Let's Swing with Elizabeth

[elizabeth22673]

Hey......

Not sure if this subject has been touched at all on Lit. I'm actually surprised that I don't see the subject brought up more.

This thread is for anyone who:

* wants to swing
* is swinging
* has swung
* just wants to talk about it!

What do you all think? Your experiences are very much appreciated. I'm talking about full swap, MMFF, MFM, FMF, FF, MM Or even soft swap..... Anything goes here.......

Thanks all,
Liz

 

[SirFace]

I find the subject very interesting and sexy. At least on a fantasy level. It would have to be the right person, people, and I might be game. Have to discuss this with my pet some day.

 

[DrunkenSatyr]

Hi Elizabeth My wife and I are a full swap cpl. Been into the lifestyle for about a year and a half now. We've met several really cool cpls and made a few great friends on the way. What kind of info are ya looking for?

 

[elizabeth22673]

Hi Elizabeth My wife and I are a full swap cpl. Been into the lifestyle for about a year and a half now. We've met several really cool cpls and made a few great friends on the way. What kind of info are ya looking for?

I am looking for people to share their stories if they would like. Actually, for those of you that have swung before, any advice to 'newbies'????

 

[elizabeth22673]

I find the subject very interesting and sexy. At least on a fantasy level. It would have to be the right person, people, and I might be game. Have to discuss this with my pet some day.

I totally agree. It would definitely have to be with the right person/people. Which, if you think about it, is kind of hard! You don't just go up and ask your friends if they want to have sex.........or, do you!? LOL

 

[elizabeth22673]

I find the subject very interesting and sexy. At least on a fantasy level. It would have to be the right person, people, and I might be game. Have to discuss this with my pet some day.

by the way....nice AV. sexy and original

 

[SirFace]

I totally agree. It would definitely have to be with the right person/people. Which, if you think about it, is kind of hard! You don't just go up and ask your friends if they want to have sex.........or, do you!? LOL

I'm considering it. Ive found a whole new confidence I didnt know I had.

 

[SirFace]

by the way....nice AV. sexy and original

Thank you. Best pic ever taken of me. (hides the belly,LOL)

 

[DrunkenSatyr]

Well, the best advice I have for newb's is to be completly open and honest with your partner. if you don't have full trust in each other, then it is not going to work. As for finding people, there are a number of great websites and no AFF is NOT one of em. As with any web service for dating though, you will have to weed through the bs to find the ppl worth meeting. As for going up and asking your friends, you might be suprised how well it works, but just keep in mind that just because you are ok with swinging, they might not know how to handle it. Also friends may jump in the sack, but regret the actions, so it is a tough one.

 

[SirFace]

Well, the best advice I have for newb's is to be completly open and honest with your partner. if you don't have full trust in each other, then it is not going to work. As for finding people, there are a number of great websites and no AFF is NOT one of em. As with any web service for dating though, you will have to weed through the bs to find the ppl worth meeting. As for going up and asking your friends, you might be suprised how well it works, but just keep in mind that just because you are ok with swinging, they might not know how to handle it. Also friends may jump in the sack, but regret the actions, so it is a tough one.

Good advice, I also think you have to have a very high level of security in yourself and your relationship with your "other". The ugly green monster has to be long gone.

 

[DrunkenSatyr]

in our experience, there are more down to earth people out there than we expected. Everyone has some form of insecurity, and we found that within a few hours of meeting people, we could tell if they would make good friends, and our rule of thumb is not to persue anyone that we wouldn't want to hang out with in a "vanilla" environment

 

[woxyroxme]

I totally agree. It would definitely have to be with the right person/people. Which, if you think about it, is kind of hard! You don't just go up and ask your friends if they want to have sex.........or, do you!? LOL

You can make friends out of swingers but you can't make swingers out of friends.

My wife and I were in the lifestyle for several years, finding the right people is not easy. Sometimes we would go to DSSC and some of the guys were so pushy that we could not feel comfortable around them. Sometimes you get lucky and meet someone you can be close friends with in and out of the bedroom.

 

[Guest]

While the thought of swinging is a massive turn-on for me, I don't think I could ever go through with it even if it presented itself. I just think it brings more complications.

Of course if anyone wants to persuade me otherwise, please go ahead. Like Liz, I'd love to hear some sexy stories.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Sorry Liz, I am still virginal to that effect also. I have always fantasized about it and my so and I are comfy enough that we can cyber or have phone sex with other people. She has always told me that she wouldn't unless she was extremely comfy with the other couple. There are a few online couples we met that she is curious about, but nothing has materialized yet.

I love your av though.

 

[DrunkenSatyr]

Not trying to promote a site, or send people to a pay site for hits, but if there is anyone that is seriously interested, a few friends of ours (who used to own and operate a lifestyle club) are good friends of the owner's of sexxymofo.com there is a free trial period, but by far we have had the best luck with this site. It is primarly people in the NE US but they are gaining MANY MANY members rapidly.

 

[wally2450]

My only experience was with a single girl at a swingers club in FL. It had been a dull night as there were few visitors. I was hanging out in the hot tub when this great looking woman showed up and joined me and the one other guy there. This was a club that served no alcohol but they did provide the mixers and a bartender if you brought your own. I made some small talk with her and went to get her a drink, nice guy that I am. When I got back, she had gone 'in the back' with the other guy. It was closing time and she and I ended up sharing a cab. Mindful that we had just been nude in the tub, I asked her if she had a good time to which she replied, "yeah, I did." She asked me the same question and I replied, "not really," which was true. So I asked her if she was up for some more fun and she said, come with me to my place and I did. I loved it and so did she. Clubs have strict rules about touching anyone without their permission and they will kick you out if you do. I think I would prefer the club route myself. Trying to sort things out online isn't my cup of tea.

 

[elizabeth22673]

Thanks everyone! I was glad to get home from work and find your responses.

I am asking because it might be a possiblity for husband and I. We would be newbies. Well, actually about 10-12 years ago or so, we did a soft swap with a couple friends one night when we were drinking. This was when we were engaged or just married.

Now that we've been married for so long, I have been trying to spice up our sex life recently and we both are ready to try this. I can honestly say that I would not be jealous of my husband with another woman. (I wouldn't be able to say that years ago due to jealousy). As long as we swing together, I am so cool about it.

OMG, as a matter of fact, we have finally found a potential couple who said they want to get together with us. She is bi so I would be able to fulfill a fantasy.

Honestly, I dont think this is for everyone. But I HAVE to try. I have sexual needs that must be fulfilled LOL

Thanks again for your stories, advice, thoughts, etc.

Please keep them coming!

Any other newbies out there?
Liz

 

[Storyguy00]

Hey Sexy!

 

[elizabeth22673]

Hey Sexy!

Hi Hon! Thanks for visiting me over here. What do you think of all this? Spill it LOL

 

[360chick]

Hi Liz!

Personally, I would love to try swinging! One of my fav fantasies. In reality, I truly don't think hubby will go for it. But at least I have my fantasies!

 

[elizabeth22673]

Hi Liz!

Personally, I would love to try swinging! One of my fav fantasies. In reality, I truly don't think hubby will go for it. But at least I have my fantasies!

Well, you wont know till you ask him!? No, I think being pushy is a bad thing. If hubby would've pushed me into this years ago I might have been scared off and not wanting to try it when I AM ready. Know what I mean?

 

[elizabeth22673]

bumping this up.

Anyone want to share advice, stories? OK. This is gonna die a fast death I can tell LMAO

 

[TheWifesHubby]

Swinging advice

My wife and I have been into this lifestyle for more than a couple years and we love the openness and friendships that we have made. It hasn't always been easy and you have to meet a few couples (or singles for that matter) before things click. We like to meet and make a friendship first and let the fun happen naturally. No pressure, no expectations.
Some people get into this for the friendships, some just for the raw sex. To each their own. We prefer not to be another notch on someones headboard so we like to go slow and easy and see what develops instead of just jumping into the sack with anyone that comes along.
Be honest with each other, be open minded and make sure that your communication with your spouse if paramount. Tell them what you like and don't like, what you want to try and what you have no interest in trying. Some people like to play in seperate rooms, but we prefer to have everyone in the same room and let things happen. It is erotic to swap partners and it is even more erotic (for us anyway) to see your partner in action and being pleasured.

I hope that was some useful advice and I didn't just ramble on. Have fun and play safe.

 

[elizabeth22673]

My wife and I have been into this lifestyle for more than a couple years and we love the openness and friendships that we have made. It hasn't always been easy and you have to meet a few couples (or singles for that matter) before things click. We like to meet and make a friendship first and let the fun happen naturally. No pressure, no expectations.
Some people get into this for the friendships, some just for the raw sex. To each their own. We prefer not to be another notch on someones headboard so we like to go slow and easy and see what develops instead of just jumping into the sack with anyone that comes along.
Be honest with each other, be open minded and make sure that your communication with your spouse if paramount. Tell them what you like and don't like, what you want to try and what you have no interest in trying. Some people like to play in seperate rooms, but we prefer to have everyone in the same room and let things happen. It is erotic to swap partners and it is even more erotic (for us anyway) to see your partner in action and being pleasured.

I hope that was some useful advice and I didn't just ramble on. Have fun and play safe.

OMG, thank you. I totally agree with what you are saying. Guess what?!?!! We might meet this couple we've been chatting with this week tomorrow night. I am soooooooooo excited. They have been swinging for a while and totally describe their style as you say above. No pressure. We are planning on going to dinner and for drinks and then we'll see.

First time we got a babysitter since son has been born. OMG. Might be well worth it!

Any more advice peeps?

 

[Werfalke]

She is bi so I would be able to fulfill a fantasy.

Honestly, I dont think this is for everyone. But I HAVE to try. I have sexual needs that must be fulfilled LOL

Thanks again for your stories, advice, thoughts, etc.

Please keep them coming!

Any other newbies out there?
Liz

Great Elizabeth, wish you luck with the fulfilling of all your fantasies.

Most of us are buried with them....LOL