Like fine wine?

[Keroin]

That its more or less the same. The differences in sex don't come from a difference in age, just a difference in predilections.

So, how would you explain all the folks on this thread who have said that sex for them now is different from when they were younger?

 

[Netzach]

So, how would you explain all the folks on this thread who have said that sex for them now is different from when they were younger?

I think a lot of it is what hang ups you carry around or don't.

I've existed with very few sexual mores hangups don'ts and rules and laws in my background, just a reasonable sense of take care of yourself and think things through, and you'll know what's best when you know it.

Sex, for me, has not changed that much. I've learned more about myself, but I'm not more or less orgasmic, it's only better like my art is better, from having done it longer.

 

[00Syd]

So, how would you explain all the folks on this thread who have said that sex for them now is different from when they were younger?

Oh, I don't know. I wasn't commenting that sex is mostly the same for individuals from when they are younger and older, but that sex is mostly the same for people of one generation as it is for people of another generation. I mean, its all been done before. Sorry if I missread your question, that's what I thought you were asking about.

I couldn't comment on if sex is different for me now than it was, not really anyway, since I've only been sexually active for 4 years.

 

[Dreamliner]

I can relate to a lot of what is being put down in this tread.

Okay, I am 48 and reasonably well seasoned. AS we age, I believe we get, or should do, more comfortable and confident in ourselves. This allows us to express our thoughts and feeling and needs better.

The sex for me now, while slightly less (work comitments mainly) than what I was having back in my mid 20's, is of higher quality and also more about what I and a partner would like to explore, rather than just a shag (bonk..whatever..).

I was fortunate in my mid 20's to have an older woman take a shine to me at a party, she was early 40's. A short but very satisfying few months with her ...I learnt so much. She took things slowly, talked about what she wanted, how she wanted it...I learnt lots. It changed my outlook totally on what I expected and need form sex. I have not looked back.

I have found that partners I have been with since and interestingly more recently, have very much enjoyed our times. While I cannot now pump out orgasms every hour..I can still keep a healthy ratio going over long periods of time...but then I also do not see an orgasm as being the only satisfaction.

I also have found, that setting the scene, (yes the quick fuck is great at times), plays a fantastic part in heightening the experience.

Sex better now..absolutely. Am I a deviant......depends on your view I guess..but I do love exploring boundaries!

 

[Homburg]

That its more or less the same. The differences in sex don't come from a difference in age, just a difference in predilections.

There are measurable biochemical differences in sex hormones as we age. There is thus an actual physical difference.

ETA: Saw your post regarding generations. Get what you were saying now.

 

[00Syd]

There are measurable biochemical differences in sex hormones as we age. There is thus an actual physical difference.

Confusion explained here: http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=31147205&postcount=53

 

[Keroin]

I think a lot of it is what hang ups you carry around or don't.

I've existed with very few sexual mores hangups don'ts and rules and laws in my background, just a reasonable sense of take care of yourself and think things through, and you'll know what's best when you know it.

Sex, for me, has not changed that much. I've learned more about myself, but I'm not more or less orgasmic, it's only better like my art is better, from having done it longer.

See, I disagree...partially. Certainly part of the difference, mostly for women, is letting go of hang ups but that's only part. Text in bold highlights what I'm talking about. Your art has improved with time. Most artists, (with any skill), would likely express the same thought. Time = experience = better quality art. A big part of why my sex life is better is simply experience, experience that came with time/age.

Hormones also play a role. To deny that is to close one's eyes to science.

Oh, I don't know. I wasn't commenting that sex is mostly the same for individuals from when they are younger and older, but that sex is mostly the same for people of one generation as it is for people of another generation. I mean, its all been done before. Sorry if I missread your question, that's what I thought you were asking about.

I couldn't comment on if sex is different for me now than it was, not really anyway, since I've only been sexually active for 4 years.

If you read the OP, you'll see I actually didn't ask spring chickens, such as yourself, to comment on the difference over time, I asked how you would describe sex for you now and what your perception is of sex for older folks.

What are you doing in Amsterdam, Syd? You know they put funny stuff in the cigarettes over there.

BTW: Above was a joke.

I can relate to a lot of what is being put down in this tread.

Okay, I am 48 and reasonably well seasoned. AS we age, I believe we get, or should do, more comfortable and confident in ourselves. This allows us to express our thoughts and feeling and needs better.

The sex for me now, while slightly less (work comitments mainly) than what I was having back in my mid 20's, is of higher quality and also more about what I and a partner would like to explore, rather than just a shag (bonk..whatever..).

I was fortunate in my mid 20's to have an older woman take a shine to me at a party, she was early 40's. A short but very satisfying few months with her ...I learnt so much. She took things slowly, talked about what she wanted, how she wanted it...I learnt lots. It changed my outlook totally on what I expected and need form sex. I have not looked back.

I have found that partners I have been with since and interestingly more recently, have very much enjoyed our times. While I cannot now pump out orgasms every hour..I can still keep a healthy ratio going over long periods of time...but then I also do not see an orgasm as being the only satisfaction.

I also have found, that setting the scene, (yes the quick fuck is great at times), plays a fantastic part in heightening the experience.

Sex better now..absolutely. Am I a deviant......depends on your view I guess..but I do love exploring boundaries!

DL has illustrated what I wrote above...

Letting go of hang ups and becoming more comfortable.

Experience over time.

Hormonal changes.

Did I miss anything?

 

[Netzach]

See, I disagree...partially. Certainly part of the difference, mostly for women, is letting go of hang ups but that's only part. Text in bold highlights what I'm talking about. Your art has improved with time. Most artists, (with any skill), would likely express the same thought. Time = experience = better quality art. A big part of why my sex life is better is simply experience, experience that came with time/age.

Hormones also play a role. To deny that is to close one's eyes to science.



If you read the OP, you'll see I actually didn't ask spring chickens, such as yourself, to comment on the difference over time, I asked how you would describe sex for you now and what your perception is of sex for older folks.

What are you doing in Amsterdam, Syd? You know they put funny stuff in the cigarettes over there.

BTW: Above was a joke.



DL has illustrated what I wrote above...

Letting go of hang ups and becoming more comfortable.

Experience over time.

Hormonal changes.

Did I miss anything?

I absolutely get the hormonal part. I'm at a point in my curve where everything is normally super horny, as long as I'm not stuck on steroids. Not really any different from my twenties.

 

[00Syd]

If you read the OP, you'll see I actually didn't ask spring chickens, such as yourself, to comment on the difference over time, I asked how you would describe sex for you now and what your perception is of sex for older folks.

What are you doing in Amsterdam, Syd? You know they put funny stuff in the cigarettes over there.

Ahhhh, I see. Confusion cleared up.

I'm back in the states, flew in last night. I'm a little jetlagged but mostly fine.

Answer: My perception of sex between older folks is that its like sex between younger folks only with more wrinkles, more concise (as in: less fucking around because both parties have a better idea of what they need to have going on), and less longevity (partly due to being all concise).

(I wish I could think of a better word than concise, but I'm drawing a blank.)

Is that mean? I don't mean it to be. Sorry, older folks.

ETA: http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=31147870&postcount=60

 

[Homburg]

(I wish I could think of a better word than concise, but I'm drawing a blank.)

"Efficient," perhaps?

 

[00Syd]

"Efficient," perhaps?

YES! Way better.

 

[Keroin]

Ahhhh, I see. Confusion cleared up.

I'm back in the states, flew in last night. I'm a little jetlagged but mostly fine.

Answer: My perception of sex between older folks is that its like sex between younger folks only with more wrinkles, more concise (as in: less fucking around because both parties have a better idea of what they need to have going on), and less longevity (partly due to being all concise).

(I wish I could think of a better word than concise, but I'm drawing a blank.)

Is that mean? I don't mean it to be. Sorry, older folks.

ETA: http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=31147870&postcount=60

How dare you play the age card with me! I'll teach you a lesson, just as soon as I get my walker and put my dentures in.

I think one of the other interesting things about age, is that comments about age tend not to bother you anymore. I remember getting all fired up, in my late teens and early twenties, if I though some old codger was giving me a pat on the head and dismissing me because of my age. Now, when someone references that I am older, even if they're openly derogatory about it, I could care less.

 

[ownedsubgal]

what about sex between an older person and a younger person, people of entirely different generations? my sexual experiences with those within my own age group have been very very few, so i think that has played a significant part in shaping my sexuality and my vision of sex in general.

when i first became a slave, i was in my late teens and Daddy was in his late 30s. sex with him was a major shock to my system, not because of his age (i had certainly been with men far older), but because of the sheer charisma and power he had over me. a calmly stated phrase, a simple look, an almost whispered word from him and it'd be like i was stepping outside of myself and ghost-me was doing all the fucking and sucking. very surreal. i had always submitted to men sexually without question or hesitation, had always demurely asked, "how high" when a man said "jump!" but i had always felt very deep shame and discomfort about it. it felt like some kind of awful personality defect. but not with Daddy, with him it was just like...yes, this is what sex is, and this is my place in it. period. that was sooooo freeing.

 

[Netzach]

what about sex between an older person and a younger person, people of entirely different generations? my sexual experiences with those within my own age group have been very very few, so i think that has played a significant part in shaping my sexuality and my vision of sex in general.

when i first became a slave, i was in my late teens and Daddy was in his late 30s. sex with him was a major shock to my system, not because of his age (i had certainly been with men far older), but because of the sheer charisma and power he had over me. a calmly stated phrase, a simple look, an almost whispered word from him and it'd be like i was stepping outside of myself and ghost-me was doing all the fucking and sucking. very surreal. i had always submitted to men sexually without question or hesitation, had always demurely asked, "how high" when a man said "jump!" but i had always felt very deep shame and discomfort about it. it felt like some kind of awful personality defect. but not with Daddy, with him it was just like...yes, this is what sex is, and this is my place in it. period. that was sooooo freeing.

I had a complicated relationship across the largest age gap - I was 26 and she was 56. She was very poor at actual direct communication. I flipped her with a well placed finger, but I also bottomed for her and she was one of the best psychological, intuitive button pushers I ever met.

H is 58, but I was less of a pup when I met him. Also our relationship relies on things like his flagging dick, his Humbert position in the pairing, his sexual inexperience and ineptitude. That's actually all hot and good in twistyverse.

T's the extremely talented worldly gent. Sex is good and girl/boy normal with him which is abornmal in my world.

My partners, though, life ones, have both felt very peer/peer - same age, similarities. M's really more a wife than a husband.

 

[satindesire]

My partners, though, life ones, have both felt very peer/peer - same age, similarities. M's really more a wife than a husband.

I've often thought it'd be nice to have a wife at home to cook for me, greet me when I come home from work, etc.

I'm 99% girl and 1% boy, but my boy part is REALLY boy.

 

[Dreamliner]

I very rarely "lust" after a young sexy girl, for instance a girl say in her early 20's. Sure, I might think she looks sexy hot, however, I am much more interested in older more mature women, those that are open to experiences, to exploring. Some may not actually be aware they are seeking this, but they soon can, provided all falls into place. Age does not neccesarily dictate this, it is the maturity of the mind.

I do like using my brain, as it is our largest *sic* sexual organ, man and woman.

Often, it is the use of words, that flicks the switch, to some of our most enjoyable sexual experiences.

 

[Keroin]

I've often thought it'd be nice to have a wife at home to cook for me, greet me when I come home from work, etc.

I lived with some friends of mine for a few months, between destinations. They both work and have busy social lives. As thanks for their generosity, I cleaned and organized the house, ran errands, bought groceries, even helped prep for meals. "Martha" often tells me how much she misses her wife. LOL.

Often, it is the use of words, that flicks the switch, to some of our most enjoyable sexual experiences.

Seriously. This.

I'm embarassed to admit I didn't really come to understand the erotic power of words until a few years ago.

Glad I figured it out, though, because...wow.

 

[Netzach]

I've often thought it'd be nice to have a wife at home to cook for me, greet me when I come home from work, etc.

I'm 99% girl and 1% boy, but my boy part is REALLY boy.

I'm the at-home party because of my work, but the relational steering falls to me and the support and strokes come from him - generally. I definitely think of his take on things prior to doing, but I'm less altruistic and more strategic, for sure.

 

[rosco rathbone]

At 25, I expect sex to gain new depths and facets of passion and intensity as I age over the years.

After all, experience is everything and age is only a number, for men.

With women, what matters is the firmness of the flesh.

 

[satindesire]

I lived with some friends of mine for a few months, between destinations. They both work and have busy social lives. As thanks for their generosity, I cleaned and organized the house, ran errands, bought groceries, even helped prep for meals. "Martha" often tells me how much she misses her wife. LOL.

When Mister was 'between jobs' and I was the one working, about wo years ago, he took care of the Domestic stuff. I gotta admit it was nice to come home to a clean house, fed cats and a made bed without having to do it myself.

I'm the at-home party because of my work, but the relational steering falls to me and the support and strokes come from him - generally. I definitely think of his take on things prior to doing, but I'm less altruistic and more strategic, for sure.

Oh, so he's the wife emotionally, not domestically. I see. My apologies for misunderstanding.

 

[ownedsubgal]

At 25, I expect sex to gain new depths and facets of passion and intensity as I age over the years.

After all, experience is everything and age is only a number, for men.

With women, what matters is the firmness of the flesh.

25??

 

[satindesire]

25??

And he's 6'5. *sage nod*

 

[graceanne]

At 25

 

[Sir_Winston54]

And he's 6'5. *sage nod*

...I'm out in Hollywood
I'm six foot five and I look damn good
I drive a Maserati, I'm a black belt in karate
And I love a good glass of wine
It turns girls on that I'm mysterious
I tell 'em I don't want nothing serious
'Cause even on a slow day I can have a three-way chat
With two women at one time.​