lasting longer

[Babydoll508]

Does anyone have any advice on how to get my husband to last longer. Everytime we have sex, he ejaculates so quickly. And I get nothing out of it. But when I give him a blow job he takes forever.

 

[It'sasecret]

Join the club. Mine is the same way.

 

[Lili]

My bf is the same way. To get around it, he makes me cum with his hands or mouth.

The down side is that I really miss a good long fuck like my ex used to give me.

Then again, my ex turned out to be gay, so no wonder it took him so long to cum with me - girls weren't his thing.

I have read of some exercises that sex therapists use with couples who have this problem. Have sex just up until the point of orgasm, then stop. Do this repeatedly over the course of a few days/weeks, trying to last longer and longer each time. It's frustrating, but it might work - and think of the fun you'll have while you practice!

Let me know if it works!
Lili

 

[PrettySarcasticF]

Talking slows him down ...

I can honestly say I don't have such a problem with my man.

But I have read in some magazines how talking to him can help ...it will slow him down for some time. I don't mean a full out conversation but I think we know what I mean when I say " talking".

Hope this helps a little.

 

[Guest]

Perhaps age and experience makes a difference...however.......

Thesandman just turned fifty. Like "most" males, that initial excitement can end far too quickly unless you take the time to savor the experience. When I find myself riding along that rollercoaster of ecstasy to a too soon of finish, it's time to switch rides.

In otherwords, go and perform someother enjoyable moment with your partner, i.e., such as going down on her, or simply going back to enjoy her beautiful breasts for a while. Too many men get impatient and forget there is alot about a woman that is there to enjoy (pleasure) without being in a rush to get one's nuts off!

After a time, then go back to some nice easy intercourse, different position, whatever it takes.

And secondly...I may be fifty, but I can still manage a second nice orgasm in an evening. And the second one always takes longer, is always just as nice if not more so than the first, and more importantly.....my partner is the one that benefits from it.

So guys....slow down, take your time....and "listen" to what "her" needs are....and then both of you can truly enjoy yourselves.

And this.....as it should be!

To sleep........perchance to dream - William Shakespear

I remain..........

 

[Natalie Nessus]

 

[StevenWill]

Lasting longer

The technique Lili mentions is the start-stop technique and it will work, but you need to do it during intercourse.

Men are relaxed during oral sex so there is a hint there. In intercourse, men often feel that are performing and perhaps being judged on their performance. Performance anxiety causes early ejaculation, along with the use of some physically stressful positions. If a man is worried that he will cum to soon, he is dead. That worry will make him cum to soon. And it just snowballs after that, more worry, more early cuming, more worry.....

Find a position that is relxing, like woman on top or doggie. Or, have him have an orgasm before intercourse begins and another during intercourse.

Good communication along with the stop-start technique will cure the problem, but may take some time and, of course, both have to want it to happen.

Dr. Steve

 

[SpiritRaven]

Techniques

A good technique to lasting longer is to work your PC muscle. This is the muscle you contract when you stop yourself from peeing. Have your hubby concentrate on that muscle and tense it for brief period of time. One excercise is to contract it as long as you can and then release and relax. Repeat this for about 5 reps. Another excercise is to pulse the PC muscle. Have your hubby tense quickly then relax, tense quickly then relax for about ten reps. Repeat these two excercises one to two times daily and you should see amazing results in his stamina and enjoyment.

 

[mrlonely]

Hi Babydoll!!!

You may be able to fix this problem with Climax Control Lubricants. Please let me know if this works for you.

 

[PrettySarcasticF]

Climaz wha ?!?!?

Mrlonely...

What are those ?!?!?

Never heard of those climax things....

 

[StevenWill]

Desensitizing sprays and lubes. One is called "Prolong." I suggest learning how to last longer rather than numbing you penis.

steven

 

[Natalie Nessus]

 

[Spokanite]

I find that I can last alot longer the more sex I have. If I go a week without sex then I cum much quicker. I can also last much longer in the morning for some reason. When my wife wakes me up in the morning it takes forever for me to cum.