Last longer?

[Briton]

When I masturbate.. it takes like 2 mins. Regardless of whether or not I do the techniques... like masturbating till I start to feel it, and then stop again, then it lasts maybe 10 minutes. But if I constantly masturbate, again it's 2 minutes.

The odd thing about it is that I've been taking cymbalta for the past three weeks (which is an anti-depressant like effexor), and while it's more difficult to get an erection in the first place, once I do I last around as long as I did before and yet I hear that an increase in stamina is a usual side effect alongside the difficulty in getting erections.

Oddly enough the few times I've had sex have been not so bad.. my ejaculation was delayed somewhat but that was possibly because I was pretty drunk all of those times. Is it usual to ejaculate quicker from masturbation than from sex?

Honestly, the prospect of a sober sexual encouter scares me a little because it will be similar to my masturbation.. what can I do?

I've heard about a product called 'Horny Goats Weed'? Anyone have any experience with it?

Eek.

 

[only_more_so]

It can go either way. On the one hand, pun intended, when you masturbate you know exactly what feels good and go ahead and do it. With sex you aren't guaranteed your partner will be as obliging.

On the other hand, a vagina feels much better than a hand ever could. That is what it is designed for after all (at least in part). So there are things that can make it last longer or shorter. The question is how the equation balances for you.

The best advice I have ever heard for someone who is afraid of an early finish is to make foreplay last as long as possible. The clock doesn't start for you until you are inside of her. But for her, the more time you spend outside, the less time you will have to spend inside to make her happy. Correct me if I'm wrong ladies.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I defintely last longer during sex than I do masturbating. Not sure what else to say, but I don't think that's too uncommon.

 

[Bindii]

Horny Goats Weed is a Aphrodisiac, and as it doesn't seem that you are having trouble in this department I wouldn't be bothered trying it.

As the others have said when you masturbate you know exactly what you like, what is going to work for you therefore you are going to orgasm quickly - if thats bothering you try masturbating with your other hand, or by using a different technique.

And yes it is usual to cum quicker from masturbation that with sex - the same applies to us ladies.

Don't worry I seriously doubt that you are going to ejaculate too fast when with a lady. My hubby ejaculates vey quickly when masturbating, but lasts for ages when we are having intercourse.

 

[SweetErika]

I agree if you spend plenty of time pleasing your partner, it likely won't matter how long you can last during PiV sex. Give her several orgasms, and she'll be a happy camper.

However, if you still want to last longer, here are three things that should help:

1) Condoms, though it sounds like your situation dictates using them regardless

2) Getting off first by:
a) Masturbating before or during the encounter
b) Doing something (handjob, blowjob, sex-then-rest-then-try again, etc.) with your partner that brings you to orgasm, then going again

3) Learn to control yourself through building and using your PC muscles with Kegel exercises, thinking unsexy thoughts, etc.

Don't use alcohol or supplements, ESPECIALLY without your doctor's approval (and no doctor's going to approve a combo that will lead you to liver failure, other serious problems, or death). Plus, there's nothing sexy about a shitfaced partner.