Ladies please help

[sparky1ma]

I have a 19 yo granddaughter/daughter, she has led a verrrrry sheltered life she has Cerebal Paulsy she is a very smart and articulate girl, but being in a wheelchair does not get her spoken to by members of the opposite sex. My wife and I speak very frankly and openly about sex with her, hell we even bought her her first vibrator, but she has become very depressed as of late because she says she doesn't know anything about sex, she says "I've never even seen a real penis" she wants a subscription to Playgirl which I don't mind paying for, but I wonder if that is the best option. I guess my wife and I aren't sure what the best course of action is. Any advise would be appreciated.

 

[cheapperfume]

I have a 19 yo granddaughter/daughter, she has led a verrrrry sheltered life she has Cerebal Paulsy she is a very smart and articulate girl, but being in a wheelchair does not get her spoken to by members of the opposite sex. My wife and I speak very frankly and openly about sex with her, hell we even bought her her first vibrator, but she has become very depressed as of late because she says she doesn't know anything about sex, she says "I've never even seen a real penis" she wants a subscription to Playgirl which I don't mind paying for, but I wonder if that is the best option. I guess my wife and I aren't sure what the best course of action is. Any advise would be appreciated.

Firstly, I think that it’s wonderful the two of you are so supportive. It sounds like you have an incredibly healthy relationship with your granddaughter/daughter (which is utterly refreshing to hear about *smiles*) I was raised by my grandparents and found the generation gap to sometimes be a little bit tedious, haha.

I am in the same age bracket of your daughter. I have recently discovered my sexuality -- something I was constantly worried I would never find. I have also dated a man who had been confined to a wheelchair since the age of thirteen. Topics quite similar to the one discussed here were often bought up.

I think it’s healthy to support your daughter in her choices when it comes to things of a delicate nature. She’s at a very ripe age of curiosity and anything that could give her a sense of knowing is going to be a big help. It’s simply a magazine that she’s asking for. I’d be worried if she was asking you to set her up with a superfluous amount of naked men for her viewing and touching pleasure however that’s not the case. It’s only a magazine.

As for the opposite sex not talking to her about such things, I’m afraid that’s just the obnoxious, shallow, pettiness of youth these days. The man I was with explained to me that as he got older (He was 24 when we were dating) He found that more and more women accepted the fact that he was in a wheelchair and it was easier to not only talk to the opposite sex, but also flirt with them and build up a wonderful self confidence AND self esteem. Things will only get easier *smiles*

If your daughter ever wants to know anything, I’d be more than willing to answer any questions. Once again I think that she’s VERY lucky to have such a supportive family and I wish you the best of luck.

 

[sparky1ma]

Thanks, cheapperfume, I'm happy this sort of thing isn't that unusual.
The thought of having all those men come through just to be a display for her cracked me up.
You're right the mag isn't that big of a deal, my wife picked one up for her and she was happy, she finally got to see a " real penis ". My wife did have to explain to her that they aren't all that big. hahahaha

 

[Italian_and_Bi]

Maybe look into seeing if there's any groups in your area for younger people with disabilities. maybe meeting people, getting comfortable and talking will help? I think its great that she can talk to you guys about that. Alot of people would have probably made her think she was bad for being curious, and thats really wrong as well as unfair. Once she gets used to talking to guys, I bet the rest will come into place for her.

 

[Masterkredix]

Speaking as a fellow disabled person (I am blind) it is amazing that you have this kind of open and frank relationship with your Granddaughter/daughter. I congratulate you for being such kind and loving parents to this young lady.

When I was growing up, my blindness made it very hard indeed to talk to girls or even learn about my personal sexuality. I never had anyone to talk to about such things and when my friends talked about it as all teenage boys do I just nodded along and tried to fake interest or even experiance to not seem like a loser. As I grew older I started to find what turnned me on and by the age of 24 or 25 I was much better in my own skin. We all learn a diffrent way and be it magazines, the internet or finding that special someone, we all find ourselves in the end.

Again, congratulations on being wonderful carers for your GD/D and if there is anything I can do as a fellow disabled person who knows how hard it can be... Please just PM me anytime.

MK

 

[Italian_and_Bi]

Master, your such a sweetheart.

Yes, we all come into our own at different times.