This isn't about me. It's about us and I don't want you to make the same mistakes that I did.

I'm not saying that you have to leave your husband, but I just want you to do whatever it takes to fix this now.

 

[cainm13]

I completely understand where you are coming from and it would be remiss of me not to see that side of it

Our sex life was normal up until we married. It wasn't the best sex I ever had, but it was sex with a man I loved. I also knew my drive was much stronger than his, something I'd never encountered. I knew his first marriage ended because he stopped having sex with his wife. I just never thought it would be the same with me.

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Now, I don't know if we should be conversing about this here or take it privately. I don't want to steal curvyjae's thread from her. I'm just hoping this conversation is something that she finds helpful.

Honestly, based on what you have said. You truely sound great. And I agree with everyone, if you have done all you can and he is still unresponsive. He's a fool. I can understand the trouble you're having when the love is there but sex isn't. And you need the intimacy to be there.

Have you ask your hubby what will turn him on or change his thinking. Anything he wants to try? I know you've tried this and that, but have you asked him? As the saying goes, guys sex drive peak at 18 and women at 40. Guys are selfish, we want to cum and sadly, we can cum usually 1 time. When we cum, there is less of a sex drive, we then have to keep it hard for your pleasure. That's where foreplay comes along, best thing is not to let him cum and make him wanting. I would love to last hours for her pleasure if it was ever possible. Eating and fingering until she is satisfied. But again, guys are selfish. I understand the need to cum and not always be in the mood when she wants it. For her pleasure sometimes feels like a chore, again guys are selfish. If you haven't asked him, ask him what he wants, no matter how kinky. If you're up to it, this might be the last chance to save your marriage.

Again, honestly. Jeninifer, you sound like an awesome wife. I would do what needs doing to keep you mines. If I can't keep up with your sex drive. We would figure it out.

 

[jeninifer]

Now, I don't know if we should be conversing about this here or take it privately. I don't want to steal curvyjae's thread from her. I'm just hoping this conversation is something that she finds helpful.

Honestly, based on what you have said. You truely sound great. And I agree with everyone, if you have done all you can and he is still unresponsive. He's a fool. I can understand the trouble you're having when the love is there but sex isn't. And you need the intimacy to be there.

Have you ask your hubby what will turn him on or change his thinking. Anything he wants to try? I know you've tried this and that, but have you asked him? As the saying goes, guys sex drive peak at 18 and women at 40. Guys are selfish, we want to cum and sadly, we can cum usually 1 time. When we cum, there is less of a sex drive, we then have to keep it hard for your pleasure. That's where foreplay comes along, best thing is not to let him come and make him wanting. I would love to last hours for her pleasure if it was ever possible. Eating and fingering until she is satisfied. But again, guys are selfish. I understand the need to cum and not always be in the mood when she wants it. For her pleasure sometimes feels like a chore, again guys are selfish. If you haven't asked him, ask him what he wants, no matter how kinky. If you're up to it, this might be the last chance to save your marriage.

Again, honestly. Jeninifer, you sound like an awesome wife. I would do what needs doing to keep you mines. If I can't keep up with your sex drive. We would figure it out.

It's okay. I'm fine. We don't have to continue at all.

The love isn't there anymore.

I'm 39 and he's 49. I completely wasted my sexual prime and now he'll probably need Viagra.

 

[hellonwheels89128]

It's okay. I'm fine. We don't have to continue at all.

The love isn't there anymore.

I'm 39 and he's 49. I completely wasted my sexual prime and now he'll probably need Viagra.

don't feel bad...plenty of women i have seen in their forties were way sexier than the younger women

 

[teocan]

Educated white BBW. 30 years old. English teacher. long curly hair. brown eyes. lonely though I'm sitting ten feet away from hubby. Want friendship and flirting via email.

i would love to chat with you. mateo here

 

[bigdentate]

I'm not sure why you can't have both. For instance if you stayed with someone you knew and trusted and get along very well with, but had something on the side to satisfy your sexual needs. With the right partner you could even discuss it, depending on your situation. I find it's rare to find one individual who satisfies in every realm.

 

[Cubantripod]

Similar boat here. Mid 30s male. No connection anymore with the wife. She lets our almost 4 year old take over the tv all day. Then when she goes to sleep, she's catching up on her shows. Then she's mad I'm online all day. I'm not watching Mickey Mouse for the umpteenth time and I don't like some of your shows. Then she's too tired to have sex later. I'm at the point where I don't even try anymore. To get rejected sexually, who cares. She says I don't give her the intimacy she wants, but why should I if I'm not getting the physical I need. Sometimes I wonder if I should have gotten married. When we were dating it was great. Crazy hot sex all the time. We moved in together and it all of a sudden took a hit for no reason. It continues to get worse and worse and I'm at the point where i just don't give a shit anymore. She says she's trying to figure out why it died, but she can't. I think I'm just here for the kids at this point.

 

[itgoeslikethis1]

I completely understand where you are coming from and it would be remiss of me not to see that side of it

Our sex life was normal up until we married. It wasn't the best sex I ever had, but it was sex with a man I loved. I also knew my drive was much stronger than his, something I'd never encountered. I knew his first marriage ended because he stopped having sex with his wife. I just never thought it would be the same with me.

Even in the beginning, when the intimacy started to wane, he said to me, "This isn't like what happened the first time." I believed him.

Then it started to cause fights. Once, I tried to initiate and he snapped at me and said, "Do you really want me to pretend that I want to do this just because YOU do?" I thought to myself, "Yes! Yes! That's exactly what I think I want you to do!" Instead, I rolled over and cried.

It only happened when he initiated and it was always gross "lovemaking," nothing spontaneous or raw or adventurous, which is the way I lean 95% of the time. Eventually, it stopped completely.

We rarely have any kind of cross word or argument. We get along great. We laugh so much, enjoy the same things, are career oriented, love to help each other out in our respective business worlds, financially secure, and have a really great network of friends.

I'm sure that it could seem as though I've done something to deserve this, but I am a fucking stellar wife. I am a great cook. I keep our home beautiful. I keep myself looking classy and beautiful. I'm funny and smart. He can take me to a business affair and always be proud. I know when to contribute and when to keep my mouth shut. I've even lost weight and adopted a healthier lifestyle and fitness routine in the recent years.

Have you heard that whole "Lady in the parlor, chef in the kitchen, whore in the bedroom" line? Well, that's me.

I've only been on the forums for a few weeks and it has really helped me. Not only finding people in like situations, but also people that recognize what I have to offer. It feels good to get a private message that says, "You know, your husband is stupid for not giving you the attention you need." Even though I don't respond to most of them, each one reminds me of the person I used to be.

I finally told my best friend about my situation this week. She was shocked, but supportive and has helped me put things into perspective.

So, right now, I'm thinking about how to approach my husband just before our 13 year wedding anniversary and tell him that I'm done. Then I have to figure out being on my own. Then I have to think about being a 40-something in the dating pool. This is not an easy position to be in.

So i read what you wrote and it hit home. Specifically it hit me. I've been married a little over three years and together for almost 10. Things are and always have been really normal and good. We are both hard working, smart and funny. We make each other laugh and approach life like a tag team. All good qualities i think. She is in shape and has the body type i'm into yet i know i've been lacking in the bedroom. Not performance wise as i think i nail (no pun intended) that when it happens. But in the frequency dept. I just don't have sex with her anymore. We're both under 30 and her sex drive is much higher than mine but mine is not dead. I just don't fuck her and i don't know why. I know it can lead to problems similar to what you are going through and that scares me and makes me sad and mad at myself. You probably are a kick ass wife and go above and beyond more so then other woman yet you get none. It's strange because you're coming from one end and I'm on the other. Ugh i don't know.

 

[jeninifer]

So i read what you wrote and it hit home. Specifically it hit me. I've been married a little over three years and together for almost 10. Things are and always have been really normal and good. We are both hard working, smart and funny. We make each other laugh and approach life like a tag team. All good qualities i think. She is in shape and has the body type i'm into yet i know i've been lacking in the bedroom. Not performance wise as i think i nail (no pun intended) that when it happens. But in the frequency dept. I just don't have sex with her anymore. We're both under 30 and her sex drive is much higher than mine but mine is not dead. I just don't fuck her and i don't know why. I know it can lead to problems similar to what you are going through and that scares me and makes me sad and mad at myself. You probably are a kick ass wife and go above and beyond more so then other woman yet you get none. It's strange because you're coming from one end and I'm on the other. Ugh i don't know.

This breaks my heart.

At least you can fix it. You're young. Figure it out.

Maybe its physical. Maybe its mental. Either way, there's sure to be a fix for you.

Don't let it get to where I am and all she can think about is leaving you, but can't quite figure out how.

 

[itgoeslikethis1]

This breaks my heart.

At least you can fix it. You're young. Figure it out.

Maybe its physical. Maybe its mental. Either way, there's sure to be a fix for you.

Don't let it get to where I am and all she can think about is leaving you, but can't quite figure out how.

I agree. I've known this for a while but reading your post really hammered it home. I think its mental. I'm sorry you're in the position you are, its not fair.

 

[jeninifer]

I agree. I've known this for a while but reading your post really hammered it home. I think its mental. I'm sorry you're in the position you are, its not fair.

Well, I'm glad I made a lil bit of a difference.

 

[itgoeslikethis1]

Well, I'm glad I made a lil bit of a difference.

Absolutely. Thank you.