Yummyjuicyslave
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Is it possible to find a dom/sub relationship that interwines with a vanilla relationship? That involves services to your dominant but also have a family etc.
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legion1054
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Well this could be a long drawn out and complicated answer. However there is not a way of BDSM relationships. If you can't find it. Keep looking. Personally I look for a sub that is her own person, and submits because she enjoys it, not because she is broken.
MeltformySir
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It is very possible. Like any good relationship, a BDSM one is built on mutual needs and desires. If you and your partner both want to have vanilla aspects to your relationship, figure out what that looks like for the two of you and do it. Of course if you find someone who only wants a 24/7 total power exchange relationship and they are not able/willing to relax that a bit around young children etc... and that is a limit for you, they may not be a good fit for you. But there are many more people out there who are combining kink and everyday life than there are people who are all kink, all the time. Just be up front from the beginning that you're looking for a "blend" and hopefully any prospective partners will be open to that. Good luck. 
It is very possible. In fact most D/s couples keep their lifestyle private, and appear vanilla outwardly to family and friends. People can't judge what they don't know about you.
Hipshot1554
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Are you speaking of two separate relationships?
NiceNastyMann
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I'm going to posit the contra argument here - playing devils advocate in a way...
And please - this is going to be the worst case. No flames - think of this as a thought experiment.
Assuming you are talking about marriage, and dom you serve is your husband. Marriages are long term commitments - property, children, families entwining. Things go well - then life happens. One or the other decide the lifestyle isn't quite as - thrilling, desirable what have you.
What happens if your master - now husband - decides to bring in a third party? Marriage - or even just a long term commitment - adds extra dimensions to your life.
Okay - I'm stopping. Lots of people do this in their regular life. And have been doing once Oog the caveman picked up a flexible branch off the ground and looked at Yum his cave woman and got that look in his eye.
And she gave her bottom an extra squirm as she sashayed into the cave and that's how we all got here...
MeltformySir
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"Oog and Yum: A Love Story"...I must read this. Will you write it?
It could be a whole series...."Oog and Yum: The Stick" "Oog and Yum: The Dawn of Fire Play" "Yum Gets Spanked By a NeanderDom"
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I have witnessed such a relationship, and the curious thing is, it imprinted upon their children, the son had a pseudo dom/sub relationship with his mother, the daughter exhibited the sub victim personality as much as I have ever seen (and no, I don't think subs are victims, just that she thought she needed to be).
Of course, once you add the bdsm flavor, you no longer have vanilla.......
Happy to discuss.
Of course, once you add the bdsm flavor, you no longer have vanilla.......
Happy to discuss.
Of course it is possible. Why not?
