...know if someones into you

[chiantidecasa]

I'm recently back on the dating scene after over 5 years in a relationship. When I'm out at the bars and flirting with girls I don't know when they're just being friendly or actually into me. Any hints?

 

[raniny]

Just take it slow and stedy. When they start reacting to you talk to them. Don't rush things. Some of us girls like taking things slow.

 

[mester333]

I wish I knew...

 

[emap]

She is into you when she puts her hands on you, leans in closer to talk and laughs at anything remotely funny you say. Seriously, it's not hard to know, and if you want to make sure, ask her out on a date. If she says yes why not next Saturday we can meet at such and such a place, she is being nice though finds you interesting. If she says yes tomorrow I'll make you breakfast she most likely wants a friend with benefits.

 

[CookiePuss]

I'm probably the wrong person to be responding to something like this since I'm very tactile and 90% of the time I have sex on the brain. However, I agree with emap. If a woman really likes you, she will naturally (unless incredibly shy) try to be closer to you, touch you and whilst maybe not laughing at everything you say (it might not be funny), she will be engaged by you.

If you really like her, then ask her out on a date. If she does say 'how about next Saturday' , she could be trying to be nice or she could actually be busy and then again she might really like you and want things to be good for both you. If she puts you off for a week; it might because her regular bikini wax is two days away.

The only true way to know is to talk to her and ask her out if you want to spend time with her. Take your time and try not to over analyze the situation.

Good luck

 

[VelvetDarkness]

If you haven't the courage to ask for a date after a single casual meeting at a bar then why not just ask for her number? Or just offer yours and leave the ball in her court? If you have a business card maybe offer that, you can get some made quite cheaply if you want.

It might be worth your while to go to a couple of singles nights. Go to one a few miles away if you're worried about meeting people you know. Even if you don't meet anyone you like it's a good practice ground and at least you know you're unlikely to chat up a girl who is waiting for her 7ft boyfriend to return from the bar.

Most women get animated and chatty with people they're attracted to, they'll also talk about themselves a lot because they want you to like them and be very interested in you as a person in return. Touching their face/hair and checking their reflection are good signs as is her touching your arm.

Also, once you learn how to retire gracefully in defeat with an apology, a wry smile, a compliment and no hard feelings on either side, asking women out will be less daunting. It's standing around feeling rejected and awkward that most men fear.

Best of luck

 

[Texguy84]

She is into you when she puts her hands on you...

Reminds me of something someone once said on another message board, something to the effect of "If she makes body contact with you, ie: Her hand on your hand, her hand on your arm, her mouth on your penis, then it is a good indicator that she may be interested in you."

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Proximity is the give-away. If they find excuses to be around you, theyre interested. The other is simply maneuvering into position for the kill. But stalking comes first.

 

[moZRMe]

Hey, its always the question that every guy asks himself. The thing is, I've figured out, yes, sure quite frequently they might try to find an excuse to be closer. But you must also try not to misinterpret things as well. If you're always thinking, does she like me? Then any contact from then on is taken as 'Hell yeah lets get together', you're going to make a complete fool of yourself. Its just what I've noticed, but as people before me have mentioned, its always a good thing to just take things slow. Just, have fun, don't to sexual to quick. Just learn to like the person. After all you are out to have fun. Hope that helps.