[London, UK] Gentle M Dom seeks F sub for nurturing and play

[Mindfondler]

I might as well replicate here the personals advert that I've just posted on Fetlife in the "Classified! Male Dom Types Seeking female sub Types" group. Mrs MF previously ran a joint advert that drew interest from several male subs but no female subs, so I've targetted the latter with my own advert as here.

Any nibbles of interest or items of constructive feedback are most welcome!

Note: I've subsequently updated and re-titled the Fetlife advert to include more reassurances, safety clauses and additional helpful information. The original version is still below, but it didn't receive any responses. You can read the new version here.​

Who might you be?

• You are a young lady in or around London, UK (or possibly online).
• Perhaps you are already accomplished and independent, but you feel that something is missing.
• You are aware that you have a submissive side but you lack the means to express it.
• You would like to explore submission more, but without entering a new full-on physical relationship.
• Maybe you are curious about your local BDSM community but anxious about approaching it on your own.

Who am I?

I'm the male half of a kinky couple from London. I've been exploring BDSM with my wife for just over a year, and we're now seeking to branch out in new directions, both together and independently.

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My motivation

Let me be clear: I am not seeking to have sex with you! I have no need for that. The pleasure that I seek here stems more from the meeting of minds than physical aspects. Allow me to explain...

I'm a gentle, caring guy who gets fulfilment from nurturing others: helping them to grow and to learn to fly for themselves. It takes time to build trust, understanding and confidence to that level, but I'm patient. I don't pretend to have all of the answers, but I'm a keen researcher. I'm good at listening, encouraging and challenging (and I can also be wicked!).

With this in mind, I'd love to help a lady sub to explore and express her submissive side safely and gleefully, with a blend of physical play and mind fondling! Let me inside your head and I'll do my best to unlock the mysteries inside!

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Interested? Want to know more? (modified for Lit forum readers)

• Check out my profile
• Visit the Meet Mr and Mrs MF thread
• Read our joint personals advert
• Get in touch! I'd love to hear from you.

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[SunlitAsrai18]

I am curious if you would be fine with receiving a PM from me? There are parts in your advertisement that resonates with me.

 

[Mindfondler]

I am curious if you would be fine with receiving a PM from me? There are parts in your advertisement that resonates with me.

You are most welcome to send me a PM, as is anyone else who has anything constructive to say.

Having said that, I've read your other postings and I'm not sure what I can possibly offer you, given my constraints and the ones that you have expressed. I'm happy to try to offer advice from my personal perspective and experience (I'm not a definitive source!) but I don't think that's what you're looking for.
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[SunlitAsrai18]

Thank you. I was hopeful about two things, your location and the fact that you and your wife are in this together. I am figuring out a buddy list. I shall PM you once I sort this out.

 

[Mindfondler]

Thank you. I was hopeful about two things, your location and the fact that you and your wife are in this together. I am figuring out a buddy list. I shall PM you once I sort this out.

Thanks! Mrs MF and I would be delighted to hear further from you and offer you our thoughts.

I'm glad that you're taking the time to think through what you're looking for. A recurring theme from our personals adverts that someone who initially responds enthusiastically suddenly gets cold feet and backs off.

From conversations with others in the community, we gather that these reversals are likely to be due to the shock of the dawning of a possible reality on something that was previously just a fantasy. Regardless of how friendly and welcoming Mrs MF and I are in real life, a familiar fantasy inevitably remains a "safer" option.
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