Lesbian Square Dance

[deezire1900]

I am looking for feed back on this thing I call the Lesbian Square Dance. (everyone switch partners)

The subject is being touched on in the show "the L word".

Recently, I wanted to ask a very wonderful, smart, and funny woman out on a date...so I did the proper thing and talked to a couple of her friends (also somewhat new friends of mine) and she had had a relationship (sex involved) with all three that I talked too. Granted, they said she was a great person, they love her so much, and all that, but I just couldn't do it!

Why don't women date outside their "circle"?

Lazy?

Scared?

Do we like to end relationships between our friends out of jealousy?

Discuss...

 

[roxanne69]

No matter what city you're in, the lesbian community is like that. LOL One big incestous happy family.

I went to see The Vagina Monologues with my 1st gf (we have been friends for 30 yrs) and we were sitting behind my last gf. And of course we all whispered throught the whole thing. I don't know why it's like that. Lesbian politics..trying to figure it out would make one's head explode. heehee

 

[deezire1900]

no wonder we try to convert straight girls...fresh meat. JUST KIDDING!

 

[gypsywitch]

I pictured women actually square-dancing.

That would be fun. It'd be weird to stand on the guy's side though.

Guess I'm not into the hip lingo of the community.

Most of the lesbians I have contact with are "chunky" Pagans.

 

[deezire1900]

why is this subject dead?

boring?

 

[sigh]

why is this subject dead?

boring?

Well...speaking for myself, it has nothing to do with my life at all. Right now I'm in a monogamous relationship with a woman who never had sex with another woman before me (she is divorced and has two sons). Before her, I had sex one crazy, drunken night with a dear friend, for whom I was her one and only same-sex fling. And prior to her, I was introduced to lesbian sex by a college friend, with whom I had a relationship for several years, right up until I was Maid of Honor in her wedding.

So, it's not a subject I relate to. However, I'm more than happy to give it a bump for you to see if anyone else wants to chime in.

 

[deezire1900]

Interesting past...

I just know it happens, but it is like unspoken.

 

[Etoile]

why is this subject dead?

boring?

LOL! I was in the same situation as gypsywitch - I thought this was about traditional square dancing! I thought "hmm, not too into that myself" so I passed the thread by until just now.

But anyway...

It's apparently a real phenomenon, because it's pretty well known, but I've never experienced it myself. I think its inclusion in The L Word is just a gimmick to prove that the producers know a little something about the lesbian community.

 

[deezire1900]

Agree...I just think as a community we are limiting ourselves...as to "baggage free" relationships.

 

[gypsywitch]

Pictures would be nice.