Lit Crushes

[EK4321]

I am willing to bet that most people here have had a Lit crush. I have read that a few of these have led to long term relationships but would assume that most never do, whether as a result of distance, incompatibility, one or both parties being married etc.

How though do you deal with a Lit crush when it's over? Especially a long term, very intense Lit crush. Do you just walk away and never post to that person again, do you carry on as if nothing was ever between you. How do you deal when your heart is in pain?

 

[DirtyKitten]

How do you deal with it when you have a real life crush that breaks up??

 

[vibes]

How do you deal with it when you have a real life crush that breaks up??

bad, i guess ... you try to cope + play cool but ...

couldn't have chosen a better day to ask this one

 

[ManOSafety]

I learned the dangers of a Lit crush the hard way years ago. I think, in my case, one of the things that made it difficult, but also made it easier, was the fact that the reason the crush ended was because our communications were threatening her marriage. Even though neither of us, intended it that way, her husband felt threatened. Because of this, at first when she told me we had to stop it was hard to accept, I mean, we weren't doing anything that he should have felt threatened about. But then again, I didn't want to be a part of someone's marriage being messed up, so that also made it easier.

But, anyway, it hurt for awhile to look for PMs or threads or posts to existing threads and to realize that it wasn't going to happen. Eventually, I drifted away from Lit for awhile, I suppose through my absence and inability to see that things were missing I hoped to cure myself of my crush.

So, that's my story, at least the short version of it.

 

[MC1969]

Badly

I had a major MAJOR crush/ relationship with a gal on here...until her husband found out. It was intense and was getting real close to being physically intense (and not just me in one room and her in another masturbating together over net/phone- the real deal physical.)
I took it badly. I didn't come back here for almost a year and now that I am back I sputter- I've tried to set something up with others but haven't come close. It's very hard (just like in our real life world) to set up a good relationship- sexy fulfilling etc. It's almost harder to lose these types of relationships as they, at least to me, represent potential fantasies coming true.

 

[magicalhands]

bad, i guess ... you try to cope + play cool but ...

couldn't have chosen a better day to ask this one

Oh sooo... true.

 

[INeedLove]

One of the reasons I don't carry on with married men is the potential heartbreak for me, him and/or his spouse. Also because my ex cheated on me ('nuff said about that for now). I just want to avoid being put in a situation that compromises another person.

Online/Lit crushes and r/l crushes are much the same. You have to grieve and then move on eventually. Still hurts either way. Good luck!

 

[EK4321]

How do you deal with it when you have a real life crush that breaks up??

I guess it makes me wonder-are they real? Do you actually know if anything even was real? Or was it just made up fantasey on the other persons end?

 

[vibes]

I guess it makes me wonder-are they real? Do you actually know if anything even was real? Or was it just made up fantasey on the other persons end?

that's what burns and that's the difference with r/l, most of the times

 

[MC1969]

Rough One

Yes, it is a rough situation. I love my wife/marriage- but I'm also kind of a dirty little fucker (like most men I assume) and I feel a need to use that naughty energy- the Lit relationship I had was letting me do that.
I was safe- she was careless. That was the problem. I don't feel it was threatening my marriage as everything was and is copasetic.
So I guess what I'm saying is; don't count out married men- just screen carefully. Some of us can be discreet.

 

[RawHumor]

Let's define terms here - a crush isn't usually mutual.

 

[DirtyKitten]

I guess it makes me wonder-are they real? Do you actually know if anything even was real? Or was it just made up fantasey on the other persons end?

Its a hard question to answer, but as someone said above, you just have grieve, heal and move on.


Good luck.

 

[vibes]

Its a hard question to answer, but as someone said above, you just have grieve, heal and move on.

the hard bit is the question won't be answered

raw is right ... but i think we're all more or less referring to what appeared as a mutual relationship

 

[Hans_Wurst]

tis better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all....

But then again, relationships in death throes really do suck

 

[EK4321]

the hard bit is the question won't be answered

Peoples feelings are easy to play with online That's the sad thing.

So who's had a lit crush and looking back was it imagined or real?

 

[King of Dreams]

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