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Closet Desire
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Works for me...
I've heard advice that you should think about something besides having sex, but I found something that worked better for me. I pay close attention to my lover and watch her in ecstacy. I get so wrapped up in that I can choose when to cum rather than cumming choosing me.
I've heard advice that you should think about something besides having sex, but I found something that worked better for me. I pay close attention to my lover and watch her in ecstacy. I get so wrapped up in that I can choose when to cum rather than cumming choosing me.
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Its really hard to try and help you, with the little information you have given. How often do you have sex? Sometimes if you go without sex for a period of time, it does'nt take long to achieve orgasm.
One thing you might try, give him a blow job or hand job first, then start your foreplay again. He should last longer the second or even third time.
Does he stop after he has an orgasm? hell, thats what the tongue is for, he should have his head buried between your legs, until you have an orgasm. He should be aroused enough by then to satisfy you without the premature ejaculation.
Hope this helps ya.
[Edited by Roll-One on 01-26-2001 at 08:45 PM]
One thing you might try, give him a blow job or hand job first, then start your foreplay again. He should last longer the second or even third time.
Does he stop after he has an orgasm? hell, thats what the tongue is for, he should have his head buried between your legs, until you have an orgasm. He should be aroused enough by then to satisfy you without the premature ejaculation.
Hope this helps ya.
[Edited by Roll-One on 01-26-2001 at 08:45 PM]
okay, we have sex about twice a week on average, i would try to get him to go down on me in between rounds but he wont do it, in fact i cant even remember the last time he gave me oral sex, kinda sad actually, we've talked about it and he has his reasons for not doing it, most of which that are extremely embarassing to me, but anyway, usually after we have sex he gets really tired and goes to sleep or goes home, when he goes home he makes me feel like a total prostitute, but thats beside the point, i just want our sexual experience to last longer, half the time i dont even get off and have to lie to him about having an orgasm...hope someone can help us 
Nope. I'm afraid that your "besides the point" is exactly the point. I think there are some pretty strong underlying issues there that need to be taken care of. It doesn't seem like you two are connected in more than just the physical sense. I think you need to have more of an emotion connection. If he just wants to roll over and sleep or go home and you end up feeling like a prostitute, that needs to be taken care of first.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Closet Desire
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Kinda sad...
...I agree. Doesn't sound like my method will work unless he's really interested in pleasing you. No oral? No cuddling afterward? No second and third goes? You probably deserve better and maybe he deserves someone who is satisfied with what he offers.
...I agree. Doesn't sound like my method will work unless he's really interested in pleasing you. No oral? No cuddling afterward? No second and third goes? You probably deserve better and maybe he deserves someone who is satisfied with what he offers.
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The others are right about targeting the problem of mutual give and take in sex, you may find his dick smelly at times, or ugly looking and probably uncomfortable in your mouth and other places at times, maybe just at first, but the point is you are willing to make the sacrafices so that you can both feel the pleasureable rewards. He's being a wimp and selfish.
That point aside, something I've done before is whenever I think I'm going to cum, I pull out and squeeze my dick right at the head to block it. Then after a moment when its settled down again, go on back in. Usually helps.
The others are right about targeting the problem of mutual give and take in sex, you may find his dick smelly at times, or ugly looking and probably uncomfortable in your mouth and other places at times, maybe just at first, but the point is you are willing to make the sacrafices so that you can both feel the pleasureable rewards. He's being a wimp and selfish.
That point aside, something I've done before is whenever I think I'm going to cum, I pull out and squeeze my dick right at the head to block it. Then after a moment when its settled down again, go on back in. Usually helps.
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Robbied's technique is called the squeeze technique and it is effective. If you do it enough, he will learn to retreat from the point of orgasm and last longer. Thinking about other things usually doesn't work. You have to concentrate on what you are feeling and where you are to learn how to control your arousal. But, from your second post, it seems you have other problems. Oral sex is not a sacrifice or duty. Sex is not an exchange of gifts, it is a mutual pleasure. You can't goad into doing it by guilt. I consider oral sex a priviledge and something I do because it brings me great pleasure aside from her pleasure. And many women derive great joy from giving oral sex to men.
You two need a long talk about your whole relationship and it needs to take place outside the bedroom and over several days or weeks. You two are out of touch and, sadly, may not be right for each other at all. Best of luck. Steven
You two need a long talk about your whole relationship and it needs to take place outside the bedroom and over several days or weeks. You two are out of touch and, sadly, may not be right for each other at all. Best of luck. Steven
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Well, there was a time there when this was happening to me and mine. We got creative! I bought this nice long, thick dildo and now if he comes too soon, we just keep going. He enjoys watching the dildo pushing in and out of my pussy and then when he gets ready again, off we go. Sometimes he will watch me do it to myself but most of the time he wants to fuck me with it. It takes some of the pressure off of him to have to keep it up forever.
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dump the jerk! If he cares more about his pleasure than yours, then he aint worth it. There are plenty of guys out who love to drive women wild in various techniques (i'm on of them) I always believed the girl should multiple-orgasm before the guy.
But to answer the original question, what helped me hold out was simply experience. The more sex I had, the easier it was for me to hold it. I can pretty much go as long as I wish, sometimes even not cumming at all. I ALWAYS last longer than the girl. Also: masterbation helps. I think that by cumming at least once a day, that when it comes time for sex I can hold it even longer. Its way more enjoyable for all parties that way....
But to answer the original question, what helped me hold out was simply experience. The more sex I had, the easier it was for me to hold it. I can pretty much go as long as I wish, sometimes even not cumming at all. I ALWAYS last longer than the girl. Also: masterbation helps. I think that by cumming at least once a day, that when it comes time for sex I can hold it even longer. Its way more enjoyable for all parties that way....
