lesbians unite... okay I need someone to talk to

[babyboo]

I'm curious how many other lesbians out there have been in love or have had serious feelings for somebody they could never have for one reason or another and how you handled the whole situation... since I have nobody else to turn to I'm hoping to learn from the lovely people at Lit.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Don't think those feelings are just confinded to woman/woman relationships.

 

[babyboo]

Don't think those feelings are just confinded to woman/woman relationships.

Very true T.H.... I apolagize for the oversight on my part

 

[Starfish]

I am not lesbian, but I know exactly what you are feeling. It is hard for me to cope with the frustration that comes with wanting someone I can't have. I am the kind of person to start avoiding a person I can't be with, if I go on my gut instinct, but my mind knows it is because of selfish reasons, and it isn't fair to the other person, especially if they are a close friend, or they are someone I see a lot, and cannot avoid. I try not to get crushes on people anymore. The one's I already have suck as it is.

It isn't easy when you have such amazing people around you and as your friends.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Very true T.H.... I apolagize for the oversight on my part

That's cool. There are many of us that have fallen in love with someone we can not be with for what ever reason.... it hurts and seems unjust that a "true" soul mate has been found but you can not give totally to the staisfaction to it ... just enjoy the memories and try to be friends at least.... who knows what fate has in store.

 

[babyboo]

I am not lesbian, but I know exactly what you are feeling. It is hard for me to cope with the frustration that comes with wanting someone I can't have. I am the kind of person to start avoiding a person I can't be with, if I go on my gut instinct, but my mind knows it is because of selfish reasons, and it isn't fair to the other person, especially if they are a close friend, or they are someone I see a lot, and cannot avoid. I try not to get crushes on people anymore. The one's I already have suck as it is.

It isn't easy when you have such amazing people around you and as your friends.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts starfish

This has happened to me twice now, real seriously and the first time I did what you said and just pulled away figuring that was my only option and to this day regret it.

This time I'm not going to run but there are many time when I just want to bury my head in the sand and die. When she speaks of another it kills me but I endure because I don't want to lose that friendship or even have to censor it in anyway because I feel if that has to happen in the friendship then you can never be truely open with each other. I actually wrote this one day on a whim... maybe it will better explain... nah probaly sucks lol

*******
Her words of love for another are like
the blade of a dull knife piercing my heart

This voice in my head is not silenced by them
the deafening volume of the sad lyrics around me

And the hollow heart in my chest that yearns for her
struggles like a lung grasping for one last breath

I refuse to feel anything for her today but friendship
a valiant first step towards reclaiming my hearts freedom

So with a fabricated smile on my lips I greet her
wishing only that my heart was cleansed of her
*********

 

[babyboo]

That's cool. There are many of us that have fallen in love with someone we can not be with for what ever reason.... it hurts and seems unjust that a "true" soul mate has been found but you can not give totally to the staisfaction to it ... just enjoy the memories and try to be friends at least.... who knows what fate has in store.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts as well T.H. I appreciate it.

You are right when you said it seems unjust. I know that I am everything she could ever want in a person, well okay not everything but all the really important things anyway and to hear about her with all the wrong men is very hurtful at times. They don't treat her with the repsect or love that she needs and deserves and that I know I could and do give her. It just really sucks knowing that she would mostly likely take 100 men who treat her poorly over me, a woman, who loves her completely for everything she is and in spite of the things she's not.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

You are right when you said it seems unjust.

Yes we have so much to offer them that they don't have in their lives... we can tear ourselves apart about it forever or just move on with our lives being the friend they need. Wishing them the love with someone, we found with them... hoping fate will be good to both of us.

 

[HeavyStick]

I wanna be a cameraman for lesbians.

 

[babyboo]

I wanna be a cameraman for lesbians.

Leave it to Heavy to pop up on a serious thread and add some humor (lol)

I'll let you be the camera man if you bring me someone to play with

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I wanna be a cameraman for lesbians.

Find me a woman and you are on.... just remember I own the copyright on the film.

 

[HeavyStick]

Leave it to Heavy to pop up on a serious thread and add some humor (lol)

I'll let you be the camera man if you bring me someone to play with

How about "props"?

 

[HeavyStick]

heavy was an awesome cameraman, he's awesome at prepping us for our scenes so our tongues don't get tired. I think a chick taught him how to go down.... HE'S AWESOME!!!!

 

[babyboo]

Yes we have so much to offer them that they don't have in their lives... we can tear ourselves apart about it forever or just move on with our lives being the friend they need. Wishing them the love with someone, we found with them... hoping fate will be good to both of us.

I am doing that, successfully most days but there are moments when your heart just seems to bleed for them and you cling to that hope that one day they will see the light and realize that you are what they have been looking for all along.

But you are right, and I do wish her happiness. I hope she finds and gets everything she has ever dreamed of and more. Her hapiness is all I've ever wanted anyway and I've assured her that yes, I may have some rough days but I'm not going to just walk away from her when my emotions get the best of me.... I won't lose a best friend twice. Learned my lesson the first time.

 

[babyboo]

How about "props"?

Okay virgin here still... can I get some less advanced props for the first time please lol She'll need to break me in slowly... very slowly

 

[HeavyStick]

you ladies have a goodnight, no disrespect was meant towards your lifestyle. (no I didn't receive a PM to say this either)

 

[sporty]

Baby boo....does your friend know you have these feelings for her ?????......

I know i had a very close girlfriend who had a crush on me......I have always been very open to lesbian lifestyles ( I play women's ice hockey , so, as a heterosexual am often a minority...) .....I DO love women and have great relationships with them, just not sexual........But, I think she mistook that for me being open to her advances.......

she was very hurt when i never ended up dating her.....our friendship was hurt because i felt her crush when we were together and i actually started feeling guilty that i wasn't a lesbian......because i cared very much for her and didn't want to hurt her...........we drifted apart as a result and i lost a close friend.........sad..........

just tread lightly .........

and good luck !

 

[Shaq]

For lesbian love I would suggest the playground...

More likely to find supportive lesbian litsters...