Snake_Magick
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Looking for HWP female for play in the Seattle area.
Kinky dominant male and female sub
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Zundas
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Hiya, just got a few pointers for when communicating on Lit and searching for a play partner.
1)
Be specific with who/what you are and who/what you're after. There are many kinks that you could have, what do you mean by kinky? what kind of submissive are you after? one into a specific dynamic or dynamics or just a generally submissive woman in the traditional sense? there are a very large number of combinations of things that you could mean.
In addition to the actual BDSM aspect of the specifics. What other preferences do you have? what are some details about you? age? height? weight? married/engaged/single? are you open to online play first or strictly in person play? can you host for play? etc.
People are very, very unlikely to message unless you're specific. By including next to no details you aren't sparking any interest, nobody is going to think "ooh I'm into that, I'll message him" based on that little info. They're much more likely to be both curious and cautious as a response, which in combination rarely leads to messaging and again because of the high amount of variance in what you could want will lead to fruitful messaging even more rarely. You could have 100 women message you looking for different things based on your description and still not find someone into what you want.
2)
You're way more likely to get serious responses from people if you post more and integrate into the community. You've somehow been on lit for 8 years - almost a decade - and this is the only thing you've publicly made.
This is a community site rather than a hook-up site despite having that as an element of it. You get back what you put into it, the people with the best results are the ones that put the most time and effort in. I can tell you right now a lot of people will be immediately turned off at the sight of someone who's been on the site for that long with just a single post, when that single post isn't particularly insightful or productive. You must have seen so many interesting things when you've been browsing the site, you just need to make use of what you've seen to make something of your own.
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I hope you find the above at least somewhat useful.
1)
Be specific with who/what you are and who/what you're after. There are many kinks that you could have, what do you mean by kinky? what kind of submissive are you after? one into a specific dynamic or dynamics or just a generally submissive woman in the traditional sense? there are a very large number of combinations of things that you could mean.
In addition to the actual BDSM aspect of the specifics. What other preferences do you have? what are some details about you? age? height? weight? married/engaged/single? are you open to online play first or strictly in person play? can you host for play? etc.
People are very, very unlikely to message unless you're specific. By including next to no details you aren't sparking any interest, nobody is going to think "ooh I'm into that, I'll message him" based on that little info. They're much more likely to be both curious and cautious as a response, which in combination rarely leads to messaging and again because of the high amount of variance in what you could want will lead to fruitful messaging even more rarely. You could have 100 women message you looking for different things based on your description and still not find someone into what you want.
2)
You're way more likely to get serious responses from people if you post more and integrate into the community. You've somehow been on lit for 8 years - almost a decade - and this is the only thing you've publicly made.
This is a community site rather than a hook-up site despite having that as an element of it. You get back what you put into it, the people with the best results are the ones that put the most time and effort in. I can tell you right now a lot of people will be immediately turned off at the sight of someone who's been on the site for that long with just a single post, when that single post isn't particularly insightful or productive. You must have seen so many interesting things when you've been browsing the site, you just need to make use of what you've seen to make something of your own.
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I hope you find the above at least somewhat useful.
RubenesqueAphrodite
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*psst, Zundas.. don't give out any more advice. It's the posts such as the OP above that help us separate the chaff from the wheat*
Zundas
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Hmm... I hadn't considered that.
Nevermind OP, I was clearly drunk when writing my above advice so please disregard any and all of it as the ravings of a man under the influence. You are 100% perfect in your approach to communicating on here, and you're also god's gift to women.
RubenesqueAphrodite
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