Ladies - What Head Technique is Most Effective for You?

[JohnZee]

When I was younger, a more experienced girlfriend taught me to suck her clit between my lips (she liked it intensely, but preferences seem to vary between girls), whilst licking it with my tongue, and working my finger / fingers in and out of her pussy at the same time. I don't think this technique has ever let me down. If all else fails, it's the one I go to.

I also find the tongue-working-in-and-out-of-the-pussy-whilst-rubbing-the-clit-with-the-finger technique to be effective.

So, what other techniques should a guy have in his repertoire?

 

[Eilan]

When I was 18 I had an affair with a 20 year old. She taught me to suck her clit between my lips (she liked it intensely, but preferences seem to vary between girls), whilst licking it with my tongue, and working my finger / fingers in and out of her pussy at the same time. I don't think this technique has ever let me down. If all else fails, it's the one I go to.

I also find the tongue-working-in-and-out-of-the-pussy-whilst-rubbing-the-clit-with-the-finger technique to be effective.

So, what other techniques should a guy have in his repertoire?

Fixed your post.

Women are all different and stuff. The most important technique you can have is the ability to listen to your partner and take your cues about what she likes from her.

 

[JohnZee]

Of course, you're totally right. But it's always good to know new techniques. You might learn something she likes, but doesn't know. Whilst porn can teach you a fair amount of tricks, it's mostly catering to a male audience, so doesn't pay as much attention to getting the girl off.

 

[fire_breeze]

Of course, you're totally right. But it's always good to know new techniques. You might learn something she likes, but doesn't know. Whilst porn can teach you a fair amount of tricks, it's mostly catering to a male audience, so doesn't pay as much attention to getting the girl off.

And the rules of the United States, where Lit is located and based on, says 18.

The forum guidelines explicitly states, and I quote

2. You may not post sexually explicit pictures or stories featuring anyone under 18 years old. Literotica does not allow the posting of underage or animal sex pictures - or links to such - on the forum. Please Click Here for our full photo posting guidelines.

Therefore any discussion regarding what is conceived as underaged sex, which for Literotica is considered to be 18, is against the very few rules of the site. You may disagree, that's your prerogative, however seeing as these are the rules set out both by US law and the owners of the site, it might be best to keep them.

 

[LaughingHard]

Interesting he said he was 18, not when he was under 18. It must be the new math???

 

[LadyVer]

Depends on the guy.

 

[themilf]

Whilst porn can teach you a fair amount of tricks, it's mostly catering to a male audience, so doesn't pay as much attention to getting the girl off.

John,

A) Get a girlfriend.

B) Ask her.

C) Do you really think porn was developed/created as a "how to" primer? Just curious.

 

[Miles Long]

The two most important techniques you can have are listening and paying attention. Every woman is different, and many women will not want oral (or any sexual activity) performed exactly the same way every single time.

 

[JohnZee]

Of course, finding out what your partner wants is the most important priority. But, speaking as a guy, I've had girls do things to me that I hadn't thought of (in some cases they were slightly kinky and I'm in two minds about whether developing a taste for such practice is a benefit...), that I now enjoy and request. With my last partner she thanked me for introducing her to new things. Expanding one's knowledge is a never-ending quest - hence my reason for starting the thread.

 

[JohnZee]

>Do you really think porn was developed/created as a "how to" primer? Just curious.

Where did I say that directly? I do, however, think that some porn does have an educative side to it; which can be beneficial - alongside the traditional means such as communication and using one's creativity / initiative. Most porn is formulaic jack-off material, I agree. At the same time, I can think of things I've used on girlfriends which they really liked. Where did the porn director get the idea from in the first place?

Porn's potential (note use of 'potential') for educating has been elucidated by numerous high-profile thinkers over the years - fact.

 

[BeachMomma]

If you want new ideas to try out, I'd suggest going to the main Lit site and reading stories by *female* authors. Or if your masculinity allows (lol), you could invest in some of the erotica that's commercially available - for example, Harlequin Blaze. Those will give you lots of ideas, but as everybody has already said, your girlfriend/wife is the only person who can speak for herself. Alternately, you could read the stories with her and ask her directly, "Do you think that's something you'd like me to do to you?"

 

[NightL]

Porn's potential (note use of 'potential') for educating has been elucidated by numerous high-profile thinkers over the years - fact.

Priceless - fact

 

[Edensgarden]

Oh, and if you're learning from porn I'd strongly suggest NOT spitting on her.

There's a difference between spitting and dropping a little saliva. Saliva is a natural lubricant.

 

[Miles Long]

There's a difference between spitting and dropping a little saliva. Saliva is a natural lubricant.

Saliva might be natural but it's certainly not a great lubricant.

Uh oh.... Cat fight! Let's settle this in the ring, ladies...

 

[Miles Long]

Miles, I thought we talked about this before... I will not wear lycra. It's very unforgiving.

Plus... she'd kick my arse.

Would you feel safer in a pillow fight?

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think that Eden should prove her point to Rainshine. Show her. I'll be there, of course, to take notes and handle all the sciency shit for such an experiment as this. The things I do in the name of science.

 

[Miles Long]

That's how all my girly sleep-overs end. Well, right before we all get naked and spit on each other.

Here's proof that I have issues. I can't even fully enjoy that photo because I look at them playing Scrabble and I say who plays Scrabble on the bed? There's no way those tiles are going to stay in place as these women move around. Board games should be played at a table, end of story. ESPECIALLY one that depends on so many small pieces staying in place. Sheesh!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Big talk, pmann. Big talk.

Fucker.

 

[Edensgarden]

Saliva might be natural but it's certainly not a great lubricant.

I didn't say it was a great lubricant. It's better than nothing if needed.

The point I was trying to make was simply if someone intentionally drops saliva somewhere during sex, oral, handjob, whatever.....it doesn't necessarily mean they are "spitting" on you.

 

[Miles Long]

I didn't say it was a great lubricant. It's better than nothing if needed.

The point I was trying to make was simply if someone intentionally drops saliva somewhere during sex, oral, handjob, whatever.....it doesn't necessarily mean they are "spitting" on you.

Have you ever found it to be the case that Spitting is Quitting?

 

[NightL]

Scrabble? What the hell is he talking about? Scrabble?! Oh there is actually prop in the photo - took me a while.

If you zoom in you will see the winning word was elucidated - fact

 

[Edensgarden]

Have you ever found it to be the case that Spitting is Quitting?

You know I swallow.

 

[themilf]

Porn's potential (note use of 'potential') for educating has been elucidated by numerous high-profile thinkers over the years - fact.

Oh John, do elucidate for me to which high-profile thinkers you refer?

Maybe it's an Australian thing but I have never once heard cunnilingus referred to as head.

Not just an Australian thing. I failed to elucidate how that annoyed me, too. In fact when I saw this title, I thought it was Masadoni trying another tact/a redundant request for "Best dick sucking techniques"!

 

[GrrlFriday]

>Do you really think porn was developed/created as a "how to" primer? Just curious.

Where did I say that directly? I do, however, think that some porn does have an educative side to it; which can be beneficial - alongside the traditional means such as communication and using one's creativity / initiative. Most porn is formulaic jack-off material, I agree. At the same time, I can think of things I've used on girlfriends which they really liked. Where did the porn director get the idea from in the first place?

Porn's potential (note use of 'potential') for educating has been elucidated by numerous high-profile thinkers over the years - fact.

I'd be interested in reading what those 'high-profile thinkers' have to say. Porn may be used as educative, but I doubt that most porn is designed to be as such, or that it is particularly good education. Some would be better than others, but it would be hard to find the gems, or even to identify them when you find them. Romance novels, which have been studied in a similar way, have been shown to be able to influence their readers' attitudes to condom use. ( http://pwq.sagepub.com/content/24/2/179.short ) I can recall reading a passage in an otherwise enjoyable romance novel where the male lead uses a cream-filled sweet pastry as a dildo on the female lead. All I could think of during that was 'that's a one-way ticket to a yeast infection'. There are some how-to videos out there, but porn is made for male entertainment - it is about looks and sounds rather than how the participants are feeling at the time.

As for your original question:

Study up on feminine anatomy and the care and feeding of a healthy vulva.
Make her feel as if you are genuinely enthusiastic about going down on her, for her sake. Don't make it a 'tit for tat' thing, particularly if she's expressed hesitation.
Let her guide you, if she wants to - she has decades more experience in how she needs to be touched to get off, after all.
"The morning after the night before", tell her that you thought it was hot - ask her what she liked best, and if there is something you could do next time that would make it even better for her. If she asks the same, be honest, but don't belittle her.

 

[NightL]

Oh John, do elucidate for me to which high-profile thinkers you refer?

Professor Sinistra Manu and Professor Dexteram Manu

bah, probably got that wrong - but I'll blame it on Professor Google