I asked my girlfriend if she had any fantasies I could help make real, but she wanted to hear mine first. That made me realize that I don't seem to really have any, or rather, I'm not sure if I have them the same way that other people seem to. Actually, I think it would be more correct to say that I used to, but ever since my first fiance and I broke up, I haven't.
I find myself thinking sometimes that I'd like sex more often, or with some minor variations on the sex I have, but I don't think that's what other people mean when they talk about fantasies.
Now, this doesn't bother me much, but it seems to bother my girlfriend, so I suppose I'm wondering whether other people experience a general, long-term lack of fantasies as well. If so, has it been a problem for your sex life? Have you eventually been able to generate creative fantasies?
I find myself thinking sometimes that I'd like sex more often, or with some minor variations on the sex I have, but I don't think that's what other people mean when they talk about fantasies.
Now, this doesn't bother me much, but it seems to bother my girlfriend, so I suppose I'm wondering whether other people experience a general, long-term lack of fantasies as well. If so, has it been a problem for your sex life? Have you eventually been able to generate creative fantasies?