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Adoratrice
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I would not even let you see me naked if you couldn't pay child support.
Don't take it personally though....I've been told I set my standards too high.
Don't take it personally though....I've been told I set my standards too high.
Countess DeWinter
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Let's just try to make one, Todd honey 
I'll support us!
Shhhhhh! No one tell him my tubes are tied!
We may have to try NUMEROUS times
I'll support us!Shhhhhh! No one tell him my tubes are tied!
We may have to try NUMEROUS times
Its all hypothetical anyways, cause until I can pay for a wedding ring and all the other stuff that comes along with it there is no sex, no matter how badly I want it.
I just got thinking of that from watching judge Joe Brown, three nearly identical cases in a row where the guy got the girl pregnatn, blood tests prove they are his and he isn't willing to or ablt to pay child support.
Just made me wonder where the standards level was at. I appreciate you answer Adoratice.
I just got thinking of that from watching judge Joe Brown, three nearly identical cases in a row where the guy got the girl pregnatn, blood tests prove they are his and he isn't willing to or ablt to pay child support.
Just made me wonder where the standards level was at. I appreciate you answer Adoratice.
If my eyes don't deceive me...I just read standards, Judge Joe Brown, wedding rings, blood tests, jobs & "paying for... all the other stuff that comes with.... sex" Whoa, you've pretty much covered the bed, national TV, and, hellfire & brimstone in one short reply
I think it takes two to tango too, but if you listen to thier defense whcich is always the smae, its the other person thats responsable.
Ducking the hellfire and brimstone.
Waht I meant fro standards was wheter that this concept of Screw adn run was prevalent or wheter it is just merely a small section of sexuall y active people that follow the screw and run policy.
I have nothing against it if anyone feels comfortable having sex, I like the fact of marriage for me. Knowing my dating rate, I will end up being one of those old guys that never got laid.
Ducking the hellfire and brimstone.
Waht I meant fro standards was wheter that this concept of Screw adn run was prevalent or wheter it is just merely a small section of sexuall y active people that follow the screw and run policy.
I have nothing against it if anyone feels comfortable having sex, I like the fact of marriage for me. Knowing my dating rate, I will end up being one of those old guys that never got laid.
TN_Vixen
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Toddy-darling
I was married for 5 yrs. before me and my ex had a child and then divorced when our son was 2 & 1/2. it has been over 2 yrs since he's paid child support yet I haven't taken him to court to get it... Why? b/c he's a stupid mutherfucka and i will not subject my son to the emotional abuse of dragging him through courtroom over courtroom to receive the miniscule amounts he would pay to support our son. It isn't worth it. Yet, he's never ever heard a negative word against his dad and he doesn't to this day realize what a poor excuse for a father he has as far as finances are concerned.. but his dad has been there for him. He's been there to support him and grow with him and experience daily life with him even without the financial resources.. So, who am I to decide what makes the difference here? His dad is there for him, right? and that's all he knows, that's all he needs to know.
I was married for 5 yrs. before me and my ex had a child and then divorced when our son was 2 & 1/2. it has been over 2 yrs since he's paid child support yet I haven't taken him to court to get it... Why? b/c he's a stupid mutherfucka and i will not subject my son to the emotional abuse of dragging him through courtroom over courtroom to receive the miniscule amounts he would pay to support our son. It isn't worth it. Yet, he's never ever heard a negative word against his dad and he doesn't to this day realize what a poor excuse for a father he has as far as finances are concerned.. but his dad has been there for him. He's been there to support him and grow with him and experience daily life with him even without the financial resources.. So, who am I to decide what makes the difference here? His dad is there for him, right? and that's all he knows, that's all he needs to know.
Re: Toddy-darling
Damn are you my mother and its 1977 all over again? that is exatcly the situation I grew up in. I hope your son turns out much better than me, because look at me a sad sorry excuse for a person who can't even afford to take more education with out going further and further in debt than I already am. Good luck TN, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Make me proud, make you son 10 times the man I am.
TN_Vixen said:
Damn are you my mother and its 1977 all over again? that is exatcly the situation I grew up in. I hope your son turns out much better than me, because look at me a sad sorry excuse for a person who can't even afford to take more education with out going further and further in debt than I already am. Good luck TN, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Make me proud, make you son 10 times the man I am.
Screw & run? Run where? Are you watching too much TV? Adults I know don't do that. I'm going to assume this applies to a good percentage of this board.
I love the idea of waiting until you're married to have sex. Then you discover you've married Miss Texas who is as frigid as the day is long. Divorce courts are tied up for years with this crap. Isn't this why man created birth control. (And before you even think it...who created man?)
There is no ducking hellfire & brimstone. You know that Todd.
I love the idea of waiting until you're married to have sex. Then you discover you've married Miss Texas who is as frigid as the day is long. Divorce courts are tied up for years with this crap. Isn't this why man created birth control. (And before you even think it...who created man?)
There is no ducking hellfire & brimstone. You know that Todd.
KillerMuffin
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Children need love, though cash is nice if you're pretty much poverty level. I would expect you to not only support your child, but to support me as well, should that happen. That would be 9 months of bed rest, expensive drugs, and a highly complicatedly expensive delivery. All of which I'd expect you to subsidize. The best method for this is to have a life insurance policy taken out by a reputable company that has a reputation for paying quickly with no murder clause in it. I'm pretty sure the StudMuffin would wickedly, heinously, and slowly over the course of several days or until his patience ends object to the prior proceedings.
I know it doesnt matter if i duck, cause usually it means i am just bending my face closer to the blast vent.
I am so old fshioned when it comes to datign and marriage, most would just give up on me.
I belive in a long courtship where me and the female actually have time to get to know one another. possible up to a year or more with out sex, maybe the occasional kissing and hugging and holding hands, but mainly concentrating on the emotional atachment to one another.
yeah I am a kook
I am so old fshioned when it comes to datign and marriage, most would just give up on me.
I belive in a long courtship where me and the female actually have time to get to know one another. possible up to a year or more with out sex, maybe the occasional kissing and hugging and holding hands, but mainly concentrating on the emotional atachment to one another.
yeah I am a kook
KillerMuffin
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Funny, I don't actually remember eating garlic and onion stew...
SteamyChik
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Hey now, I live in Texas and I ain't frigid.
Todd, you know what I think of you. Now here's the 2x4.
How the hell do you have that figured in your head? A year or longer without sex, just holding hands, getting to know each other. It really is beautiful Beaver. But you have just laid out the agenda for the woman of your dreams. NEWS FLASH, women do not like agendas. The love of your life may beg you to make love to her the second time you date her. Is your mind open to that possibility?
How the hell do you have that figured in your head? A year or longer without sex, just holding hands, getting to know each other. It really is beautiful Beaver. But you have just laid out the agenda for the woman of your dreams. NEWS FLASH, women do not like agendas. The love of your life may beg you to make love to her the second time you date her. Is your mind open to that possibility?
Shelby said:
For me and the family background and an upbringing and the chain of abuse I have tried so hard to break , to have sex on the second date would mean that you might as well put a wife beater club in my hand. I am trying to break a cycle of violence here.
TN_Vixen
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Todd.. make you proud? Make my son proud?
No, I don't make him proud of the mistakes I've made. I make him realize how LUCKY he is to have a father who is inovlved in his life to the extent that he calls him every day and is his basketball couch and his football couch at the age of 7. I make him realize that I'm a hard-working single mother that gives him what he needs and indulges him in his non-needs because I CAN. I've made him tell me what he expects out of life.. forced him to detail to me what he wants in order to explain to him in detail what he needs to do as far as his education in order for him to realize such dreams.
I've made him secure in the fact that he can count on me to depend upon if he gets into trouble but that I won't bail his ass out if he fucks that chance up. I'm there for him emotionally no matter what, but he HAS to understand that his financial well-being rests entirely on his shoulders. He HAS to know that that should something happen to me, he is able to get what he desires.
Dreams are wonderous. Dreams are fantastic, dreams should be fostered with the temperment that it takes WORK and SWEAT and HARDSHIP to get to what you want. I've never faltered in teaching that lesson to my child.
No, I don't make him proud of the mistakes I've made. I make him realize how LUCKY he is to have a father who is inovlved in his life to the extent that he calls him every day and is his basketball couch and his football couch at the age of 7. I make him realize that I'm a hard-working single mother that gives him what he needs and indulges him in his non-needs because I CAN. I've made him tell me what he expects out of life.. forced him to detail to me what he wants in order to explain to him in detail what he needs to do as far as his education in order for him to realize such dreams.
I've made him secure in the fact that he can count on me to depend upon if he gets into trouble but that I won't bail his ass out if he fucks that chance up. I'm there for him emotionally no matter what, but he HAS to understand that his financial well-being rests entirely on his shoulders. He HAS to know that that should something happen to me, he is able to get what he desires.
Dreams are wonderous. Dreams are fantastic, dreams should be fostered with the temperment that it takes WORK and SWEAT and HARDSHIP to get to what you want. I've never faltered in teaching that lesson to my child.
Todd,
Is that really what you fear you are?
I didn't think so.
Isn't there something somewhere about the fact that you can learn from the past, therefore, you are not doomed to repeat the sins of your forfathers?
Me thinks you are quick to take the burden of the world upon the shoulders of the unworthy of the the right.
Is that really what you fear you are?
I didn't think so.
Isn't there something somewhere about the fact that you can learn from the past, therefore, you are not doomed to repeat the sins of your forfathers?
Me thinks you are quick to take the burden of the world upon the shoulders of the unworthy of the the right.
Re: Todd.. make you proud? Make my son proud?
What I meant is exactly what you are doing from what I read here. ANd for that I congratulate you,
My father was in my life, yeah sure if you caount coming in forcing my mother to the couch, table , bed or what ever was closest and raping her when every he felt like it. or taking me and throwing me against the wall or fridge or waht ever happened to come between me and the ground when he picked me up.
So already he is doing beter than I, Congrats.
I grew up believeing dreams, hopes , aspirations were futile to have anad to not bother trying to have. Its only been the last few years i dared to dream, but it may be to late, time will only tell.
If he has dreams and goals again congrats, you are an awesome mom.
So far he is aheead of me and he's only 7, that is exciting.
What I meant is exactly what you are doing from what I read here. ANd for that I congratulate you,
My father was in my life, yeah sure if you caount coming in forcing my mother to the couch, table , bed or what ever was closest and raping her when every he felt like it. or taking me and throwing me against the wall or fridge or waht ever happened to come between me and the ground when he picked me up.
So already he is doing beter than I, Congrats.
I grew up believeing dreams, hopes , aspirations were futile to have anad to not bother trying to have. Its only been the last few years i dared to dream, but it may be to late, time will only tell.
If he has dreams and goals again congrats, you are an awesome mom.
So far he is aheead of me and he's only 7, that is exciting.
Shelby said:
When All I know from ecperince is to to take a woman when ever I want regardless of what she wants and bend her over the nearest object and rape her/fuck her in front of her somn and friends yes, I do want refrains from jumping into the bed on the first/second date.
I actually want to learn what love is, not just the word on the page of a dictionary, but the feeling that makes ones herart go pitpat, when that somwone walks in the room, and it saddens it beat when they leave. I want to know a woman for more than a place to blow my load at the end of a bad day. I want a child that doesn't have to fear me. I want a wife that doenst tremble when she hers my car come in the yard.
I know it seems so unreal, but it has only been the last couple of years that I have even been able to grasp at the concept of love
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