Ladies of Lit…

[rgraham666]

I need your help with a story I'm working on.

In my latest, the female protagonist is a virgin. Not for prurient reasons, she just is.

Since I'm writing the type of story where she's going to lose her virginity, I need to hear about your experiences so I can write properly about it.

Was the experience painful? If so, how much? Was it a memorable experience? If so, was it memorable for good reasons or bad ones? What would have made it good if it was bad.

You can PM or e-mail me if you're uncomfortable posting here. I'll read what you have to say, think about how to incorporate it into my story, and then forget I ever read it. I'll set aside a cyanide pill in case someone tries to force it out of me.

I want my character's experience to be joyful. And I don't trust my imagination to get it right.

So any help would be greatly appreciated.

 

[impressive]

It was memorable ONLY because it was my first time (and his). No, it didn't hurt -- but it wasn't particularly pleasurable, either. It was more of just something to get over with -- a formality -- so that we could then explore more ways to please one another. Subsequent encounters (with the same guy) were far more enjoyable.

 

[rgraham666]

Thanks impressive.

 

[ravenmx]

Mine was memorable only because years later the same man became my sons father.

It was not really painful as the word implies, but more so uncomfortable until the adjustment was made.

However I had to work that night (back then I worked as a waitress) and I remember walking around like I had been riding a horse the whole day.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I need your help with a story I'm working on.

In my latest, the female protagonist is a virgin. Not for prurient reasons, she just is.

Since I'm writing the type of story where she's going to lose her virginity, I need to hear about your experiences so I can write properly about it.

Was the experience painful? If so, how much? Was it a memorable experience? If so, was it memorable for good reasons or bad ones? What would have made it good if it was bad.

You can PM or e-mail me if you're uncomfortable posting here. I'll read what you have to say, think about how to incorporate it into my story, and then forget I ever read it. I'll set aside a cyanide pill in case someone tries to force it out of me.

I want my character's experience to be joyful. And I don't trust my imagination to get it right.

So any help would be greatly appreciated.

I don't remember it being particularly painful- and there was no blood, but there were a few 'failed attempts' where it probably would have been panful if we hadn't backed up and waited a while. (as in weeks, not minutes)

 

[LadyJeanne]

My first time was fun, although the act itself wasn't especially fun. It hurt less than I expected, but it definitely hurt, which I remember thinking was exceedingly unfair - why should a girl's first time hurt when a guy's doesn't???

We'd both been looking forward to it (me, cause I was curious and wanted to finally see what the fuss was about and I liked my boyfriend a lot, and my boyfriend cause he was a college guy about to get laid). We didn't really plan it, although I had a pretty good idea of when I wanted it to happen.

Overall, it wasn't especially memorable. It was exciting more because we were doing it than because I was actually feeling good. There was lots of whispering and giggling (at least until lthe pain part). Afterwards, I was glad to have that over with so we could practice some more when it didn't hurt.

He was a dear and gave me his best, but neither one of us really had a clue how to please me. It wasn't until months later that I had my first orgasm - which I gave to myself.

He had the nicest cheekbones...

 

[minsue]

Pretty much has all been said. It hurt, but not terribly. Twasn't all that great, but not awful. I was probably high at the time, though, so that may have had something to do with it.

I just now realized as I typed that I don't know if I was sober or not. Gawd, that's depressing.

 

[sincerely_helene]

I need your help with a story I'm working on.

In my latest, the female protagonist is a virgin. Not for prurient reasons, she just is.

Since I'm writing the type of story where she's going to lose her virginity, I need to hear about your experiences so I can write properly about it.

Was the experience painful? If so, how much? Was it a memorable experience? If so, was it memorable for good reasons or bad ones? What would have made it good if it was bad.

You can PM or e-mail me if you're uncomfortable posting here. I'll read what you have to say, think about how to incorporate it into my story, and then forget I ever read it. I'll set aside a cyanide pill in case someone tries to force it out of me.

I want my character's experience to be joyful. And I don't trust my imagination to get it right.

So any help would be greatly appreciated.

I'll be to sure to let you know, k?

 

[McKenna]

I was very aroused. I wanted it to happen. It was painful, I wanted him to pull out. He stayed in until I adjusted a bit more, but it still hurt. I didn't orgasm, but it felt good (emotionally) to be with him. We had been together for a year or more, and hadn't done it. He was my high school sweetheart, a full foot taller than me while outweighing me by about 80 pounds. As a first time it wasn't magical or earth shattering, it just was. Subsequent couplings were very nice; they weren't so painful. That first time was just something we had to get through to enjoy the rest that was to come.

 

[English Lady]

M first time was good and it didn't hurt at all, in fact it didn't feel uncomfortable it felt really right, like I was being completed.

It wasn't a planned thing but I was over at this guys house, we'd met on the internet and in RL a few times, just fooled about a bit before but not gone all the way.

We we're cuddling and kissing and it did just go from there, he massaged my whole body and I remember vividly that he went own on me and made me cum from that. I remember the noise I made and how good that felt. Then he actually fucked me.

I eally enjoyed it, I felt full but pleasantly so, I didn't orgasm as he was in me but I adored the feeling of his cock pushing in and out of me.

When it all finsihed I cried. Many emotional reasons including a little guilt and a bit of anguish over not being a virgin for my wedding day. He held me and we talked it ll through.

Now I am married to him *smiles* and the sex has got even better

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Ladies of Lit…

I'll be to sure to let you know, k?

 

[Guest]

My first time wasn't technically my first time, but that's the time that counts, so that's the one I'll talk about. However, it could explain why it didn't hurt at all and why I found it to be an incredibly wonderful experience.

He was a boy (I say boy, but he was 18. Lit wouldn't like how old I was) I met though a friend. We'd been to the cinema a few times and had indulged in some "heavy petting". Then, one night, after a film, he suggested we walk down to the sea front. Once there we walked armed in arm for a while, then kissed a bit. He took me by the hand and led me to a bench. It was pretty secluded, but there were people around.

He asked me to lie down, on my back, then said, "Are you ready?" I just nodded and smiled, my nerves getting the better of me. He pushed my skirt up, then reached up and pulled my knickers down. He played with my pussy for a little while, then undid his trousers. I could see he was hard, then watched as he put a condom on (he was very good), then felt he was hard when he got between my legs and began pushing himself inside me. It really did feel good. He was very gentle, but soon became less so. As he fucked me I stopped thinking about everything else. It was the first time I got lost in the moment, sexually speaking.

He made me come, which I've heard is rare for a "first time". As I said before, it wasn't, not technically speaking, but it was as far as I was concerned.

It was an incredibly memorable experience, and I really don't think it could have been better. We saw each other for a few more months after that, until he moved away. I was in sixth form at school then, so there was no way I could go with him. I sometimes think about him.

Lou

 

[rgraham666]

Thank you very much ladies. I'll think about what you said and see how to incorporate it into my story.

To expand, the man involved is quite a bit older and and somewhat more experienced than the woman. He's going to have the patience to make sure she enjoys it.

Thanks again.

 

[cloudy]

Lit woudn't like how old I was the first time either, but he was 19 - actually on his 19th birthday.

We'd been together for awhile, and I basically wanted to see what all the fuss was about. Most of my friends were a year or so older than I was, and just a tad more experienced than me, and of course, we talked.

It wasn't bad, but it wasn't great either. I think I looked at it as more of something to get out of the damn way, and over with. It hurt a little, but not much. I can remember thinking when it was over, "is that all there was?"

It was probably a year or so before I actually had an orgasm.

 

[RebeccaLeah]

Ok....any 'barrier of innocence' I ever had was totally ruined before I actually got to sex, I was creative and very curious, so it didn't hurt, but my legs were sore the next day. I'm not going to say that it was totally unpleasurable, but it wasn't that good. Looking back after I got out of high school (that alone explains why I'm not putting an age on this) I wasn't ready, but I think that's true for so many girls. It also would have helped if I had an actual relationship with the guy, though it's probably lucky I didn't or I'd still be in the middle of nowhere PA pregnant with my 3rd or 4th and living in a delapidated trailer park, instead of blissfully not pregnant and graduating from college in May.

Wherever you are now S, thanks for saving me from that.

 

[doormouse]

My first time was sticky lol

We were in the back seat of his car (classy)... he pulled out and blew all over the car seat.

I remember the sting/burning feeling the day after though.

 

[Black Tulip]

My first time was mostly embarrassed giggles.
We needed a few trial runs before we got it right.
I even nicked my parent's book on sexual positions to find out what we were doing wrong. LOL
Once we did get it right it was great.
No pain and no blood, but I had been active in other ways before.

We had been dating for a year and later I was almost married to the guy. Got my sense back just in time.

 

[EmeraldKitten]

~*~Bump~*~

 

[fifty5]

Two things

First, one for RG - might it help your story if her hymen was already broken by some other means (I've read that non-sexual activity can do it, so that doesn't necessarily make her a 'wanker')

Second, one for the ladies who've posted - thanks for sharing your experiences with the rest of us. Quite apart from being valuable info when writing, it touched me to read what you all said. I don't think I've ever 'taken a cherry' (one occasion of doubt), so until I read this thread, all I knew was second-hand.

It's been a priviledge to be allowed to share such a precious moment with you.



Eff

 

[rgraham666]

What Eff said.

For a writer, sometimes I don't say very much.

Thanks again ladies.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

My first time was...

...not so much.

Everything was right. Right time, right place, right person, etc... However, it didn't feel right once we got started. He wasn't very experienced at all. Patient, gentle, loving and all that, but inexperienced.

It hurt like a sonofabitch, I bled like a stuck pig and never even got close to orgasm. It was good on an emotional level. We were closer, had shared something profound (seemed like a big deal at the time) and there was plenty of intimacy.

Overall I'd say it was a relief to get it out of the way. If I had my druthers, I'd have taken up my best guy friend on his offer to experiment and fool around (or indulged my deeply hidden desire to be with a woman). I didn't realize at the time, how important true openness was in letting go and enjoying the moment. Had I been with my best buddy, I could've laughed it off when he slipped off target or just quit when I felt like I'd had enough on my pain limit and not felt the least bit bad about it.

I had plenty of trust in the guy I was with, but the worry that I'd disappoint or be clumsy was overwhelming and I endured the act with a pretty healthy bit of anxiety on my shoulders.

First times, in a large majority of my friends and acquaintances, are nothing to scream about. They're the stepping stone to much, much better things.

~lucky