Lesbians! Advice required within!!!

[sara_adrift]

Fellas, you can lurk if ya want, but comments on this thread should be made by the ladies, only.
Sorries.


Lemme cut right to the chase. Over the weekend, me and my best friend had sex. No, we made love. It was great, it was very sweet and intimate and really, really, hot. Even tho we're not gonna fall in love and run off to whereever same sex marriages are legal or whatever, I'm pretty sure we're gonna be doing this on a regular basis from here on out.

The thing is, she's a virgin. I wasn't sure, I mean, I had my suspicions. Ok, she told me, but then after Saturday nite I knew, b/c, well, I just know. So now I'm wonderin...well, if I was a guy and had a dong I wouldn't be postin here, but I'm not, and I don't. I'm not really a lesbian. I don't dig chicks, I dig her. So I'm not really up on the ninja-like secrets of the lesbos.

In other words, what does a girl do about another girl's virginity? Nothing? Leave her sexy little hymen* where it is? Or is there some secret of removing the virginity that doen't involve a dong or some weird little facsimile of one? Or is this something I shouldn't even be worrying about?

please, I need some learnin!

Oh, and if yer curious, you can check out my submissions page, which contains my real life journal. Taylor is the girl in question.

~sara


*until yesterday, I didn't even know that word existed. Talk about ignorance of yer own anatomy.

 

[pellso27]

well I'm wet now!

 

[vin_26m]

If you want it, go for it. It doesn't have to be a penis that breaks her hymen. It should be with someone who cares about her. You can probably use your fingers.

Go all out. Use a strap on. Take pictures. Post them here.

Good luck.

 

[NippleMuncher]

My question is why are you limiting responses to the ladies only? By your own admission ...

I'm not really a lesbian. I don't dig chicks, I dig her.

This would suggest to me that you're not sure of your own orientation, or that you may be bi. Neither of those are a bad thing.

The broadest definition of "virgin" is one who has not had intercourse, however, in today's world, the generally accepted version is "one who has not had sexual contact with another individual." Oral sex is sex. Heavy petting can be considered sex, especially if it results in orgasm.

My recommendation is to proceed slowly, and let the relationship blossom. She may have been caught up in the moment. You may have been caught up in the moment. Regardless, enjoy the encounter you had, and allow the relationship to unfold as it would between any two loving and caring individuals, regardless of their genders.

Good luck to you both.

 

[Cajon555]

I'm just going to ignore the "lesbians only" restriction and ask: why don't you ask her??? Maybe she doesn't want you to pop her cherry. If she does, she probably has an idea as to how she would like it to happen.

 

[Vixandra]

I'm just going to ignore the "lesbians only" restriction and ask: why don't you ask her??? Maybe she doesn't want you to pop her cherry. If she does, she probably has an idea as to how she would like it to happen.

Good point.

Communication- of the best tools in any relationship, be it friendship, marriage, or a BDSM bonding.

I'm not a lesbian, but I am bisexual so offer this. In a non-sexually charged situation that is it NOT in public, talk to her about what happened and what it meant to you. It may have been a fluke that she doesn't want to repeat. Or she may want to continue to have "girl time" with you. If she wants to continue, bring up the subject of her hymen in a non-threatening way. "I'm worried that while fingering you, I may damage/break it, is this a problem?"

Let her direct you on what she wants done with her body. She would be the one that knows it best. Though it sounds like you're a close second.

 

[infinity706]

Honestly, she's pretty much, not a virgin anymore. You can't really go by a hymen. Some women lose theirs before ever having any kind of sexual contact. Some women have really stretchy ones that remain in place no matter how much sex they have. Some women are even born without one.

Now, as for what to do with her, just enjoy yourselves. There's nothing wrong with sex with other women. It really varies much more from person to person rather than between men and women, anyway.

 

[clutch1]

A hymen is a girls best friend.

Carol Channing used to sing it in the shower at a very young age.

 

[temp256]

My friend seduced me, and strung me along for a bit before telling me she had no intentions of a relationship. Actually, she didn't tell me she wasn't interested, but rather started telling me about her new date. I stopped talking to her because of it.

If you're having doubts about it, talk to her immediately. I felt used, especially because I lost one of my very few friends. It can work out, but only if you're careful. Tell her your thoughts and concerns, and be very clear about how you still like her as a friend, and you'll still like her even if she doesn't want to pursue a relationship.

 

[DominaDoll]

Hi Sara

Lots of good advice here. Yes, ask her what she'd like to explore. Penetration is only one aspect of sexual contact, and for many women, not all that important. Most women get off from Clitoral stimulation. However, you could suggest mutual masturbation with a each other's hands if she is interested in being penetrated or with a small insert-able dildo (try silicone - soft & body friendly).

She what her reaction is as you penetrate. Go slow, use lots of lube, get her really fucking horny first so she is out of her mind. You could also try G-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation, using your fingers in a come-hither.

But, definitely talk about what she would like to explore with you. Maybe she wants to be spanked, who knows?!

 

[IrisAlthea]

I'm just going to ignore the "lesbians only" restriction and ask: why don't you ask her??? Maybe she doesn't want you to pop her cherry. If she does, she probably has an idea as to how she would like it to happen.

I agree.

 

[txstanford]

Hi Sara: unless a condition is absolute and unvarying, then I probably shouldn't be posting here because I'm not a lesbian. I'm not even sure I qualify as a bi-sexual, either, because that element of my sex life doesn't predominate. However. . .

I can only say that you seem to have a pretty good understanding anyway of what's needed in the kind of fairly sustained relationship you appear to be anticipating:

Communication. Trust. And an ability to care.

I do hope the relationship develops for you and your friend. If you're as careful of each other's minds as you are of each other's bodies, then that's as good as it gets.

* On a strictly anatomical note, infinity's is well worth noting, because "losing it" or "keeping it" can with many women be an irrelevance. And Dominadoll's advice re silicone is (G?) spot on.


Tyler

 

[gloriann]

I'm in agreement with the posters who said, "ask her." My virginity was taken by a woman, and frankly, for me, it was a, well, so what? I'd had sex often prior to that, didn't change anything at all for me. I know it is a big deal for a lot of people, so communication would be key here.

 

[DominaDoll]

Lesbians Only?

Where is the Lesbian's Only Restriction? I must have missed that on the way in, cause I read Ladies only?

 

[Cajon555]

Where is the Lesbian's Only Restriction? I must have missed that on the way in, cause I read Ladies only?

Hmmm, I guess she didn't say "lesbians only." The OP title was "Lesbians! Advice required." I read the lesbo only into the post.

 

[sara_adrift]

Hi everyone,

I'm going with the obvious suggestion and talk to her about it. I know technically she's not a virgin cuz we've been have sex and stuff, but it's still there and I'm not going to do that unless she wants me too. Besides, it means a lot to her even if she isn't technically a virgin anymore, so I gotta make sure she is happy

~sara