Leather Femme Daddies.....

[snowy ciara]

It seems like a contradiction in terms, but I've met someone who identifies this way. Veni, vedi, Googli.. and I have found one reference in cyberspace. It's in a thread on a pretty cool lesbian site. I'd post the link, but I don't know if I'm allowed to link to a competing site. Technically speaking, it's commercial so I don't think I can but if you PM me, I can link you there.

Anyway.

It appears that a Leather Femme Daddy is a Leather Femme PYL that personifies Daddy energy. I'm not real clear on the differences between Daddy energy and Mommy energy, but I have a vague idea. It's one of those things that I can sense the difference, but I can't really verbalize it. So, has anyone heard of Leather Femme Daddies? What do you think? Can you lend me any clues about the differences between Daddies and Mommies in the Leather sense? Cause I'm baffled.

 

[Netzach]

Think about various Mom stereotypes.

Now think about various Dad stereotypes.

I can't definitively pin down the difference between Mom and Dad in a universal sense, I just know what those energies feel like when I encounter them and they are different. I know that "I know it when I see it" is a lame answer, but that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Now, to me, a leather femme daddy would be a female top who has more of the "dad" characteristics and happens to like presenting as a femme, rather than as a butch. This makes sense to me. She may even ID as a female drag queen or a fag trapped in a girl body or something of that sort, but just as likely not.

 

[snowy ciara]

Thank you Netzach. It's always cool to get a Leather POV. 'specially when it comes with an av like that.

 

[Xelebes]

Dad: Catch the ball, Lisa.

Mom: Mrhmmmmmmmmmm...


Sorry.

 

[snowy ciara]

Admit it, you just came in to oogle Netzach's legs again.

 

[Xelebes]

Mmmmm....maybe.

 

[benji43]

very sexy !

 

[Etoile]

Nobody pointed me to this thread! *cries*

In other news, Netzach rules the world.

 

[snowy ciara]

I'm sorry! Please lend me any and all insights in Leather Daddies of any gender? Pretty please, because well, I sorta know one. And she's sorta really really nice... And, erm, hot. Very hot.

 

[graceanne]

Nobody pointed me to this thread! *cries*

In other news, Netzach rules the world.

I didn't realize you hadn't seen it. I was wondering why you hadn't replied.

 

[Etoile]

I'm sorry! Please lend me any and all insights in Leather Daddies of any gender? Pretty please, because well, I sorta know one. And she's sorta really really nice... And, erm, hot. Very hot.

I think leatherfolk are a lot more conscious of what they do both in and out of the bedroom...I'm not sure why. I have lots of friends who are into leather (I interpret for leather events locally) and they seem to be much more aware of how they are treating others. I have no idea what about the leather lifestyle encourages this or draws people who are naturally like this, but all of the leatherfolk I know are super-nice and super-caring.

As for femme Daddies, have you seen Rocky Horror? I actually kind of think of Frank as a femme Daddy type! He's both feminine and domineering...totally not sure why he springs to mind when I think of a femme Daddy!

 

[snowy ciara]

Hmm, I can see that... The sexy motorcycle leather lady gives off a definate Daddy vibe..

 

[graceanne]

Actually I'm rather confused about the difference between a 'daddy' and a 'mommy'. Take into mind that my dad left when I was two, and my step dad is a wuss. My mother raised me. I know that Betticus is considered a 'daddy-dom', and I know he gets real cranky if I try and boss him around. He also can be pretty darn bossy - especially when it comes to my stress levels.

And I know that I'm considered a mommy or aunt type person, because I worry so much and try and take to care of people. But I'd think that a daddy does the same thing. I'm confused.

 

[Etoile]

I was raised by my mom also - my biological father was abusive and they split before I was two, my first stepdad died of cancer before I was five (don't remember either of them), and my mom didn't remarry until I was 12. So all my really formative years were just me and my mom. I don't know if part of the reason I ended up with a Daddy is because subconsciously I never really had one as a child, or if Daddy/girl is just the relationship type that's right for me.

I definitely think a Daddy can be just as nurturing as a Mommy. I was actually thinking about Daddy roles vs. Mommy roles earlier today, and I couldn't really figure out what the difference is. I guess maybe I think of Mommies as more forgiving? They are both definitely nurturers and teachers, but I kind of feel like Daddies can be more stern...?

 

[snowy ciara]

I can't verbalize the difference either. It feels different, much in the way water feels different at different temperatures. I mean, water feels wet, but hot water feels different than cold.

 

[Netzach]

I think it's not just that Mommy vs. Daddy is different, it's the whole relationship. Mom/son versus Dad/son versus Dad/girl versus Mom/girl -- those are going to play out differently.

 

[graceanne]

I was raised by my mom also - my biological father was abusive and they split before I was two, my first stepdad died of cancer before I was five (don't remember either of them), and my mom didn't remarry until I was 12. So all my really formative years were just me and my mom. I don't know if part of the reason I ended up with a Daddy is because subconsciously I never really had one as a child, or if Daddy/girl is just the relationship type that's right for me.

I definitely think a Daddy can be just as nurturing as a Mommy. I was actually thinking about Daddy roles vs. Mommy roles earlier today, and I couldn't really figure out what the difference is. I guess maybe I think of Mommies as more forgiving? They are both definitely nurturers and teachers, but I kind of feel like Daddies can be more stern...?

Ok, I can see that, I guess. My mom was a bitch, but I know that I'm not stern or unforgiving, and I've been told I'm a 'mommy'.

 

[snowy ciara]

You are, but I get a total different vibe from you than I do from A. A has a definate Daddy vibe even when she's doing stuff for me. Being sick this week, she's done movie and grocery and drug store runs for me, and has been very kind and a bit mushy, but I don't get a "mum" feeling from her as I do from you. And it's not just because she's a Gay PYL and you're a straight pyl. It's an energy thing.

 

[graceanne]

You are, but I get a total different vibe from you than I do from A.

You know if I spent more time in the r/l bdsm community I'd probably have a better idea what you all are talking about. Generally 'vibes' are easier to feel when it's r/l. Probably part of my problem is I've never chatted with a daddy domme, so I don't have anything to 'regular' domme's to.

 

[snowy ciara]

I wonder how to put this, so that I can ask specifically what I want and not offend anyone.

Does anyone know of any sort of the Daddies in question who would be willing to lend an opinion or POV from their end of the power flow? Etoile, is there any way that we could beg your Daddy to lend us a view? If not, I'll muddle through as best as I can here.

 

[Etoile]

Unfortunately mine would probably just shhrug eir shoulders and say "I dunno" but I will see iif I can pry anything else out. I know a few other daddies whose thoughts I can solicit, too.

 

[snowy ciara]

Thank you etoile! I'd ask A but everytime I see her my tongue sort of sticks to the roof of my mouth and I can't breathe. She probably thinks I'm asthmatic or something.

 

[angelus dolorum]

I wonder how to put this, so that I can ask specifically what I want and not offend anyone.

Does anyone know of any sort of the Daddies in question who would be willing to lend an opinion or POV from their end of the power flow? Etoile, is there any way that we could beg your Daddy to lend us a view? If not, I'll muddle through as best as I can here.

I gave my Daddy this link. Now whether or not She'll chime in is another thing entirely.


Btw, i'm new here. Hello

 

[Etoile]

Here's what somebody in a queer daddy/girl group said in response:
"Daddy energy is like the Sun. Bold, confident, Dominant, Prideful. It
warms her tender heart, Keeps her safe and well cared for. The energy is
transcendent, making her drunk with hys strength and desire. It is an
energy that intimadates and soothes. It overpowers with a respect earned.
The electricity that comes when I touch her skin. The weight of my soul
when she is beneath me. The way eyes are drawn to me when I walk into a
room. It is an energy not hidden or shamed. It is Not a burden or an
effort. It is innate to those whose a true to it's purpose. Although it
is mastered and controlled for each purpose in it's path. Her hands yearn
for it. To be bound to it. To be cradled and secured by it. It is not
confused by or with Ego. Only the humble can claim it. It is born and
bred. And it is ME-"

 

[graceanne]

Here's what somebody in a queer daddy/girl group said in response:
"Daddy energy is like the Sun. Bold, confident, Dominant, Prideful. It
warms her tender heart, Keeps her safe and well cared for. The energy is
transcendent, making her drunk with hys strength and desire. It is an
energy that intimadates and soothes. It overpowers with a respect earned.
The electricity that comes when I touch her skin. The weight of my soul
when she is beneath me. The way eyes are drawn to me when I walk into a
room. It is an energy not hidden or shamed. It is Not a burden or an
effort. It is innate to those whose a true to it's purpose. Although it
is mastered and controlled for each purpose in it's path. Her hands yearn
for it. To be bound to it. To be cradled and secured by it. It is not
confused by or with Ego. Only the humble can claim it. It is born and
bred. And it is ME-"

Wow, that's cool. Thank you, Etoile.