Linked In is raiding my garbage, my phone, my memory

[LadyFunkenstein]

Has anyone else noticed just how aggressively invasive these social media sties have become?

I clicked on "People You May Know" and it showed someone who is not professionally connected to me in any way shape or form, the last person whose face I want to see. A person who I deleted from my life, contacts, phone etc: my ex boyfriend who dumped me last year. Brutally and abruptly dumped me. An no, I am not over it.

 

[Que]

I have no idea how it works but I can be near someone today, as in proximate, and see them in suggested friends tomorrow. This happens in the grocer store, bars.

I guy I cannot stand showed up in that suggestions for about 6 months after running into him in the bar.

I could not figure out how to have it stop suggesting him short of friending, then blocking.

 

[lovetoread]

It keeps suggesting I link to my ex husband.

I do not understand this as we are not even in the same profession.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

This is why I avoid social media. I like being a ghost.

Just about every employer out there wants to see your Facebook / LinkedIn presence and if you don't have one they think you're an unskilled Luddite shut-in misfit.

I'm retired. The rest of you are right fucked. You're one drunken karaoke night away from being fired and blacklisted. All because of this social media crap.

 

[pointless]

facebook does this to me all the time. it's one of the reasons i hate it and barely use it.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

It keeps suggesting I link to my ex husband.

I do not understand this as we are not even in the same profession.

Do you think it can mean that he looked at your profile?

 

[trysail]

Has anyone else noticed just how aggressively invasive these social media sties have become?

I clicked on "People You May Know" and it showed someone who is not professionally connected to me in any way shape or form, the last person whose face I want to see. A person who I deleted from my life, contacts, phone etc: my ex boyfriend who dumped me last year. Brutally and abruptly dumped me. An no, I am not over it.

I hate the soi-disant "social networking" websites.

Not only are they invasive, they're also extremely manipulative and an enormous waste of time. Their invasiveness and the potential for loss of privacy (aiding and abetting identity theft) is the icing on the cake.

I won't have anything to do with 'em. They're awful.



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[LadyFunkenstein]

This is why I avoid social media. I like being a ghost.

Just about every employer out there wants to see your Facebook / LinkedIn presence and if you don't have one they think you're an unskilled Luddite shut-in misfit.

I'm retired. The rest of you are right fucked. You're one drunken karaoke night away from being fired and blacklisted. All because of this social media crap.

I get pretty good job opportunities from Linked in; in fact my current job is a direct result of a Linkedin connection as opposed to a job listing. If what you do is specialized, Linkedin is a great resource.

I am not worried about getting fired thanks to a drunken night of karaoke. I am in sales, and when it comes to the sales department, no one wants to know how the sausage gets made.

 

[lovetoread]

Do you think it can mean that he looked at your profile?

I would hope he didn't. We have not spoken in years.

But I have not linked my linked in info with my personal FB, nor my business one, so it has to be getting the info from my phone.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

facebook does this to me all the time. it's one of the reasons i hate it and barely use it.

I feel the same about Facebook. I am on there but have very few "friends". I had a temporary roomate out of town, FB suggested him. Very annoying. Also that dude I am shagging got on my wifi for the first time last week, and now FB makes everything he does appear in my feed. It's ridiculous.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

I would hope he didn't. We have not spoken in years.

But I have not linked my linked in info with my personal FB, nor my business one, so it has to be getting the info from my phone.

(I remember your ex.)
Is he still saved as a contact in your phone?

 

[lovetoread]

(I remember your ex.)
Is he still saved as a contact in your phone?

That one is, but I was referring to my ex husband.

The ex-hub is a policeman, I fix computers.

There is no way we can even come up in the same realm.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

That one is, but I was referring to my ex husband.

The ex-hub is a policeman, I fix computers.

There is no way we can even come up in the same realm.

So your ex husband isn't even saved as a contact? Was he ever? It's all so oddly annoying.

 

[phrodeau]

If it can detect acquaintances by proximity, it should be able to give off an alarm whenever they get too close.

 

[Brollyanna]

I think that the suggestions are made because the person has your email address and has used their contact list as a way to find people they might know.

I suppose the way around that is to use a special email (that nobody else has) for social networking.

 

[Pairaclities]

So your ex husband isn't even saved as a contact? Was he ever? It's all so oddly annoying.

If the ex looks at the others profile, then LI will send messages to ask if this is a person you might want to connect with.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

I think that the suggestions are made because the person has your email address and has used their contact list as a way to find people they might know.

I suppose the way around that is to use a special email (that nobody else has) for social networking.

That certainly is a possibility, he does have that email address. (I use a different one for facebook). But he barely uses Linked in so I don't see why he is being suggested 9 months after giving me the boot. I would click on his profile to see if he is starting to use Linkedin more heavily but I don't want him to know that I did. Because I am childish and immature, and still hurt.

 

[evesdream]

I think that the suggestions are made because the person has your email address and has used their contact list as a way to find people they might know.

I suppose the way around that is to use a special email (that nobody else has) for social networking.

I think this plan goes to shit the minute you log-in to* social media using your smart phone.

My sooper secret, locked Lit Twitter account which is linked to an email address made solely for that purpose, decided out of the blue to suggest that I follow the account of the first boy I kissed in high school.


(*log-in to, or log into? login to?)

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

If the ex looks at the others profile, then LI will send messages to ask if this is a person you might want to connect with.

So what you are saying is, this dude is still in love with me and stares at my profile pining away? And that any day now he will come crawling back on his hands and knees, begging for my forgiveness?

 

[Littlefinger]

My dad is like that. Says FB is a time waster and he goes on a long didactic explanation of how many people are in his feed that he doesn't give a rats ass about and how he could sit there for hours just scrolling through bullshit. I told him "Next time, skip the theatrics and just say you don't use it because you don't know how; you've basically said the same thing with that long explanation."

Nobody shows up in my feed that I don't care about and I've even got a separate, even smaller list of people that I allow notifications for(you know, that little globe icon at the top of the page where red numbers sometimes appear to let you know when they've posted or commented on something). I separate contacts into lists, like Coworkers and Customers and Family, so when I post about how awesome balls are, I can go to the "custom" setting for the post and decide automatically who gets to see it or not(although I rarely censor myself, since the whole point is to connect with people I know). None of my friends list is anybody that I do not know or do not interact with on a semi-regular basis in real life. There are a small few but generally I don't keep in contact with old friends. We don't hang out anymore. What we had was great. It's done. I'm someone else now.

There's this one girl I work with who is constantly posting selfies of herself and she'll ask me the next day at work, "Did you see the pic I posted on FB?" looking for validation. She is still in my friends list(because it would be damaging to my relationship with her to simply block her) but she shows up in neither my notifications nor my feed. And FB allows you to do that. Because of drama in my past when I first signed up to the thing, learning how to block people was one of the first things I did. Anybody shows up in my suggested list, I say "thank you, FB; now I remember, I dislike that person" and I copy the name and stick it in the block list if it bothers me that much.

I don't know about LinkedIn but if it does not allow you to do these things for convenience, then I'd say it's less superior to FB in that regard.

 

[duranman]

You can actually get some excellent shags via LinkedIn..

 

[evesdream]

Adding to what I said above - I've never logged into the unique email account on my phone, but I've logged into the "Lit" Twitter account on a phone that is logged into my personal Gmail account. Somehow, that got all the threads tangled up.

 

[JohnnySavage]

About half of my business comes from people looking me up on LinkedIn. It's free advertising that's paid for itself many times over.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

My dad is like that. Says FB is a time waster and he goes on a long didactic explanation of how many people are in his feed that he doesn't give a rats ass about and how he could sit there for hours just scrolling through bullshit. I told him "Next time, skip the theatrics and just say you don't use it because you don't know how; you've basically said the same thing with that long explanation."

Nobody shows up in my feed that I don't care about and I've even got a separate, even smaller list of people that I allow notifications for(you know, that little globe icon at the top of the page where red numbers sometimes appear to let you know when they've posted or commented on something). I separate contacts into lists, like Coworkers and Customers and Family, so when I post about how awesome balls are, I can go to the "custom" setting for the post and decide automatically who gets to see it or not(although I rarely censor myself, since the whole point is to connect with people I know). None of my friends list is anybody that I do not know or do not interact with on a semi-regular basis in real life. There are a small few but generally I don't keep in contact with old friends. We don't hang out anymore. What we had was great. It's done. I'm someone else now.

There's this one girl I work with who is constantly posting selfies of herself and she'll ask me the next day at work, "Did you see the pic I posted on FB?" looking for validation. She is still in my friends list(because it would be damaging to my relationship with her to simply block her) but she shows up in neither my notifications nor my feed. And FB allows you to do that. Because of drama in my past when I first signed up to the thing, learning how to block people was one of the first things I did. Anybody shows up in my suggested list, I say "thank you, FB; now I remember, I dislike that person" and I copy the name and stick it in the block list if it bothers me that much.

I don't know about LinkedIn but if it does not allow you to do these things for convenience, then I'd say it's less superior to FB in that regard.

This is too much work for me. The only people on my FB are close friends, family, and a few people I fuck/have fucked & would like to fuck again. No co workers. No customers. No need to customize anything.

 

[Littlefinger]

Also that dude I am shagging got on my wifi for the first time last week, and now FB makes everything he does appear in my feed. It's ridiculous.

This is too much work for me. The only people on my FB are close friends, family, and a few people I fuck/have fucked & would like to fuck again. No co workers. No customers. No need to customize anything.

Ok.