Life: when it's good, it's good; when it's bad, it sucks!!!

[Stormy]

Has anyone else ever noticed that when life is good, all is well with the world but, when one bad thing happens, it creates a snowball effect? I've always heard that bad things happen in threes. This has proved to be the case in my life for the past year.

Let me say before I carry on with my bitching...that my kids are healthy and safe and for that I sincerely thank God for that daily.

In the last year I have lost my step-father(we were as close as blood) to Cancer, was almost put away in a loony bin for my grief over it by my hub and sis and my marriage suffered greatly because of that betrayal. I climbed out of the gutter of depression through prayer, went back to school and devoted much to sparing my marriage for the sake of the kids.

Everything was on an even keel when...BAM!....here come more crisis. In the last two weeks, there have been three funerals, one of which was a baby, my biological dad has recieved some bad news concerning possible prostate cancer and bypass surgery and my hub decides he can't live with us just co-existing anymore. I agree with hub, something has to give here for us to all to find our happiness.

But, but, but....WHAT THE FUCK????? Does this shit just run in cycles? Is someone trying to tell me something? Is it all coincidence and bad timing? I'm disgusted right now and want input here. Again, I say, my kids are healthy and safe and that gives me the strength to fight everything else. Yet, I'm paranoid of answering the phone or door for fear of more bad news.

If this appears to be another,"I just gotta bitch a little thread", then, you are right. It is. Don't we all from time to time?

Anyway, input please....positive, negative, jokes, smiles, flames....whatever. Although, if it is to flame me, let me say now.....take a number and get in line to kiss my ass.

 

[Mustang Sally]

How about some *hugs*?
That's an awful lot for anyone to deal with.
You sound like you're doing ok. "Keep on keeping on." or something. Take care of you.

 

[fgarvb1]

Blessed men {people} go through...

valley's of weeping.

 

[Stormy]

uh, ok....

...fgarvb1, you just took my mind off the snowball effect for a bit by wondering.....what the hell does that mean?

Add another bigtime dissappointment since submitting this thread this morning....My inlaws just left yesterday and are coming back tomorrow for 3 days...ddaayyyuuuummmmm!!!!!

 

[*bratcat*]

i have only one piece of advice...

 

[12vMan]

I know exactly what you are talking about. Four years ago, one of my friends was murdered by his stepfather. On the day of his visitation my grandfather died. Exactly seven days later my grandmother died. Needless to say it was a VERY, VERY difficult two week period in my life. I'm am here to tell you that it always gets better. At my friends funeral, I noticed a girl I worked with. Neither of us new that the other one new our friend (She found out after his death that she was actually related to him.) We started talking and ended up dating and moving in together. Last June we were married. So I guess that even though life can treat you really shitty, it has to give you back something good in return. It is like ying-yang. I hope that all of my rambling has made you believe that good things have to be on their way. I wish you the best of luck.

 

[fgarvb1]

what does it mean.??

it means if you go through life with out any or very little trouble than you better start worrying.

it has alot to do with Psalm 84 in your/a bible.
i was asking the same questions you are one time. I was just out of the hospital where i had spent 36 days for stress/depression when i caught this message of dr.scott's
http://www.drgenescott.com/messages_87.htm
tape #VF-525.
i still don't like shit raining down on my head all the damn time but at least i now have some ideal why it happens

and yes i also shake my fist at god and proclaim "it's another fine mess you got me into." and when i get out of it
i just shake my head and think what's next.?

My thoughts are with you...onward through the fog..!!

[Edited by fgarvb1 on 02-24-2001 at 04:06 PM]

 

[stud 3;16]

awww you poor thing. ;(

i know how you feel stormy. if it wasent for bad luck i wouldent have any luck at all. i just recently lost my uncle to cancer. my aunt to cancer. my grand father to a heart attack. and a while back my nephew was hit and killed by a tractor trailor. and i have to live in severe pain every day of my life for the rest of my life. and im only 23 years old. im in the hospital more than i am at home. and i have had to have surgery after surgery after surgery. and i have came close to dieing my self. im so sorry that all of this has happend to you stormy. you have had a rough go at things but hopefully things will start getting better. for you im always here for you stormy. if you need some 1 to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. feel free to e mail me any time. god bless you stormy. you and your loved ones are always in my thoughts and prayers hang in there stormy.

 

[April]

Yeah, Stormy, things (life) are definitely cyclic. Some bad cycles just seem to go on forever, though. I was wondering the same thing about a month or so ago. And I'm still in the bad cycle, even though I had one really good thing happen. All the rest of it has turned to shit though. Just hang in there and don't forget to breathe!

Just know that you're not the only one, and you're not alone. There are a lot of people here who would be glad to help if they could, even if it's just being there to listen.

 

[Stormy]

Sally, fgarvb1, brat, 12vMan, stud and April......

...hugs and kisses to you all! I asked for input and am actually shocked that none of it was negative (well, I hate to hear that you guys have experienced similar stuff). But, there's usually some asshole out there(well, in here) that thrills in kicking someone while they are down. Thanks, really, for your time.

Fgarvb1, the scripture helped bunches.

Brat, good idea about the bathroom, hehehe, but looks like Mother Nature took care of the inlaws....due to the rain, they are waiting til next week to come. YEAAA!!!!

Sally, it's amazing what a hug can do, even if it is virtual...

12V and stud, it breaks my heart to hear about your misfortunes. I'll keep on keeping on if yall will and did.

The sun is coming out and it seems to be a beautiful day. (damn, I hope the inlaws don't see the forecast!) My kids are still healthy and safe (has anyone detected that I have a wee bit of an obsession with the wellness of my children?)
I'm gonna try to stick to the motto I've lived by for years..."That which doesn't kill me will make me stronger."

Brat....I know what would make me feel better.....an avatar done for me by Guru. Think you could help me on that?

 

[stud 3;16]

keep the faith stormy.

your welcome stormy. and please do remember that im always here 4 you. it broke my heart 2 to hear everything that has happened to you. but you are right what doesent kill us only makes us stronger. i know that its hard at times but please do try and hang in there stormy. i dont think that you obsess to much about your kids. a parent can never care to much about there kids. or a parent can never worry to much about there kids. there so lucky that you care about them so much to worry about them like that. a lot of mothers could care less about there kids. i just wish that there were more people like you in this world. cause if there was this world would be a better place. cause you sound like a truly wonderfull person. oh and if you dont want the in laws to come next week either. may i suggest that you try doing and indian rain dance lol. xoxoxox

 

[Kasha]

I understand

More than you know, Stormy. I was thinking it as just me... I was about to go and find a voodoo witch doctor to get this bad karma off me. i guess things really come in threes and fours and well you get my drift. i have this feeling that bad things are happening a lot all over. This whole year for me and my husband has been one disaster after another. I am ill, I have endometriosis and I am at the doctor more than any 25 year old I know. My poor little nephew who is only 8 months old, who was born with a ot ofheart problems is back in the hospital wit respitory distress....(Hopefully this s just to watch and make sure he doen't get realy ill). Finacially we have been in some big trouble lately and to top it all off, my grandfather who raised me, who is just like my father has prostate cancer. I have just been told he will be starting some sort of chemo shortly and I am terrified... I have done nothing but cry since i found out. coming to this board has helped me out a tremendous mount... ya know, it gets my mind off of all the awful things going on. my prayers to you and yours and a great big hug, I think we both could use it.

 

[His Whimsicality]

There are two sides to everything, even to the very bad things, but also to the very good things, and it´s important that you always keep the other side in mind. There is nothing absolute in life.

For now, just let me tell you to keep on fighting and one day you will emerge stronger and wiser. Just don´t give up.