Life is short

[sexy-girl]

so who has the right way to live it

a person that does everything they can to have the most fun out of life for themselves regardless of consequences on others and if they sometimes hurt someone

or someone that sacrifices their happiness sometimes so they don't hurt other people

 

[Ezzie]

I live my life by making myself happy first. I know it sounds selfish but the only person I put before me is my daughter. The reason I live this way is because then when I get let down, the only one I have to blame is myself.

I'm rambling so I'll be going now...

 

[ub6ibfine]

i wanna be happy

 

[Jewelz]

Oh darlin girl, this is my life right now. I've been sacrificing so much of myself and happiness in order to keep peace and stability for others. A part of me is ready to reach out and make things happen for ME for a change but it also scares me too mainly because I am not into hurting those that will be hurt by my choices. Ugh.

 

[RastaPope]

I smoke and eat plenty of quality pie.

 

[bluespoke]

so who has the right way to live it

a person that does everything they can to have the most fun out of life for themselves regardless of consequences on others and if they sometimes hurt someone

or someone that sacrifices their happiness sometimes so they don't hurt other people

I guess there is no right way or wrong way. I'd lean towards the second alternative but everybody is different.

Not everyone has the same morals or values and some react differently to different situations.

There are those, probably a majority, that would steer a course down the middle of the two.

 

[sexy-girl]

i dont think either way is right or wrong exactly


if i only cared about not hurting other people then i would never of told my family i was gay ... because it could of hurt them


however i do make sure sometimes that i am not only thinking about myself when i make decisions

 

[Jewelz]

So, How can you seperate the two and make sure you leave little room for hurting someone while ensuring you are truly allowing yourself to be happy?

 

[bluespoke]

i dont think either way is right or wrong exactly


if i only cared about not hurting other people then i would never of told my family i was gay ... because it could of hurt them


however i do make sure sometimes that i am not only thinking about myself when i make decisions

That's a different sort of hurt.

That's a hurt they felt not because you inflicted it but because they have closed minds. You canot go around protecting those who wear blimkers all the time.

 

[Guest]

I find wisdom in bluespoke's post.

That's well scary.

 

[sexy-girl]

So, How can you seperate the two and make sure you leave little room for hurting someone while ensuring you are truly allowing yourself to be happy?

i know some people who will always do everything they can to make themselves happy without caring about anyone else ... and they are happy sometimes at the expense of other people

i know i couldn't do that (and i wouldn't want too) but it amazes me how often when people can live like that and they really do seem happy


im not sure if they really are or not

 

[Jewelz]

very true sexy-girl. I couldn't do something so mindless just for selfish reasons. But there comes a point in time when one has to wonder when it is the right time to make it happen for themselves or just keep sacrificing for the sake of others.

 

[intrigued]

This is a big issue for me sexy-girl, so I don't really want to go to deep into it, I am still working through it myself. I do believe it is a balance of both. If you cannot live honestly and true to yourself first, what good are you to anyone else? Not only that, but it is not good for you on any level, and physically in particular.
Edited cause I changed my mind.

 

[Never]

Life is short.. but I'm not. I tell you I'm not!

 

[bored1]

so who has the right way to live it

a person that does everything they can to have the most fun out of life for themselves regardless of consequences on others and if they sometimes hurt someone

or someone that sacrifices their happiness sometimes so they don't hurt other people

Maybe it depends on what stage of life you are in. When I was younger I did what I wanted when I wanted, never thinking or caring about the consequences. A fairly selfish philosophy. After some humbling life experiences, I have learned the value of self-sacrifice.Its not always easy, but I know that Im a better person because of it.

 

[Lancecastor]

I think you should have a mentor like Intrigued to share all of life's issues with in this special thread.

A young woman at the beginning of her journey, an old woman nearing the latter part of her path...connected by sharing in this thread.

It could be so beautiful.

 

[Freya]

Edited cause I changed my mind.

Apparently a good idea Intrigued.

Just wanted to say that I know where you're coming from on parts of what you originally wrote.

 

[Guest]

I live my life by making myself happy first. I know it sounds selfish but the only person I put before me is my daughter. The reason I live this way is because then when I get let down, the only one I have to blame is myself.

I'm rambling so I'll be going now...

a fellow hedonist !!! Forget about taboos and expectations, have fun while you can cuz you only go on this ride once.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

I smoke and eat plenty of quality pie.

This is the best advice one can give.

The only thing I would add is: wear comfortable shoes.

 

[sexy-girl]

Apparently a good idea Intrigued.

Just wanted to say that I know where you're coming from on parts of what you originally wrote.

i agree i read what you said too intrigued and and i understand where you were coming from but for anyone that didn't read it don't worry nothing sinister was said


never if you say you're not twice what does that mean


part of my happiness comes from how i treat other people thats why i don't think i could ever have a hedonist lifestyle


comfy shoes are a must i agree with that one too ... which is why i don't wear my boots very much except when posing for av's

 

[Prince Romeo]

Choices.

We all have them. You want this world to be like something out of an old Star Trek episode where everyone is exactly the same? A world where everyone is at peace and harmony. No choices. Sounds pretty boring.

Choices. Every second of every minute of every day, your'e making them. They affect everyone and everything around you. You can pass out shit or whatever. You have that impact on the world, but only you can choose which decisions are the right ones for you.

 

[phrodeau]

To remain a vital part of the world after you die, you need to be memorable.

I try to be memorable in a good way.

 

[st4nton]

you just need to give your life to our lord and saviour, jesus christ.

 

[ShyQuietGal]

You have to be happy with yourself in order to make the ones around you happy. I say work with you first then work with others.

 

[intrigued]

I think you should have a mentor like Intrigued to share all of life's issues with in this special thread.

A young woman at the beginning of her journey, an old woman nearing the latter part of her path...connected by sharing in this thread.

It could be so beautiful.

Well folks, you heard it here first. Any woman 41 or older is an "old woman".

Guess that makes you an old man, since you're two years older than me.



sexy-girl...Thanks, I would never say anything sinister. I only spoke of my own experience with living to please others, to my own detriment.