LTMMC
Really Experienced
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- Jul 19, 2020
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I hope all my experiences over the last four or five months have been atypical. Or that I have been an exceptionally unlucky fellow. Why? Because no conversation that got started lately, including with what seemed to be very sweet women, got anywhere at all.
Most disturbing I found is that some of them seemed to take off alright in the beginning. Not all by far, but some of them. And that seems really disappointing; you feel you are on the same wavelength with somebody, and then pouffff! Now I am not naïve and believe that every two people who begin talking must end up in a virtual bed together and live on happily with one another from this point on. But it seems for some newly found almost-couples, that should in fact be happening.
Considering what some women and some men here look for is a very understandable yearning for meaningful companionships. Not limited to sex only. So how come I have been so unlucky? Could it be – maybe – because more women than I would like to believe are plain scared to jump into a relationship, when one seems within reach?
I recall two such situations – a long time ago – when a real-life meeting became immanent, after a lot of mails back and forth. Situations when I blamed the failure to continue on her getting scared, and in another case me getting scared. Scared of the possibility of an "illicit" meeting consuming too much of us; more than we were prepared to invest in each other.
But why should that happen with a virtual-only relationship? After all, no RL meetings are contemplated, only at best an exchange of love letters. Can that become scary really? I wonder what you all think about this question, which has been bothering me a lot?
Most disturbing I found is that some of them seemed to take off alright in the beginning. Not all by far, but some of them. And that seems really disappointing; you feel you are on the same wavelength with somebody, and then pouffff! Now I am not naïve and believe that every two people who begin talking must end up in a virtual bed together and live on happily with one another from this point on. But it seems for some newly found almost-couples, that should in fact be happening.
Considering what some women and some men here look for is a very understandable yearning for meaningful companionships. Not limited to sex only. So how come I have been so unlucky? Could it be – maybe – because more women than I would like to believe are plain scared to jump into a relationship, when one seems within reach?
I recall two such situations – a long time ago – when a real-life meeting became immanent, after a lot of mails back and forth. Situations when I blamed the failure to continue on her getting scared, and in another case me getting scared. Scared of the possibility of an "illicit" meeting consuming too much of us; more than we were prepared to invest in each other.
But why should that happen with a virtual-only relationship? After all, no RL meetings are contemplated, only at best an exchange of love letters. Can that become scary really? I wonder what you all think about this question, which has been bothering me a lot?