Lack of fantasies

Michiro

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I asked my girlfriend if she had any fantasies I could help make real, but she wanted to hear mine first. That made me realize that I don't seem to really have any, or rather, I'm not sure if I have them the same way that other people seem to. Actually, I think it would be more correct to say that I used to, but ever since my first fiance and I broke up, I haven't.

I find myself thinking sometimes that I'd like sex more often, or with some minor variations on the sex I have, but I don't think that's what other people mean when they talk about fantasies.

Now, this doesn't bother me much, but it seems to bother my girlfriend, so I suppose I'm wondering whether other people experience a general, long-term lack of fantasies as well. If so, has it been a problem for your sex life? Have you eventually been able to generate creative fantasies?
 
Most of my stories And roleplays involve a fantasy or something I'd like to do. I am in the position of your partner. My s/o claims to have no fantasies but I am the one wanting sex more often.

Communication is the key. Tell her your desires and ask about hers. You never know, something may just come true one day.
 
There could be any number of reasons you don't have fantasies, but as long as you and your gf still enjoy a good sex life, I shouldn't worry too much.

There are lots of fantasies you can ' borrow ' of course. Take a look at erotic stories, porn pics or films. Is there something that really fires you up, and makes you think you'd love to try it ?

My Hubby never has fantasies, or ones that he's able to discuss in any case, whereas I'm awash with them. But if I leave him to it, he'll sometimes come up with a surprise.
The other day, he told me he'd been thinking of a picture I'd got on Tumblr. Three ladies stroking and licking a guy's cock. And imagining me as one of them, with his cock. And of course he'd cum with this idea in his head.
 
A fantasy can be as simple as "I liked that, it would be fun to do it again someday." It can be as tame as putting a little whip cream or honey or icing on someone and than licking it off. There are even non-sexual fantasies like wishing for a massage or going to a rock concert with an equally-excited significant other. You might have some fantasies that you haven't recognized as fantasies.

Sometimes a lack of fantasies can go along with depression because people who are depressed often have trouble imagining pleasant things in the near future.
 
I know exactly what you mean.
I don't have any proper fantasies or anything like that.
I'm very happy with what I have and I don't really have anything I want to do or try, but I'm generally happy to try out my bfs fantasies with him. They are usually quite tame and simple so they aren't off-putting.
If friends or people here ask what my fantasies are, I always tell them that i don't have any and that always results in their total disbelief. I know most people have some wild or crazy thing that they want to do but i just don't.
I'm just happy with regular good sex.
 
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