Ladies of Lit: A question?

[Mensa]

People, ladies especially, settle something for me.

Do you consider a man who can cry to be attractive?

Or do you consider him to be a wuss?

I'll say nothing to influence the outcome of the query.

 

[Silverlily]

(you know, answering you with anything even remotely resembling seriousness isn't as easy as it looks, but I'll try)



No, I do not care for the "sensitive man". I do not want a man who boo-hoos over Bambi. I don't want a man who cries more than I do (which is rarely). However, I do understand crying to to deep, personal grief or pain, emotional not physical.

Having said all that, I don't really like anybody who plays waterworks. You want to cry, great, by all means knock yourself out. Don't expect me to play soggy shoulder.




(I'll collect my bitch crown now, thank you)

 

[Rubyfruit]

I consider it an attractive trait. To me, a man who can cry is in touch with his emotions, secure in his manhood and obviously sensitive.

Ruby

 

[Calamity Jane]

As long as the guy doesn't turn into Bruce Willis' character on Friends, a little crying is ok.

It's not a trait that I would ever put on a list of things a guy has to be able to do. If he needs to cry, fine. No, I won't be terribly comfortable with it, I'm not terrbly comfortable around anyone who's crying. *shrug*

Did I even come close to answering the question?

 

[Gilly Bean]

It really depends on the situation.

if a guy were to cry at a funeral, or at a birth of a baby, or a bad breakup, yeah, that's nice.


Now, were it to be a guy who started crying because tampons are on sale, or because his jeans are finally worn in, Leave it at the door.

I don't like it when men or women are overly sensitive, and cry at the drop of a hat.

 

[Thumper]

Kitten

Your so mean....I think I am gonna go cry!!!

Not hehehehehehe

 

[EMT's Wife]

A man who cries over EVERYTHING is way too much for me but, divorce, death, birth of a child,and other sentimental moments are ok reasons to cry.

 

[pabloback]

the only time i have seen men crying collectively is at the end of the green mile

 

[Cheyenne]

I'd add things like terrorist attacks to the list of good reasons to cry. How many people could watch all the coverage of NYC and the missing people without tearing up?

 

[Mensa]

Thank you

I thought I'd have to keep bumping this thing up alll night to just get one measly nibble. This is what I need to settle a bet.

Anyone else?

Come on, step up folks! Nothing to fear here! Just tell me your opinion! Everyone has one!

p.s. Kitten Eyes. I do have my moments of lucidity. Not often, I admit! But they do happen.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I didn't cry about 9/11. I cried when I saw my children after giving birth. I cried when I told my husband to move out of my house. Maybe 5 times in the past two years have I truly cried.

I've never 'sobbed' in my life. Crying isn't something I do, or something I let others witness if I have a choice. I expect pretty much the same from others.

 

[Silverlily]

Re: Thank you

This is what I need to settle a bet.

So spill it, what side did you take?


Hey bunny-boy, everybody knows rabbit don't cry. Or is that boys??

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Thank you

I thought I'd have to keep bumping this thing up alll night to just get one measly nibble.

I'll give you a nibble... and it'll be measle free.

 

[Summery]

Definately there are certain things I feel reasonable for a grown man to cry. Nothing wrong with a man being in tune to his own feelings.
But, tears of a man are not on my list of things I look for, as far as attractive qualities.

 

[sigh]

the ability to show emotion is a positive thing, i think

but keep real about it...save it for the big stuff or you won't get a tissue from me

 

[Rubyfruit]

...Crying isn't something I do, or something I let others witness if I have a choice. I expect pretty much the same from others.

I don't understand the need to stop a perfectly normal human reaction to pain, hurt or disappointment.

I don't cry at stupid things, but when something touches me deeply, like 9/11, I cry. A lot.

Ruby

 

[Calamity Jane]

And you're welcome to your expression of emotion. I would probably hug you, assuming you and I knew each other well enough to infringe on personal space, and tell you if you needed anything to let me know. But I'm not gonna sit there and hand you tissues for hours while you sob your heart out.

I have never in my life cried due to physical pain. And I've been injured pretty severly in my life.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I don't think I've cried from physical pain either, probably the worst being giving birth to twins without drugs. I screamed "you fucking bitch - I told you I wanted the epidural 2 hours ago" to the nurse, but I didn't cry.

The thing is, I don't want somebody to sit with me and hand me tissues when I'm in emotional pain. It's a release for me, not a ply for attention.

Ruby

 

[Mensa]

Re: Re: Thank you

So spill it, what side did you take?


Hey bunny-boy, everybody knows rabbit don't cry. Or is that boys??

Not yet! I need more replies first.

 

[registered "^^"]

(you know, answering you with anything even remotely resembling seriousness isn't as easy as it looks, but I'll try)



No, I do not care for the "sensitive man". I do not want a man who boo-hoos over Bambi. I don't want a man who cries more than I do (which is rarely). However, I do understand crying to to deep, personal grief or pain, emotional not physical.

Having said all that, I don't really like anybody who plays waterworks. You want to cry, great, by all means knock yourself out. Don't expect me to play soggy shoulder.




(I'll collect my bitch crown now, thank you)

Where's my gun. I feel the need to kill something!

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Re: Re: Thank you

Not yet! I need more replies first.

Wuss!

 

[Elizabeth]

I guess it would depend. Birth, death, really Kodak moments, shedding a tear is fine. But not a weepy man. I know too many women like that. They are plenty.

 

[cymbidia]

Just like everyone else...

I don't consider myself an overly emotional type, nor do i wave the flag of my emotions too wildly so all can see instantly what's going on with me. I tend toward more reserve than that; far more reserve than that if i don't really know you too well.

At least with my darker emotions.

I show the world my happy side. It's often my armor, too, covering and protecting the softer, more real emotions beneath.

So it is with the men i've been attracted to in my life. I think every one with whom i've shared anything of real value has cried a time or two, or at least ened up with suspiciously moist eyes once or twice.

I don't weep openly, easily, at the drop of the proverbial hat, and i don't want to spend my time with someone who does. But i *do* want a man who is in touch with his emotions, who knows when he's feeling grief, for instance, and can - if he needs to - cry in front of me. I find that emotional openness strongly appealing and feel it serves to further cement the bond between me and him.

 

[StondTmplPilot]

I cried when...

My grandmother died, and at her funeral, also when (okay this one might seem silly, i'm sorry) I saw Steve Yzerman skate around with the Stanley Cup raised over his head. Other than that, I havent cried in a long time, and never did i cry for a long period of time. Physical pain has never made me cry, and I have had broken bones, a severe burn, and a herniated d5 (from a hit that i took while playing football in my youth, and lived with for over 15 years) that was very very painful before i had surgery to repair it. I prefer to do any shedding of tears in private, I dont like anyone to see me in such a state.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: I cried when...

...I saw Steve Yzerman skate around with the Stanley Cup raised over his head...

My husband is a real hockey fan. I've learned to like it. I enjoy it more in person than on TV though.

Ruby