Ladies... Need your help(and it's not sex!)

[Morgoth]

Okay, I feel really embarressed, but, what the hell. Okay, I would just like to say that I am actually a very shy person. I mean, for God's sakes, I barely even talk to the feminine gender!! I'm okay around other guys(I am not gay!), but as soon as a woman comes up, it's like, "Holy shit! I am screwed. What do I say? What do I do?" Well, when I was 13, I could never get a date. I was handsome, in all of my friends' opinions, my family's opinion, and partly my opinion, I was pretty muscled, and I had a pretty big penis for a kid. 6 in, seriously. Remember, I was 13. Anyway, the girls would just sit there and look at me. I would never do anything. Could some female please tell me what I was doing wrong? But, try to put yourself in my position, okay. But try to put yourself in my position, I am afraid of girls! Please tell me what I should of done.

 

[Never]

"I would never do anything."
"Could some female please tell me what I was doing wrong?"

I think that one sentence answers the other.

 

[Morgoth]

Well thank you for replying, but I mean, I never knew what to do. I never knew what the hell they were talking about, and they never did anything but play with each other's hair. I mean, what was I supposed to do, go up to them and start talking about football? What does one speak about with girls. I mean, you don't talk about sex with a 13 year old.

 

[Guest]

Well I'm not a girl, but it's pretty easy for me to see what you did wrong. First problem you stated yourself, you didn't do anything. Nothing is going to happen if you don't do anything. Second problem is is that you are scared of women. Ask yourself why you are? Most likely the reason is not reason enough. Stop focusing on the possibilities of what might go wrong, and start focusing on what won't go right if you don't do anything. And stop treating women as a gender, and start seeing them as the individuals they are. See it as not you and a female, but you and her.

Hope it helps, and if it doesn't, then I tried my best

 

[Morgoth]

Tried your best you did, and helped you did. Sorry for the Yoda talk. I don't really know why I am scared of women, but there was this one girl that just stood out. Her name was Jessica Leon. actually, right now, I am scared to death, thinking, "She might be readin this!". Well, anyway, I would often catch her sneaking glances at me and talking to her friends about me. And she was perfect. Great bod, nice tits, awesome ass. But I would make up my mind to talk to her the next day, but then, as soon as I goot within 5 ft, I would be like, "Damnit, I can't do this, what if she hates me?", so then I would walk away. I mean, if anyone could solve this problem for me(which I still have now) I would be most gratefull, I might even pull out the good ol' wallet.

 

[Guest]

Simple answer for you bud. Talk to her. She might hate you but she might not. She might laugh at you, or she might laugh with you. She might spray you with a can of mace, or she might reward you with a wonderful smile. In any case, you won't know if you don't do anything. So quit procrastinating and do something! Who knows, perhaps that woman you've been keeping an eye on is just as intimidated by you as you are of her. But you'll never know if never do anything...

 

[ericred50]

I know what you mean Morgoth, I was shy would blush when I was talking to a girl. Never knew what to say, until I was 15, then started to explore. Then at 18 my first shag, all over in 3 minutes. LOL Know I am a lot older and wiser, and the saying "If I knew now what I knew then", is very true. I know enjoy the company of women more than men, I am funny, charming, caring, a good listener, polite, and flirty. I Always have a twinkle in my eye, and does not matter if the lady is 20 or 60. Eye contact is very important, and when you are talking to them make them think they are the only one there, even if you are with a group. remember what they have said, and ask them about it next time you meet, in other words show an interest. Just be your self, and they will accept you. When I meet a woman, for the first time, I shake her hand, when we depart it is a kiss on their hand and three touches of our cheek, the next time it is a kiss on the cheeks. They notice this, and they all ask what the 3 touching of cheeks are. (It a Dutch custom.)
I can offer lessons in seduction, care to join my club?

 

[Cheyenne]

can offer lessons in seduction, care to join my club?

No. I remember you- I still have my surface to air missiles- don't forget! I'll never surrender.

 

[livin_simple]

Hmm, EricRed50 I might need to take you up on your offer. Especially with Cheyenne's recommendation. LOL.

My problem is knowing when a woman is interested in more than the eye contact and friendly conversation. I'm VERY GOOD at building a comfortable and enjoyable time with a woman. But I'm clueless about interpreting when they might be interested in something more.

I've looked back over the years and can - in retrospect - identify probably, should-have situations. But in real life have not successfully made the transition very often from nice guy who talks with a woman, to the guy who takes the woman home.

From previous posts I've made it clear I'm not the type to chase ass for the sake of getting ass. What I'm talking about are those not very frequent situations where I've had a very enjoyable time with a woman and would like to explore something beyond that. Not necessarily a committed relationship, but the next level of having a very good time with each other.

Guess I'll keep peeking in on this thread along with Morgoth

 

[KillerMuffin]

You were 13, assuming you've aged the required 5 years to be here, is it still a problem for you?

I imagine that at 13 not only were you budding sexually, you were probably just really noticing the female and why she was just oh so unutterably attractive to you. You were pretty much used to thinking of yourself as the gawky kid and you were confronted with a young woman. Our mental images of ourselves very rarely conform with reality. It probably didn't occur to your hormonally jazzed little 13 year old mind that you were a young man and therefore not only perfectly able to talk to young women, they may desire to speak with you.

Of course, at 13, what to talk about. Common ground? Everyone has parental problems at 13. Mom and Dad just never let me go hang at the mall with the homies on Saturdays. There's nothin to do at the mall cause arcades are for kids. The war on zits. What kind of car you wanna get at 16. Man, I like math (just don't tell her it's cause the teacher has tits out to there), but it's soooo hard.

Now, get on your 13 year old little hoodlum clothes, grab your bookbag, and turn down that awful noise! You call that music?!?! Did you do your homework? You're not too big to spank young man!

And back to the main question. Is it relevant now or just for old times sake?


As an aside, you know, saying that a boy is "budding" sexually is just plain evil. Shame on you.