List of things Dommes do to Subs...

[Peter_Face]

I have a lady-friend that has expressed interest in being a Domme. She knows I am a horny little bastard and am willing to do anything. I have told her she can practice/train on me.

Can someone make a list of things Dommes do please?

 

[Peter_Face]

A link to a thread or offsite is fine. I just need a really comprehensive list.

 

[Stella_Omega]

try this book list;
http://astore.amazon.com/wwwpowerexcha-20

Try this google search:
https://www.google.com/search?q=BDSM checklists

I'm betting that you are not really talking about Domming and subbing. You are not subservient to her, you are being done unto-- getting lots and lots of attention paid to you. We call that "Topping" and "Bottoming." These are terms that most of the hetero kink community has never learned, which is a shame.

BDSM is not a one-way street. While she is doing things to you, you are making her happy-- how will you show her how much you appreciate her attentions?

Also, think about what you want to do FOR HER. She's going to be putting a lot of effort into you!

 

[Peter_Face]

Thanks for the info.

I'm betting that you are not really talking about Domming and subbing.

No, she is going to be the Domme, she wants to wear a sexy Domme suit and push me around with a riding crop and make me serve her, with (from the sound of it) no reward except being able to bring her pleasure and service.

 

[Peter_Face]

She wants to tie me up and is curious to see how much genitorture I can take.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sounds like you guys will have a great time!

On the subject of genitorture, please be aware that your balls can take a hella lotta punishment BUT!

NEVER pull the skin at the front of your sac, away from the testicle inside the sac.

DON'T do that. There is a ligament that keeps your testicle from swinging around and turning and strangulating the sperm duct -- which then becomes an Emergency Room matter in only a few days.

Got it?

Do you know about safe words and all of that?

 

[njlauren]

Peter-

If you are serious, there are some really, really good books and advice out there for you and your lady/domme to be. Somethings you obviously don't need much training for, dressing up sexy and making you serve her needs is pretty easy, obviously, and it doesn't take a PHd to do things like spanking, not likely to cause damage and such. It also depends on what you are planning and what level you take this..is this going to exist as part of occasional play, are you a live in couple looking to do this more seriously? There are all kinds of levels with this, only you guys can decide that.

One of the best sources for BD/SM books is greenery press, they have had and continue to have some marvelous books that talk about play, about how to get someone to domme you, and so forth....really sound advice. Another book I found helpful many years ago (that is still in print) is "Different Loving' by Gloria Braeme (spelling)..she also has a decent website that has info as well, she is lifestyle and is also a licenses therapist as well.......

One of the neatest things is to explore this where both partners are new, it is an incredible experience if mine holds true, watching someone else come alive and then take over as your domme.

There are some important things to consider, both of you need to decide on limits, what you want out of it. If you decide to make this a 24/7 thing (yeah, I am well ahead of things prob) it is a very different world then just doing it in play......one of the key words about bd/sm, more then even vanilla relationships, is communications...it is very easy for an eager sub to push a domme to be into doing things she isn't ready for or wants to do (take it from me, saying things like "you know, this is great, but it will be even better when you get to X point" isn't smart, I earned some nasty punishments for stupidity like that). If it is just going to be play, then that is different, way different, if it ends at the end of a play session or whatever.
A really good way might be to find a local group, they do lunch or dinner get togethers called munches tht can help you talk to others, and most areas have BD/SM groups or at least close enough to get to occasionally that offer all kinds of classes and such to learn about various aspects of play, and they also hold parties and such where you can see how others do it then figure out what you want/need.

 

[huntersangel]

a perfectly enlightening thread

and the guy above me screws it up! peter, you sound like a great guy, i wish you and your lady friend good times!

the guy above me at the time this was posted was a spamer, his posts were deleted. not directed to njlauren's post.