Ladies...what makes a man attractive?

[jamesUK1]

Hi there everyone,

This is my first post here really and having been single for a while I'd like to know from you ladies what makes a man attractive to you?

Also any tips on meeting women would be great

Thanks!

James
30m uk

 

[fuckmehard0027]

attrativeness

Hey James, It all depends on the lady I would assume. Me personally I like aggressive and tenacious people. Men who go after what they want. But I think every woman loves a man who will open the door for her, good conversation, be nice but not too too nice. Women are not as fickle as some men. They may not be attracted to you at once but then they may change thier mind

 

[jamesUK1]

Thanks for that - so it's all about the persons attitude rather than looks or do looks still play a large part?

James
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[yumsum]

All about the money & being manly

 

[elizaloo]

My two cents

Looks play a part certainly; I'm drawn to tall dark-haired guys, but a short blond guy with a great attitude can be appealing as well.

Personally I'd have to go with attitude. Maybe I'm just a raging optimist but I really think that if you approach life with an open attitude...... "come what may" then you find that people are drawn to you. A smile makes a huge difference too.

Ditto what fuckme said - be nice, be confident, be polite..ask questions; women like you to want to get to know them..plus, we all know that people like to talk about themselves. Some of us can't be shut up when we get started.....

 

[jamesUK1]

Looks play a part certainly; I'm drawn to tall dark-haired guys, but a short blond guy with a great attitude can be appealing as well.

Personally I'd have to go with attitude. Maybe I'm just a raging optimist but I really think that if you approach life with an open attitude...... "come what may" then you find that people are drawn to you. A smile makes a huge difference too.

Ditto what fuckme said - be nice, be confident, be polite..ask questions; women like you to want to get to know them..plus, we all know that people like to talk about themselves. Some of us can't be shut up when we get started.....

Thanks Elizaboo...I'm tall and dark haired if that's a help! I do try and approach life with a come what may attitude and am even thinking of ditching day job and going self employed but my self confidence is a bit lacking at the moment...

I don't think I look very attractive, especially when I smile so perhaps that is a hinderance.

I do try to get to know people and show an interest but at my age almost all women seem to be in relationships...thus drawing a blank!

Thanks though for your advice - how can I build my self confidence?

James
xx

 

[jamesUK1]

All about the money & being manly

Thanks for the advice...Am a bit short of cash this month so I guess i need to come up with a money making scheme soon!! I can still afford to wine and dine though!!

Can be very many though!!!

James
x

 

[HisSecretGirl]

*if he smiles easily
*if he slows down and pays attention
*manners
*maturity level (that's a big one)

 

[Katze]

A man who really and truly loves, respects and appreciates women

Good hygiene

Intelligence

Sense of humor

 

[jamesUK1]

*if he smiles easily
*if he slows down and pays attention
*manners
*maturity level (that's a big one)

Hi SecretGirl.

Thanks for your input...always welcome! Can I ask a few Q's...

1. What do you mean by slows down and pays attention?
2. I have manners (always open doors etc) so ok - can see that
3. What about maturity for you - want someone who is young and fun irrespective of age or acts their age?

Thanks hon for your advice..!

James
xxxx

 

[jamesUK1]

A man who really and truly loves, respects and appreciates women

Good hygiene

Intelligence

Sense of humor

Blimey...that sounds like me...

So what am I doing wring Katze???!

James
xx

 

[Auraka6669]

Confidence.

Manners.

Matching outlook on life.

In a nutshell that's what makes men attractive to women. Looks help, but aren't the end all be all. I'm not the sexiest guy on the face of gods green earth... yet I carry myself as such.

This doesn't stop at women though. Same is true of work. I'd rather give the job to a guy that is attentive and assertive vs the guy who's asking me how to get the job.....

Take it for what it's worth.

 

[HisSecretGirl]

Hi SecretGirl.

Thanks for your input...always welcome! Can I ask a few Q's...

1. What do you mean by slows down and pays attention?
2. I have manners (always open doors etc) so ok - can see that
3. What about maturity for you - want someone who is young and fun irrespective of age or acts their age?

Thanks hon for your advice..!

James
xxxx

sure...by slowing down it means someone who appreciates the little things in life. a smile, a hug, stopping traffic for a mother duck and her chicks walking across the road. being kind to someone who needs it right then..

and maturity...someone who has a lot of life experience...can give me advice when i ask for it.

hope that helps

 

[jamesUK1]

Keep em coming..!

Wow, thanks to all who have made the effort to post advice for me!

Much appreciated...keep it coming..as I have much to learn

Thanks ladies

James
xx

 

[jamesUK1]

Confidence.

Manners.

Matching outlook on life.

In a nutshell that's what makes men attractive to women. Looks help, but aren't the end all be all. I'm not the sexiest guy on the face of gods green earth... yet I carry myself as such.

This doesn't stop at women though. Same is true of work. I'd rather give the job to a guy that is attentive and assertive vs the guy who's asking me how to get the job.....

Take it for what it's worth.

Thanks Auraka - I can see where you are coming from...

Confidence in oneself is important and seems to be a theme so far!

Thanks

James

 

[Auraka6669]

Blimey...that sounds like me...

So what am I doing wring Katze???!

James
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I'm not Katze, or a woman. Since you want it tailored to you though. I'll give you some random thoughts from a 23 year old maniac's mind.

You may appreciate women, but you don't see the worth in yourself. As such, how can anyone else hope to see the same in you...?

Ever hear the term, "You can't help anyone until you help yourself first?" Same is true of a relationship. You're self worth and being must be at a level that you AUTHENTICALLY believe yourself to be worthy of another's love. Interestingly enough, when that happens... you'll be in love with yourself and the rest won't matter. Another cliche term comes to mind. "Watched water never boils." or "The hunter who chases, will never catch."

PS. Do note that manners doesn't mean opening doors for women. Depending on the woman and/or event that could be rude. It's about knowing where you are and who you're with... and what is appropriate. Trick is, you've got to be able to pull it off without compromising who you are. Else you're lying, and women don't like liars.

 

[jamesUK1]

sure...by slowing down it means someone who appreciates the little things in life. a smile, a hug, stopping traffic for a mother duck and her chicks walking across the road. being kind to someone who needs it right then..

and maturity...someone who has a lot of life experience...can give me advice when i ask for it.

hope that helps

Thanks SecretGirl...All of that really helps...

can I ask a question? There seems to be a fine line between being there for advice and there for "I want advice from you because I want to be with you"...I struggle with that...Any thoughts?

James
xx

 

[HisSecretGirl]

Thanks SecretGirl...All of that really helps...

can I ask a question? There seems to be a fine line between being there for advice and there for "I want advice from you because I want to be with you"...I struggle with that...Any thoughts?

James
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that's a tough one....personally i only like advice 1) if i ask for it and 2) from someone i respect.

so it depends on who it is. hey, add that one to the list. respect

oh and LOL someone put good personal hygeine. hilarious. i would hope both men and women work on this

 

[jamesUK1]

that's a tough one....personally i only like advice 1) if i ask for it and 2) from someone i respect.

so it depends on who it is. hey, add that one to the list. respect

oh and LOL someone put good personal hygeine. hilarious. i would hope both men and women work on this

OK so respect is key and taking advice when asked...

I'm clean...shower twice a day me!! lol - I know where you're cumming from tho'

James
xx

 

[HisSecretGirl]

OK so respect is key and taking advice when asked...

I'm clean...shower twice a day me!! lol - I know where you're cumming from tho'

James
xx

a man who smells good usually tastes good too

 

[jamesUK1]

I try...!

Thanks hon!

xxx

 

[Katze]

Blimey...that sounds like me...

So what am I doing wring Katze???!

James
xx

Not living near me!

 

[Katze]

Seriously

I agree with what was said before about being okay with who you are. To that, I add, know yourself well enough to know what you want, that way you'll recognize her when you meet her. It really sucks to be with a guy who just wants to be with someone, anyone, a warm body. And, if you have self-respect and believe you're worthy, you'll treat her well.

Oh yeah...it really helps to be an incredibly good kisser.

 

[jamesUK1]

I agree with what was said before about being okay with who you are. To that, I add, know yourself well enough to know what you want, that way you'll recognize her when you meet her. It really sucks to be with a guy who just wants to be with someone, anyone, a warm body. And, if you have self-respect and believe you're worthy, you'll treat her well.

Oh yeah...it really helps to be an incredibly good kisser.

Thanks Katze, I agree.

I respect women greatly, more than just a warm body but someone I could be happy with. I'm too much of a gentleman for that.

I've been told I'm a good kisser...but limited sample of 4!

Cheers

James

 

[jamesUK1]

i'm off to bed - thanks to the people who have replied...will be back again in the morning....keep em coming.

James
xxxxx