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[KerrBear85]

My husband likes things in his arse. He's kidnapped and officially molested Blacky ~gasp~, so I know he's enjoying himself alone with the toys. I greatly enjoy butt play with a man, especially while 69. However, every time I try to use a strap-on with my hubs, he loses his hard on. He's enjoying it, has told me he's enjoying it, but for some reason he can't keep it up when I'm playing with him. Apparently he does not have this issue when he's doing it to himself. My husband losing his hard on is NOT normal, he generally outlasts me so this is very odd and I'm not sure how to help him overcome this. What's odd is that there are times where he tells me he's close to cumming but he can't and his cock isn't even hard. It's so weird. I'm not sure how to fix this, but it would be rad if he could get that thing thick and throbbing while I'm playing the dominate role.

 

[biggee163]

Interesting, I am partial to a bit of play in this area, and I like your guy have the same 'problem'.....

From my point of view, I get an enormous head rush when my prostate is massaged, but I think that my almost immediate lose of my hard on is likely due to being unable to concentrate on two wonderful things at once

Remember, we men are unable to multi-task - apparently.

I have a couple of gay friends and am trying to summon up the courage to ask them the same question - and to see how they 'handle it'........

 

[infinity706]

Honestly, if you can stay hard while getting fucked in the ass, you're probably not doing it well enough. As for why that happens, I'd assume it's because the back end of the penis is pretty close to the prostate and pressing on it causes problems for the system that traps blood in the guy's dick. I've fucked a ton of guys and it generally happens with any kind of intense anal stimulation whether it's fingers, toys, or a real cock. I don't stay hard during anal play, either.

 

[KerrBear85]

Honestly, if you can stay hard while getting fucked in the ass, you're probably not doing it well enough. As for why that happens, I'd assume it's because the back end of the penis is pretty close to the prostate and pressing on it causes problems for the system that traps blood in the guy's dick. I've fucked a ton of guys and it generally happens with any kind of intense anal stimulation whether it's fingers, toys, or a real cock. I don't stay hard during anal play, either.

Then how come the guys in gay porn (and I watch a lot of it) can stay hard? Practice?

 

[human_male]

You write the hottest posts.

I have the same issue (for lack of a better word). I've heard the same thing from other guys who like butt play. I think it may have something to do with taking the female role. Or that an errection isn't required so it just goes down. I dunno, but I can't imagine it's from anything you're doing, or not doing. And if he's enjoying it why worry about it? He can still cum even if he's soft. I do when I'm doing that.

An errection isn't always a sign of arousal, and a lack of one isn't always a sign of lack of arousal.

I know this doesn't help since you want him to have one for the awesomeness factor. Maybe try some chemical assistance. I got some free viagra from the doctor. You just ask for some free samples (they come in 100mg pills, and you just need half of one).

Gee, this is kind of embarrassing. It's a good thing no one reads my posts.

 

[infinity706]

Then how come the guys in gay porn (and I watch a lot of it) can stay hard? Practice?

No, it would be because pornstars are cheaters. A porn film isn't shot all at once most of the time. It has so many cutaways because they edit it together. Pornstars take Viagra and jerk off quite a bit off camera to get those erections back up. It's no more real than most of the womens' orgasms, the 'unlubricated' ass fucks that miraculously don't hurt the women, or porn 'squirting.' Sometimes, they even make fake cum out of egg whites and other ingredients. Like people have said before, you shouldn't learn sex from porn since it isn't real. They're just actors as much as the ones in Hollywood or pro wrestlers.

 

[KerrBear85]

No, it would be because pornstars are cheaters. A porn film isn't shot all at once most of the time. It has so many cutaways because they edit it together. Pornstars take Viagra and jerk off quite a bit off camera to get those erections back up. It's no more real than most of the womens' orgasms, the 'unlubricated' ass fucks that miraculously don't hurt the women, or porn 'squirting.' Sometimes, they even make fake cum out of egg whites and other ingredients. Like people have said before, you shouldn't learn sex from porn since it isn't real. They're just actors as much as the ones in Hollywood or pro wrestlers.

I knew they cut and pasted things together. I didn't know about the egg whites thing. I DID know about the fake squirting. I can squirt but NOTHING like that. My husband things I simply haven't "mastered" squirting. I told him that it's fake on the porn shows. He doesn't believe me.

 

[tgnytg]

It's a 50-50 proposition

I have heard that roughly half of the male population stays/gets erect during butt play, and the other half go limp. I happen to be in the group that becomes flaccid as soon as ass play starts. I have tried many times and it seems that I can never expect a hard-on as long as something is in my ass.

I heard about this through websites that feature instructions for Aneros, the prostate stimulator. The split seems to be roughly down the middle of the male population.

So if your man goes limp upon entry, you could trade him in on one that doesn't, or accept it and keep up the pegging. As soon as you are done, enjoy fluffing him back to hard. ;^)

 

[infinity706]

I knew they cut and pasted things together. I didn't know about the egg whites thing. I DID know about the fake squirting. I can squirt but NOTHING like that. My husband things I simply haven't "mastered" squirting. I told him that it's fake on the porn shows. He doesn't believe me.

Like I've told other people, if you want to "master' squirting, get a bottle of purified water, pour it into your pussy, and squeeze your pelvic floor muscles while doing your best 'When Harry Met Sally' impression. If pornstars have fake tits, fake nails, and fake cocks in some cases, why would they have to have real sex? Sure, it's great and wonderful when you have a couple that really clicks and loves pounding the shit out of each other, but that's a little tough for a lot of people with the stress of doing a porno.

Oh, and they fake some of the bondage pornos, too. Sure, there are women that actually enjoy having the shit beaten out of them, but not all of them. A few sound effects and a good Hollywood makeup artist can make it look real even if the only pain she's felt is the cramping in her ankle from being bound for so long while they get everything looking right on camera.

 

[In Anticipation]

I have heard that roughly half of the male population stays/gets erect during butt play, and the other half go limp. I happen to be in the group that becomes flaccid as soon as ass play starts. I have tried many times and it seems that I can never expect a hard-on as long as something is in my ass.

I heard about this through websites that feature instructions for Aneros, the prostate stimulator. The split seems to be roughly down the middle of the male population.

So if your man goes limp upon entry, you could trade him in on one that doesn't, or accept it and keep up the pegging. As soon as you are done, enjoy fluffing him back to hard. ;^)

I'd jump at the chance to find out! My initial experimentation is that I do, but there is a point where concentrating on two things at once becomes tough . . .

 

[KerrBear85]

Like I've told other people, if you want to "master' squirting, get a bottle of purified water, pour it into your pussy, and squeeze your pelvic floor muscles while doing your best 'When Harry Met Sally' impression. If pornstars have fake tits, fake nails, and fake cocks in some cases, why would they have to have real sex? Sure, it's great and wonderful when you have a couple that really clicks and loves pounding the shit out of each other, but that's a little tough for a lot of people with the stress of doing a porno.

Oh, and they fake some of the bondage pornos, too. Sure, there are women that actually enjoy having the shit beaten out of them, but not all of them. A few sound effects and a good Hollywood makeup artist can make it look real even if the only pain she's felt is the cramping in her ankle from being bound for so long while they get everything looking right on camera.

Lol, I'm sooo going to try to water thing. I'll practice it alone and then when I'm good at it, I'll poor some water up the cha-cha before playing with hubs then I'll just pretend like I'm uber, uber, uber turned on and then force the shit out and watch him just get like amazed. LOL! That would be so awesome cause it would be fake the whole fucking time and he wouldn't know it!

I have a zombie porno and the first girl really does look dead. They use dry oatmeal and then spray paint over the top of it to make her skin look decayed. Very cool. Except her pussy is pink and doesn't look rotted at all. Kind of ruins it, actually.

 

[KerrBear85]

You write the hottest posts.

That's only because I'm not afraid to say anything sexual. LOL

 

[DfrntLovin]

That's only because I'm not afraid to say anything sexual. LOL

And your avatar is sexy cute and your profile photo very lovely.

 

[DfrntLovin]

Then how come the guys in gay porn (and I watch a lot of it) can stay hard? Practice?

As a filmmaker, I can tell you a great deal of magic happens in the editing room.

I'd also be willing to wager that viagra or other substances are being used as well.

 

[DfrntLovin]

I knew they cut and pasted things together. I didn't know about the egg whites thing. I DID know about the fake squirting. I can squirt but NOTHING like that. My husband things I simply haven't "mastered" squirting. I told him that it's fake on the porn shows. He doesn't believe me.

Well, maybe you need to tell him to work a little harder.

The more foreplay and arousal (and warm up orgasms) and g-spot stimulation that is provided, the longer things go on, there is a tendency for more fluid.

 

[DfrntLovin]

I greatly enjoy butt play with a man, especially while 69. However, every time I try to use a strap-on with my hubs

Your man is lucky indeed.


Ever try reaching around and stroking as you fill his ass?

 

[KerrBear85]

Your man is lucky indeed.


Ever try reaching around and stroking as you fill his ass?

Yes, he loves that but it doesn't help with getting him back up.

 

[KerrBear85]

And your avatar is sexy cute and your profile photo very lovely.

Aww, thank you.

 

[human_male]

That's only because I'm not afraid to say anything sexual. LOL

Well actually, for me it's the daddy fantasies and butt fucking.

 

[KerrBear85]

Well actually, for me it's the daddy fantasies and butt fucking.

~shrug~ I'm a strange chick, what can I say?

 

[infinity706]

Well, I don't think it's that strange. Of course, I'm getting close to 200 partners and not a single one has been close to as kinky as I am.

 

[KerrBear85]

Well, I don't think it's that strange. Of course, I'm getting close to 200 partners and not a single one has been close to as kinky as I am.

My ex roomie was hardcore BDSM fan with a tattoo on his penis and nipple piercings. He also would cross dress. He said I was the most normal person he's ever met. I took that very offensively, actually. Most normal peeps think I'm way weird, but apparently the real out there peeps think I'm more normal. Does that mean I'm somewheres in between?

 

[infinity706]

It means you're not on the extreme end of the spectrum. You're still probably above average, though.

 

[human_male]

Well, I don't think it's that strange. Of course, I'm getting close to 200 partners and not a single one has been close to as kinky as I am.

You should write a book. And include illustrations.

Or just you could just post the highlights here.

If you were cool you would.

Just saying.

 

[infinity706]

I have posted some of the highlights. A good chunk of the number just hasn't been worth mentioning because all I ended up doing was giving a guy a blowjob. I've also had a significant number that didn't go much further than a little touching because I literally got dumped for requiring condoms. Most of the others were just pretty vanilla experiences that wouldn't impress anyone here. Out of my huge number, I practically have enough fingers to count the number that would even be good enough for a story here. Of course, that doesn't mean they were bad. A lot of them just wanted to make out, do a little touching, exchange blowjobs... It's been the exception that someone has even been open to anal.

If I had my way, there'd be a lot more bondage, whipping, needle play, water sports, anal, incest play, age play, sensation play, electro play, enemas, medical play, humiliation play, group sex, scat, bukkake, costumes, video/picture recording, toys, sex in semi public locations...

Yeah, I'm the type that if I were fucking someone and there was a knock at the door, my first question would be whether it would be fun to have whoever it is join us. I just haven't had many partners agree to let me do that.

I'd also be the type to randomly whip out a tape measure in the middle of foreplay and measure a guy's cock while I'm playing with it or whip out a camera and ask to take a picture of it. That's actually gone over rather well. I've even whipped out a cucumber before and asked a woman if she'd like to make a special pickle (since cunt juice gets a lot of its flavor from the acetic acid (basically fresh vinegar) it uses to clean itself). I've never had a woman say no to that, although I usually only do it with the ones I know are more than a bit freaky anyway. It also led to vinegar being a code word for cunt at my last job, so we could talk about sex on the sales floor.

Of course, I don't have the threesome conversation. I have the orgy conversation, which I've brought up right in the middle of sex before on numerous occasions. (usually, when I'm on my knees, going down on them )

Yeah, I'm the type that would make most of the OP on this site pass out from shock. I used to even do recorded webcam shows on xtube.