Lit Relationships

[Icekiller56]

I joined lit about 2 years ago, and I ended up meeting someone to talk to. Over the next few months we kept talking and started a relationship. We're on the opposite sides of the world, so it's hard to see each other.

We have met up with each other 3 times so far, and talk every day. We plan on me moving to her and get married. I was wondering if anyone else has a similar story. We certainly can't be the only ones.

 

[BDA73]

Good luck

 

[Liberia]

I joined lit about 2 years ago, and I ended up meeting someone to talk to. Over the next few months we kept talking and started a relationship. We're on the opposite sides of the world, so it's hard to see each other.

We have met up with each other 3 times so far, and talk every day. We plan on me moving to her and get married. I was wondering if anyone else has a similar story. We certainly can't be the only ones.

A very good friend had the exact same thing happening to her, only it was reddit. They have been happily together for 8 years now and been married for a few. They also had to move continents. It happens.

Love is love. I would recommend staying together in the same place for a few weeks and first having separate places to live first though.

I also have personally experience with meeting someone online and then it turning into something more, with 8 hours distance only though. You can pm me if you want to talk about it.

All the best for you two! ♡

 

[butters]

I joined lit about 2 years ago, and I ended up meeting someone to talk to. Over the next few months we kept talking and started a relationship. We're on the opposite sides of the world, so it's hard to see each other.

We have met up with each other 3 times so far, and talk every day. We plan on me moving to her and get married. I was wondering if anyone else has a similar story. We certainly can't be the only ones.

I met my husband here on Lit, on the poetry board... working through the logistics of getting my adult teen/twenties into their own places, getting a first passport at my age, going through all the long, expensive and convoluted system of moving to the U.S to get married (a 90-day fiancee visa) took years. We actually only met once in person before I moved to America, but talked every day.

Make sure you both document with lots of photos when you are together as that's part of the process they use to establish and was a problem for us older pair since we didn't realise and though I had photos of him in London and he had some of me, neither of us even thought about asking someone else to take pics with us BOTH in.

Eventually, fully sure of our plans, I got here and we married within the month.

No matter how long you have spent speaking to eachother, you never truly know a person properly till you've lived with them. It involves cooperation, understanding, a willingness to work together on issues that WILL crop up. My best advice is to fully discuss, in detail, your individual attitudes towards issues that matter to you both: for example, I'm a grandmother and he's a grandad, so raising our own babies wasn't an issue. Discuss things like the country's politics and how they match or clash with your own, health system taxes, insurance, housing, what would happen if you broke up, any matters like health problems and past histories that would impact on you. NOT romantic, talking through that stuff, and we didn't do much of it but I now wish I had so I knew better what I was getting myself into. I did know we were politically around the same place, and his heart and mind were why I loved him. I would have NEVER EVER desired to move to America if it wasn't for him.

I do not regret moving here or getting married. We've been married over 8 years now but it's not all been roses and chocolates and sex. Being older has possibly made it easier to find our personal compromises, but I wish someone had given me even half of this advice before I'd moved. Oh, and for all the above, it's only gonna count if you are both 100% honest... a lot of people in this situation have found there's a huge chasm between what they understood through what they were told and the reality. Really try to get to know eachother, at an intimately cerebral level and I hope love works out for you.