Ladies of Literotica enlighten us

[RedRyder50]

Hey Ladies of Literotica, enlighten us:
1. At first impression, what is it about a man that attracts you?
2. As a first impression, what do you find most repulsive?
3. After first impressions, what is it that keeps you interested?

 

[DeeDeeCO]

Hey Ladies of Literotica, enlighten us:
1. At first impression, what is it about a man that attracts you?
2. As a first impression, what do you find most repulsive?
3. After first impressions, what is it that keeps you interested?

I am attracted to men who are men. Men who don't hide themselves, who tell me what they want are attractive to me.

What I find repulsive is men who are always saying they're sorry for whatever. I am also repulsed by weak men, men who are too afraid to be men.

What keeps me interested is when a man wants me and proves it.

 

[mikendel]

1. At first impression, what is it about a man that attracts you? His walk. Has to walk like a man.
2. As a first impression, what do you find most repulsive? Loud and cocky.
3. After first impressions, what is it that keeps you interested? Conversation

 

[policywank]

I am attracted to men who are comfortable with who they are. I am pretty open to whether they are physical, cerebral, funny, serious, extravorted or introverted as long as they are being themselves. Obviously if "himself" is a jerk I probably won't like him. But I would rather see a guy's real rough edges than have him pretend they aren't there or try to be what he thinks I want him to be.

I am with DeeDee in that I don't like weak men. I also don't like blowhards or know it alls. It is a fine line between having strong opinions and simply being intolerant of opposing opinions.

Interested is sustained (again as DeeDee said) by wanting me and showing it. But probably even more so by having an engaged and interested mind. Regardless of where you stand on a given topic, intelligent people are at least capable of seeing some merit in opposing views.

We all like to talk about beauty is only skin deep but let's be realistic we do want to be with someone we find physically attractive. However, I will say this. I doesn't matter how handsome a guy is if he is a dolt or a jerk my attraction will dry up instantly. Meanwhile an interesting and engaging man immediately becomes more attractive than his physical appearance.

 

[LitMILF]

1. At first impression, what is it about a man that attracts you? It's difficult to say. I used to think I had a type, but now I'm not so sure.
2. As a first impression, what do you find most repulsive? Unsolicited dick pics.
3. After first impressions, what is it that keeps you interested? His brain.

 

[txgent101]

Taking notes....

 

[RedRyder50]

Id like to thank the ladies who have responded for their thoughtful and candid remarks.

 

[Farawyn]

Hey Ladies of Literotica, enlighten us:
1. At first impression, what is it about a man that attracts you?
2. As a first impression, what do you find most repulsive?
3. After first impressions, what is it that keeps you interested?

Online
1. Intelligence
2. Unsolicited dick pics. Why???
3. Him showing interest.

Life
1. Intelligence. Physical: hands
2. Misogynistic attitude, and smokers.
3. Sense of humor.

 

[chargergirl]

I'm attracted to older guys and those that can make me laugh. Of course, I'm married so it's a moot point, but still!

If I can hear you chew your food, GTF away from me!

 

[RedRyder50]

Thank you for the insight.

 

[submit4pleasure]

1.Good manners, I think politeness out of bed usually signals attentiveness to your lover's needs and feelings in bed.
2. Whining about your current or ex woman, bragging about how much money you make, I could absolutely care less.
3. Having something interesting to talk about besides yourself.

 

[JA068]

1. Confidence and intelligence.
2. Guys who tell me how much I'm going to love their cock.
3. A great sense of humor and maintaining some mystery.

 

[hotoldrguy]

I'm attracted to older guys and those that can make me laugh. Of course, I'm married so it's a moot point, but still!

If I can hear you chew your food, GTF away from me!

love the food chewing comment...LOL

 

[Kittyscave]

Attraction: Stature - taller than me, dark or gray hair or bald, manly, physically confident poise

Un-attraction: Bad teeth, grossly overweight or too skinny, feminine hands, poor hygiene, poor grammar/vocabulary

Maintain attraction: Confidence (there's a theme here), sense of humor, intelligence, showing interest in me, the sort of chemistry than is difficult to define

 

[hotoldrguy]

Attraction: Stature - taller than me, dark or gray hair or bald, manly, physically confident poise

Un-attraction: Bad teeth, grossly overweight or too skinny, feminine hands, poor hygiene, poor grammar/vocabulary

Maintain attraction: Confidence (there's a theme here), sense of humor, intelligence, showing interest in me, the sort of chemistry than is difficult to define

this is encouraging
Attraction: Stature - taller than me 6"2", dark or gray hair( More white then gray) or bald, manly, physically confident poise excellent posture

Un-attraction: Bad teeth, grossly overweight or too skinny, feminine hands, poor hygiene, poor grammar/vocabulary Negative on all counts

Maintain attraction: Confidence (there's a theme here), sense of humor, intelligence, showing interest in me, the sort of chemistry than is difficult to define Yes to all- of course chemistry has to be tested

Do I get the job?!

 

[Green_Knight]

Hardly any of these replies surprise me. What's interesting, though, is to put together a composite of what the ladies of Lit don't like. This seems to portray a more consistent picture than the likes, if anything.

First of all there's the question of weak men and, presumably, men who whine about their current or ex woman would fall into that category on the basis that, if they weren't weak, they'd have done something about it and not just whined.

But while we don't like wishy-washy men, going too far in the opposite direction is equally off-putting. No loud, brash, know-it-all men such as those who brag about their success and how much money they earn. Assume that your cock is god's gift to women and that they can't wait to see a picture of it or even try it out, and you're in trouble. A misogynistic attitude isn't acceptable, though I assume that a true misogynist wouldn't be bothered if they didn't attract women. Personal habits can be a no-no too - smoking or eating noisily or, I imagine, a few other unmentionables.

So why is it that men in the second group don't seem to have much trouble finding themselves women? I can think of loads of men who fit the description perfectly and who never seem to be short of female (often younger female) company. I mean, one of them has just got himself elected to one of the world's top positions! Is it that women who visit Lit are generally more confident than average and aren't inclined to tolerate the typical dickhead?

 

[RedSilk69]

Online
1. Intelligence
2. Unsolicited dick pics. Why???
3. Him showing interest.

Life
1. Intelligence. Physical: hands
2. Misogynistic attitude, and smokers.
3. Sense of humor.

I second everything here.

 

[Kittyscave]

this is encouraging
Attraction: Stature - taller than me 6"2", dark or gray hair( More white then gray) or bald, manly, physically confident poise excellent posture

Un-attraction: Bad teeth, grossly overweight or too skinny, feminine hands, poor hygiene, poor grammar/vocabulary Negative on all counts

Maintain attraction: Confidence (there's a theme here), sense of humor, intelligence, showing interest in me, the sort of chemistry than is difficult to define Yes to all- of course chemistry has to be tested

Do I get the job?!

I've just been waiting for you to show up for work.

 

[Kittyscave]

Hardly any of these replies surprise me. What's interesting, though, is to put together a composite of what the ladies of Lit don't like. This seems to portray a more consistent picture than the likes, if anything.

First of all there's the question of weak men and, presumably, men who whine about their current or ex woman would fall into that category on the basis that, if they weren't weak, they'd have done something about it and not just whined.

But while we don't like wishy-washy men, going too far in the opposite direction is equally off-putting. No loud, brash, know-it-all men such as those who brag about their success and how much money they earn. Assume that your cock is god's gift to women and that they can't wait to see a picture of it or even try it out, and you're in trouble. A misogynistic attitude isn't acceptable, though I assume that a true misogynist wouldn't be bothered if they didn't attract women. Personal habits can be a no-no too - smoking or eating noisily or, I imagine, a few other unmentionables.

So why is it that men in the second group don't seem to have much trouble finding themselves women? I can think of loads of men who fit the description perfectly and who never seem to be short of female (often younger female) company. I mean, one of them has just got himself elected to one of the world's top positions! Is it that women who visit Lit are generally more confident than average and aren't inclined to tolerate the typical dickhead?

There's someone for everyone. I do think a woman's level of confidence and naivete play a role.

 

[hotoldrguy]

I've just been waiting for you to show up for work.

wooo hooo! on my way!

 

[RedSilk69]

Hardly any of these replies surprise me. What's interesting, though, is to put together a unmentionablout it and not just whined.

But while we don't like wishy-washy men, going too far in the opposite direction is equally off-putting. No loud, brash, know-it-all men such as those who brag about their success and how much money they earn. Assume that your cock is god's gift to women and that they can't wait to see a picture of it or even try it out, and you're in trouble. A misogynistic attitude isn't acceptable, though I assume that a true misogynist wouldn't be bothered if they didn't attract women. Personal habits can be a no-no too - smoking or eating noisily or, I imagine, a few other

So why is it that men in the second group don't seem to have much trouble finding themselves women? I can think of loads of men who fit the description perfectly and who never seem to be short of female (often younger female) company. I mean, one of them has just got himself elected to one of the world's top positions! Is it that women who visit Lit are generally more confident than average and aren't inclined to tolerate the typical dickhead?

Speaking as someone once married to a blowhard, it's a combination of self-esteem and what you grew up with. You only grow up and recognize that shit as fast as you do (much to the frustration of your friends).

And different people define "weak" differently. For me, negatively weak means insecure, brash, and a willing victimizer. I personally have no time for cheaters; someone lacking in honor is weak. Poly is fine; sanctioned extramarital fooling around is fine; but doing it behind a spouse's back is not fine - to me, at least. I have friends who have cheated and they had their reasons and made their choices; nothing is black and white. But when it comes to me finding a sexual partner, even if it's just for a day, honor matters. YMMV

 

[roc23]

1.Good manners, I think politeness out of bed usually signals attentiveness to your lover's needs and feelings in bed.
2. Whining about your current or ex woman, bragging about how much money you make, I could absolutely care less.
3. Having something interesting to talk about besides yourself.

I have no money and I'm not that interesting!

We're made for each other.

 

[RedRyder50]

There's someone for everyone. I do think a woman's level of confidence and naivete play a role.

I think you are right on your points.

Now don't you think we should find out what men find attractive and unattractive in women.

 

[BouncieCurls]

1. Wide shoulders and big biceps

2. My biggest turn offs are smelling like smoke, bad teeth or an unkempt beard

3. What interests me most to a man is confidence, if he believes he's sexy and can make my body explode with pleasure I'm going to believe it too

 

[sunandshadow]

1. Long hair
2. Acting cruel or sadistic. Being preachy or a hardass is almost as bad.
3. Being a happy playful person.