ladies, do you enjoy male chastity?

[swansong1]

Hi, I see lots of threads regarding male chastity, but most appear to be from male fantasists, or those from men pretending to have experienced it / pretending to be women. So, I'd love to hear it from a woman's point of view - do you enjoy it and if so, why? I can see it from the male point of view - but from a woman's?

 

[swansong1]

Surely?

Quite surprised there is no interest in this, given the number of ads. for chastity devices... surely at least some women enjoy playing with them...? Or is this just a male thing?

 

[policywank]

I do enjoy keeping hubby chaste. I used to think that the best way to get him focussed was to clear his mind by letting him ejaculate frequently. It turns out that is at best a 15 minute solution and his mind is soon distracted with lusty thoughts. The better route is to enforce chastity with ejaculations limited to a manageable and predictable schedule - it doesn't stop his lusty obsession so much as focus his energies on pleasing me rather than himself.

However, for us it is not a source of humiliation or long-term denial. If he pleases me his patience is rewarded. And I am not really into humiliation. The chastity devices always seem oriented towards making him seem like a eunuch. That isn't what I want. If he was of the small dick variety of male maybe I would feel differently but that is not the case.

However, we do enjoy fitting him with various hardware items as enduring symbols of my dominion over him - something of which he is constantly reminded by its presence. But I like that symbol to be something that induces him to think in equal parts about the purpose and reality of his denial and the anticipated pleasure of his next ejaculation.

The intent is to strike the right balance between behaviour management/modification and a sincere interest in his pleasure. The result isn't just more focussed attention on me. At this stage he says that the wait and lead up to our sexual encounters is far more delicious and titillating than rubbing one out 3 times a day.

 

[swansong1]

I do enjoy keeping hubby chaste. I used to think that the best way to get him focussed was to clear his mind by letting him ejaculate frequently. It turns out that is at best a 15 minute solution and his mind is soon distracted with lusty thoughts. The better route is to enforce chastity with ejaculations limited to a manageable and predictable schedule - it doesn't stop his lusty obsession so much as focus his energies on pleasing me rather than himself.

However, for us it is not a source of humiliation or long-term denial. If he pleases me his patience is rewarded. And I am not really into humiliation. The chastity devices always seem oriented towards making him seem like a eunuch. That isn't what I want. If he was of the small dick variety of male maybe I would feel differently but that is not the case.

However, we do enjoy fitting him with various hardware items as enduring symbols of my dominion over him - something of which he is constantly reminded by its presence. But I like that symbol to be something that induces him to think in equal parts about the purpose and reality of his denial and the anticipated pleasure of his next ejaculation.

The intent is to strike the right balance between behaviour management/modification and a sincere interest in his pleasure. The result isn't just more focussed attention on me. At this stage he says that the wait and lead up to our sexual encounters is far more delicious and titillating than rubbing one out 3 times a day.

Thanks for replying. I wonder how you brought the subject up - or who suggested it? And what is your schedule? How do you decide when to let him cum and does he know when that will be? I would also like to know if you miss out if he is locked up - do you miss out?

I like you honesty - I don't like the idea of humiliation. It should be a positive experience for both. I like the idea of it, as I would prefer the woman to cum rather than me - not that I'd want that all the time, of course!

 

[policywank]

Thanks for replying. I wonder how you brought the subject up - or who suggested it? And what is your schedule? How do you decide when to let him cum and does he know when that will be? I would also like to know if you miss out if he is locked up - do you miss out?

I like you honesty - I don't like the idea of humiliation. It should be a positive experience for both. I like the idea of it, as I would prefer the woman to cum rather than me - not that I'd want that all the time, of course!

We were already into a wife led lifestyle when he started wearing hardware. I told him what to buy and where and sent him shopping.

The schedule is fluid, but there has to be some predictability or the objective is not achieved - he just spends every minute wondering and thinking about his own ejaculation. I usually start out with one week as the standard minimum so that he puts it out of his mind (mostly) for seven days. At the end of the period I may extend it if he has not been behaving as I desire or for such other reason that suits me but I set a new specific minimum. Once in a while I surprise him by shortening the timeline but not frequently enough to raise that expectation. When the time comes I try to make it worth the wait and it may include multiple sexual events over a compressed period before he is put back into chastity for another seven days.

As for missing out I suppose everything is a trade-off. But I have plenty of other lovers to fill the gap and his extra attentions more than make-up for deferring the date at which his cock can enter me.

 

[swansong1]

We were already into a wife led lifestyle when he started wearing hardware. I told him what to buy and where and sent him shopping.

The schedule is fluid, but there has to be some predictability or the objective is not achieved - he just spends every minute wondering and thinking about his own ejaculation. I usually start out with one week as the standard minimum so that he puts it out of his mind (mostly) for seven days. At the end of the period I may extend it if he has not been behaving as I desire or for such other reason that suits me but I set a new specific minimum. Once in a while I surprise him by shortening the timeline but not frequently enough to raise that expectation. When the time comes I try to make it worth the wait and it may include multiple sexual events over a compressed period before he is put back into chastity for another seven days.

As for missing out I suppose everything is a trade-off. But I have plenty of other lovers to fill the gap and his extra attentions more than make-up for deferring the date at which his cock can enter me.

I'm not sure that I would want to share. But I do like the idea of using me for her pleasure, whatever that may be. I like the idea of physical chastity, but have gone 3 months without cuming - one without chastity, whilst she came whenever we were together, generally with me using my tongue. Oddly, I didn't need to come, and would get a tingle through my chest when she did. I was rock hard, though! Now It is hard to stop a girl bringing me off - I don't think that they understand that Zi would rather that they came and that is enough for me. Not that I'd want it that way all the time!

As a matter of interest, what device(s) do you use?

 

[policywank]

He is chaste according to my instruction but we don't use a chastity device. I like a steel ring around his cock or multiple rings plus other bits of jewelry. Sometimes ropes or a thin belt does the trick. It's just a source of pressure to remind him especially when he gets hard.

 

[OpenMouth]

Nice subject.

I'd love to hear more from the ladies. What PW describes above is similar to my own self-imposed chastity.

I refrain from orgasm because I want to be ready to pleasure my wife whenever she's ripe and relaxed. I can make a better job of it if I'm in an elevated, aroused state. The idea of a quickie is foreign to me!

I do masturbate when I'm alone but very rarely to ejaculation. I never cum until she's satisfied unless she specifically wants me to, ie if she wants to watch me masturbate which she really enjoys.

 

[littlecordelera]

This website isn't all that friendly to this sort of play. You would do better to Google "our hot wives" and you will find plenty of us who enjoy this lifestyle.

 

[OpenMouth]

Thanks for the tip, little c. I'll definitely take a look...