Kinks We'd Like To Know More About 🤔

[Wild_Honey_66]

Shall we start things off with breath play?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

You first. Why is this interesting to you?

Because it sounded scary until it happened, and then it wasn't. (To clarify, it didn't happen in a sexual context)

Also because I'm a curious cat!

 

[barefootgirl69]

*subscribes*

I haven't tried it, yet.
But, I'm interested...if it goes along the same lines as his hand on my throat to feel my pulse...but...

Okay...I'm listening.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

I'm interested because I don't see how it can be enjoyable. I had a CAT scan recently. I had to repeatedly hold my breath with arms over my hear while the machine spun over my reclining body. It was awful. The last shot was a minute twenty seconds. I thought i was going to pass out.

What do participants get out of it?

 

[catherinewheel77]

I’m looking forward to living vicariously through y’all.

 

[Jada59]

I'm interested because I don't see how it can be enjoyable. I had a CAT scan recently. I had to repeatedly hold my breath with arms over my hear while the machine spun over my reclining body. It was awful. The last shot was a minute twenty seconds. I thought i was going to pass out.

What do participants get out of it?

Agree with you there.

Also remember reading a book as a child about a girl who held her breath until her face turned blue. I decided to try it. I remember looking in the mirror. And then my mom was standing over me, yelling. Apparently I passed out and when I fell, somehow I didn't fall onto the bed behind me but somehow managed to land with my head on the heat vent. It made a reverberating noise throughout the house and left me with a big goose egg.

I also learned that I have an abnormally large lung capacity despite smoking for 27 years. I had an Anscore test done and kept failing it as my lungs took in too much air for too long. This might be because I'm a former swimmer.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

It is one of the greatest examples of absolute control I've been involved in. I've been here with two different partners and enjoyed it very much. I have only done manual breath play. It was something that both people were well aware of how to do with relative safety. It was never done where they could not see my face, and I never was made to lose consciousness. It was always in a scene or sexual context, and this is part of where my love of leashes came in. I've explained elsewhere that a leash, for me, is a point of necessary contact when taken to certain levels. It is a reassurance.
so breath play, first off, it definitely is one way to take me deeper into subspace VERY quickly. Once i've been there with a person, it is one of those triggering things that ever after the moment his hand is around my neck *im done for*. It is an incredibly powerful thing. One of my partners would use it as an extension of oral sex. He enjoyed controlling my ability to breathe at the same time as feeling himself in my throat. The other it was an extension of any sexual activity, it was used as a focus tool of a kind. In both cases i was never made to black out completely, it was only compressing bloodflow for a few seconds at a time, never to the point I panicked, but I think this was partly owing to the fact when we went there I was already in subspace. In both cases, I have greyed out, but they could see that on my face and would immediately let off. I never felt afraid of them.

On the contrary, my soon to be ex husband at the end of our marriage he was getting increasingly violent, and this is why I had to be done. The last time we were ever together he went for my neck, he could not see my face, and i knew he had NO idea or care about what he was doing. THAT scared the crap out of me. That is the last time I ever was with him.

This is not high up on my "needs" list. It is fun if you are with someone safe, it adds a great depth to any activity, and it really boosts the trust level. I would get on just fine if my person never wanted to go there though.
edited to add: the first time that we ever got into this is because my very first Master noticed that when I get VEERERRRYYYY into the sensation of something I stop breathing. Every. Time. I innately do this to myself. So he knew that this was something I was inadvertently doing to concentrate on and up the feeling. He decided to show me how to use it to my advantage intentionally. Similarly, my current Master has noticed the same (though we have never actually discussed this issue) and he constantly has to remind me to breathe when things get AWESOME . It's actually fairly common, it is more common among women who tend to *tense up to create muscle rigidity before they climax. There is a correlation there. So many people engage in the most basic form of breath play, but aren't even consciously aware of it.

Sadly, my favorite two kink related presenters do not go into any depth on this topic outside of their Patreon channels (Evie Lupine and Morgan Thorne), but this duo do, and they do it decent justice.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uwkEBrkK1xY
oooh love this one too! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPlrum6p4xg
~Angie

 

[Trekka]

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edited to add: the first time that we ever got into this is because my very first Master noticed that when I get VEERERRRYYYY into the sensation of something I stop breathing. Every. Time. I innately do this to myself. So he knew that this was something I was inadvertently doing to concentrate on and up the feeling. He decided to show me how to use it to my advantage intentionally. Similarly, my current Master has noticed the same (though we have never actually discussed this issue) and he constantly has to remind me to breathe when things get AWESOME . It's actually fairly common, it is more common among women who tend to *tense up to create muscle rigidity before they climax. There is a correlation there. So many people engage in the most basic form of breath play, but aren't even consciously aware of it.

Sadly, my favorite two kink related presenters do not go into any depth on this topic outside of their Patreon channels (Evie Lupine and Morgan Thorne), but this duo do, and they do it decent justice.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uwkEBrkK1xY
oooh love this one too! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPlrum6p4xg
~Angie

loved what you said

those correlations are pretty interesting -- i never noticed that link before. i hold my breath as well right before i climax (or to "get there") ... never realized it's just a tiny, baby form of asphyxiation.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

Yep! First Master was actually a lecturer and Doctor of Human Sexuality (yes really) ^__^ so he was full of fun facts and nuances like that. He was incredibly observant of clues like that. I never would have figured it, or noticed either, and I've never had reason or felt like talking about it before now. Yes, it's pretty startling the first time you realize that what you are doing innately is actually a form of breath play, but there are so many BDSM activities that have roots in things we would never immediately point to until we stop and think about it. We like to talk about the cops n robbers trope and how that was some people's first inking of liking bondage. There are subtle and early roots or tells for most kinks when you stop to think about it.

I've also done the breath recycling, which can be really fun. I like the intimacy and connectedness of it, the intimacy.

 

[JCSTREET]

I’m looking forward to living vicariously through y’all.

You're at Ground Zero for vcary [and, on a good day, a soupcon of ground pepper]

 

[cookiecat]

I think about having a cock down my throat, obstructing my air when he reached down and pinched my nose. I would open mouth wider in order to breathe, which in turn would push his cock deeper.

He would say things like I control your world right now, trust me, slow down.

I think that's a form of breath play. I found it to be very intimate.

I've worn a gas mask during play - that definitely forced me to focus on measured breathing as well as staying present. It was impossible to let go. A weird form of denial because of the intentional breathing.

The times I've been choked (either with a hand around throat or cock down throat), it's been more about the power exchange than trying to heighten a climax. Secondary has been trying to get me to focus and slow down.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I think about having a cock down my throat, obstructing my air when he reached down and pinched my nose. I would open mouth wider in order to breathe, which in turn would push his cock deeper.

He would say things like I control your world right now, trust me, slow down.

I think that's a form of breath play. I found it to be very intimate.

.....

The times I've been choked (either with a hand around throat or cock down throat), it's been more about the power exchange than trying to heighten a climax. Secondary has been trying to get me to focus and slow down.

I'm not interested in feeling high or passing out, my interest lies with the feeling of being controlled, giving myself up to that, and the resulting intimacy... Oh, man...

Giving a blowie and especially learning to deep throat definitely feels like breath play to me, but I've never had a particularly dominant partner, and they've never done more than place their hand on my head... yet. Something to look forward to!

 

[Trekka]

I'm not interested in feeling high or passing out, my interest lies with the feeling of being controlled, giving myself up to that, and the resulting intimacy... Oh, man...

Both have their perks
Just sayin'

Giving a blowie and especially learning to deep throat definitely feels like breath play to me...

Well, for sure you have to pace the breathing... it's like a sexy cock-based rhythm.

 

[cookiecat]

I would like to know more about fisting.

What's the appeal? What do you do with your hand once it's in there? Does it hurt?

 

[LeinadVirgo]

I would like to know more about fisting.

What's the appeal? What do you do with your hand once it's in there? Does it hurt?

The appeal of giving or receiving? I like watching personally. Something about seeing a wrist buried is very arousing (most are bigger than any cock, and that's part of the appeal for me)

 

[cookiecat]

The appeal of giving or receiving? I like watching personally. Something about seeing a wrist buried is very arousing (most are bigger than any cock, and that's part of the appeal for me)

I'd like to hear both sides.

I'd be the receiver - I'm trying to imagine a hand up in my uterus. What does it feel like - from both sides??

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

So now I'm watching fisting porn...

 

[twister947]

This is one that escapes me...

 

[littlebirdjoy]

I would like to know more about fisting.

What's the appeal? What do you do with your hand once it's in there? Does it hurt?

This is where I crack up and try HARD to understand WHY I'm the one who has done these things when I consider myself pretty darn inexperienced comparatively.

Sooooooooooooo I've happened to have been here as well. However, it was before I knew what "it" was exactly. I went here Long before I was ever a part of anything BDSM lifestyle, or even aware of the TERM BDSM.

My very first boyfriend and I had a bit of an obsession with this. We had never had penetrative sex, but over the course of a little over a year he kinda took things from fingering me with one finger on up to his entire fist. I am 100% sure that he didn't know it was a "thing" and neither did I, it was just something that mentally intrigued us both. We never sat down and talked about it either, we just did it.

Youth and ignorance probably had a lot to do with the sexy factor to me. It just felt awesome. We never used anything like lube, it would usually follow a pretty intense makeout session and I'd usually already um... helped him out... so I was plenty wet enough. It would depend upon how much perceived time and privacy we had, but my clearest memories are of me standing on the side of my bed with one foot on the edge of the bed and him sitting on the bed in front of me (he was short so she had a damn good view that way I guess and he would be working his way up to his entire fist. 3-4 fingers was easy. 5 straight was harder, then once he'd get in past his wrist he would ball his hand into a fist (that movement was fucking insane). He wasn't particularly vigorous with me and I don't think he ever pushed me to the point of orgasm this way (more due to fear of noise than that it wouldn't have worked). I would stand with my hands on his shoulders for balance and if I was going to be too loud I would lean over and bury my mouth in his shoulder/neck. He mighta liked that a bit. I never bit him, but I'd whimper and try to stifle moans that way. Afterwards he would hold me and it was really a bonding thing. I liked it. It never hurt. I'm not sure that would still be the case after age and with a grown man's hand as opposed to two teenagers 0__0 and he was on the smaller side, like me, so I guess we had that working for us.

Would I do it again? Oh hell yes. It happens to be the exact OPPOSITE direction of where my Master is taking me, but if he had wanted to go that direction I'd have been down, no fear or reservations.
I also know that for whatever reason my cervix isn't particularly negatively sensitive. Maybe this has something to do with it?

~Faithfully His,
Angie

 

[Rapha1979]

I'd like to hear both sides.

I'd be the receiver - I'm trying to imagine a hand up in my uterus. What does it feel like - from both sides??

I’ve got a little bit of experience with fisting so I’ll give my perspective.

It has happened a couple of times with my wife and always been as part of a very intense session of fingering which has resulted in her squirting. In order for her to get to the point of squirting, her pussy has been extremely wet so getting two or three fingers inside is no problem.

When we’re in that sort of scenario, we’re both very turned on and I think there’s an additional thrill from the idea of pushing boundaries. This is particularly heightened at the point that she climax and the additional lubrication from her squirting means that getting the rest of my hand inside her is much easier. I think she enjoys the sense of totally surrendering herself to me and I enjoy the thrill of doing something so taboo.

Feeling my hand inside her, filling her pussy, how wet she is and how totally in the moment we both are is a huge turn on for us both.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

This is an interesting question but as with most things sexual (and I slightly apologise for the irony) there's no 'one size fits all' answer!!

I can see it from both sides and I've done it both in and out of the D/s context. I've also declined to do it to women who I really didn't want to change/damage!!

In terms of giving, sometimes it's just a reaction to the situation. I've been intimately 'exploring' a woman and her physical reaction has led me to (literally) push deeper and (I imagine) for her, it's the thrill of taking something much larger than she otherwise would and perhaps with a degree of force which she couldn't exert herself.

Sometimes it hurts, sometimes the woman wants it to hurt. One very submissive woman I had a thing with was very proud of the fact that on one occasion, I made her bleed. can't say I felt the same - I was mortified!

With some women, it's definitely a 'power exchange' thing. I had a relationship with a woman who was incredibly sexually developed, experimental and curious. She was also a big girl (5'11" and quite 'Rubeneque') and she liked it really hard!

She would orgasm four or five times with my fist inside her and every time, hew insides would go into a cramp-like spasm which at times I found quite painful but she loved it. If I hadn't known her so well, I'd have been scared of harming her but I knew she wanted to 'fight' me as I fisted her and at times I'd use my fist inside her to either lift her up or hold her down while I did other things to her.

Because she was quite a big girl, she really liked to feel controlled and made to feel small - not mentally but physically - and the fact that I was big enough to restrain her worked wonders for her.

Nonetheless, it had to be the right thing at the right time. Sometimes it was right to get rough and heavy with her and I'd push really deep, lifting her up the bed and try to open my hand inside her. Other times it was more about just stretching her wide and making her feel really full and not necessarily D/s centric.

Amazingly, none of these exertions ever had the slightest effect on her vagina which - after a couple of days - would be completely back to normal i.e. could grip a pencil!

Horses for courses (but that's another story!!).

Thank you for sharing. The bolded... yes, I don't think my experience with this ever did any form of "damage" >.> I've never ever had anyone complain about my tightness or lack thereof. The body goes through childbirth which is WAY more traumatic and bounces back. Thank you for addressing that concern people have!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

This is something I've been curious about for a while. I don't always like pain but i do like pressure.

I tried it a few years ago on the spur of the moment. Neither one of us knew what we were doing, i don't even remember who brought it up - i think he did.

Him: Hey, ya wanna try fisting?
Me: Okay!
Him: *tries*
Me: Yeah, no.

We went in cold, we were such ninnies! I've watched enough fisting vids now that I'll be much better prepared next time. The prep appears to be similar to anal. I'm sure my biggest roadblock will be my brain, not my body.

 

[haventdonethat]

Fisting

I do not have a tremendous amount of fisting experience, have only done it with three women, two of which were multiple times.

The first time with my first wife, it was quite accidental. We were making out, me fingering her; she was getting very wet so I kept adding fingers until all four were in. She really started humping so I tucked my thumb into my palm and just let her go. She arched her back, pushed and my hand slipped in. Her eyes were closed and she didn’t even know until I told her to look down. She almost yelled “holy fucccck” and came very hard.
Later times she had me experiment with different techniques. In and out like a big cock or twisting so my knuckles would stimulate her G spot. She fisted herself a couple times after I had done so. Her orgasms were always intense.

Second wife enjoyed it also but for different reasons besides the full feeling. Initially she was a bit submissive. I think she also wanted me to see that she could do what my first wife had done. She was also small so there was much more time, effort and lube involved. Once inside and she grew accustomed to the size, it was always in and out motion with her bent legs moving together and apart like a pair of scissors. She too fisted herself, sometimes before I did. I had to help her because she couldn’t bend her body and arm properly to get the correct angle. Her orgasms were intense.

 

[haventdonethat]

Maybe another kink?

Knew I had a write up somewhere. Posted this a year or so ago about a kinky experience.

Comments welcome.

My wife’s fantasy.

My wife was sitting in a big leather armchair, legs hooked over the arms, my fist buried in her cunt, she strumming her rock hard nipples while telling me how to twist my hand so my knuckles stimulated her G spot, my mouth sucking and licking her clit. As her orgasm approached I lifted my mouth from her clit long enough to question her “I think you would enjoy having a big hard cock in your cunt while I suck on you”.
I guess this drove her over the edge; she grabbed my wrist with both hands and jerked herself to completion while almost screaming Y E S, “fuck me and lick me, two cocks, I want two cocks, yes I could get into that”. She came very hard.
I needed relief in the worst way. Her cunt made a sucking sound as I removed my hand and stood beside her, offering my hard cock to her mouth. I lasted all of ten seconds before cuming in her mouth, on her cheeks and her breasts which she held up for me. We kissed deeply, sharing my cum, swirling it in our mouths, me scooping up more from her face with my tongue to feed into her mouth.

She wasn’t done yet. Her legs were still hooked over the arms; cunt wide open and she wanted more.
She worked a hand into her cunt and jerked herself as if it was a big dildo. She was so wet her cunt made squelching sounds with every stroke. It was the first time I had seen her fist herself.
And the vocal part was also a big turn on for both of us. How she wanted cock, two cocks, hard cocks with lots of cum.
She came very hard again.

All this happened in the doorway to our small ground floor patio only a few feet from a sidewalk. Granted, it was late and all the room lights were off.
I came two more times that night, she lost track of her orgasms. Before we drifted off to sleep she confessed that she was disappointed that no one walked by to see her display.

 

[cookiecat]

Knew I had a write up somewhere. Posted this a year or so ago about a kinky experience.

Comments welcome.

My wife’s fantasy.

My wife was sitting in a big leather armchair, legs hooked over the arms, my fist buried in her cunt, she strumming her rock hard nipples while telling me how to twist my hand so my knuckles stimulated her G spot, my mouth sucking and licking her clit. As her orgasm approached I lifted my mouth from her clit long enough to question her “I think you would enjoy having a big hard cock in your cunt while I suck on you”.
I guess this drove her over the edge; she grabbed my wrist with both hands and jerked herself to completion while almost screaming Y E S, “fuck me and lick me, two cocks, I want two cocks, yes I could get into that”. She came very hard.
I needed relief in the worst way. Her cunt made a sucking sound as I removed my hand and stood beside her, offering my hard cock to her mouth. I lasted all of ten seconds before cuming in her mouth, on her cheeks and her breasts which she held up for me. We kissed deeply, sharing my cum, swirling it in our mouths, me scooping up more from her face with my tongue to feed into her mouth.

She wasn’t done yet. Her legs were still hooked over the arms; cunt wide open and she wanted more.
She worked a hand into her cunt and jerked herself as if it was a big dildo. She was so wet her cunt made squelching sounds with every stroke. It was the first time I had seen her fist herself.
And the vocal part was also a big turn on for both of us. How she wanted cock, two cocks, hard cocks with lots of cum.
She came very hard again.

All this happened in the doorway to our small ground floor patio only a few feet from a sidewalk. Granted, it was late and all the room lights were off.
I came two more times that night, she lost track of her orgasms. Before we drifted off to sleep she confessed that she was disappointed that no one walked by to see her display.

So did this happen and the fantasy was to have another cock in her?

Sounds like you guys had a great time.