Kindness or Passion

[Dillinger]

What's more important... kindness or passion?

This might be an unfair question of me, because I have often complained about threads that offer us artificial choices. A very fair answer is that both are equally important. But for those of you who do think one is more important than the other... which one, and why?

And do you think you can see such things in someone's eyes? Can you truly tell if they're kind? Passionate? Are you usually right when you make such a judgement?

 

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[Dillinger]

It's an impossible choice, Dill.

Can I pick both?

Do please re-read my initial post.... *lol*

 

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[Zamdrist]

What's more important... kindness or passion?

I'll take on Kindness as my choice.

There are many kinds of passions, lusty passion, loving passion, angry passion, etc.

Kindness is plain and simple. You either are or are not.

Kindness is more important, without it there can be no passion. Someone can be passionate about something or someone and still not be kind about it.

 

[lilminx]

It depends on what I want at the time. If I want some great sex, then passion is more important. If I'm looking for a real relationship- and I really hate to say this- then kindness is more important (ugh- than PASSION?!)

It would really make me unhappy if I was in a relationship without passion, no matter how kind he is.

One of the reasons why I can't be in a relationship- passion is too important to me at this point in my life.

 

[Ice Cold]

I'll say Kindness.... Passion is nice, but never seems to last for long in my opinion or can be shared widely. But the kind people I know are kind all the time, everyday... the give of themselves to others constantly, and being around them makes me feel better.

Usually I am a good judge of a person, by looking in there eyes... there is a gentle welcoming warmth that makes that person seem inviting in a friendly way.

 

[alltherage]

I pick passionate kindness.

I have long ago lost any faith I had in my first impression. Passion in some cases is easier to spot than kindness. I don't put much faith in anyone living up to any one standard. I have seen too many kind people do horrible things to believe differently.

 

[SexySlut2]

I don't know if I can choose. I believe kindness is important, but passion is equally so. Most people say passion dies, but I believe it only dies if you let it.
They say the eyes are the mirror to your soul, so yes, I believe you can tell if a person is genuine by looking into their eyes.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Passion is very important to me. But I couldn't feel passionate about someone who wasn't kind. So I have to choose both. One feeds the other.

**Edited because I didn't answer the whole question.**

Passion is easier to spot than kindness. Passion is boisterous and obvious. Kindness is quieter... something you almost have to be looking for to notice. I'm pretty good at recognizing both.

 

[Black_Bird]

I pick kindness. Passion is something that comes and goes, and should be expected to do so in any relationship. Kindness, however, is one of the cornerstones on which a relationship is built

 

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[ksmybuttons]

Sometimes kindness is the cruelest blow of all. Most people who are kind create co-dependent behaviors thereby inhibiting the growth of the people around them. I don't want interactions from people who are always kind.

I want more balance than that.

I love passion in a person. Not just sexual passion but people who have a passion for something, people who truly believe in something and pursue it. They don't always do the kindest things but they offer so much more.

I would pick passion.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Wow, Lucious Lioness, not only do we both gag but we are saying the same thing here! You just got your post done faster than me! LOL!

 

[truegentleman]

Passion!!

While kindness is important. I want someone who has a passion for life and for living life. Someone who wants life and our relationship to be an adventure. Passion only dies if you let it.

 

[Guest]

Door number three....

A passionate person who is unkind would not be very.......... can't think of the word.....would be a real ass hole??

A kind person without passion would be......... better at least. Probaably pretty quiet. So they wouldn't be all up in your face like the passionate unkind person.


Through the eyes, I can, without a doubt, judge the color with 99% accuracy, kindness with slightly less accuracy, and passion with roughly the same but sometimes more. But I can tell if they're smart enough to be taught both...

 

[Dhalgren]

It's impossible for me to feel passionate about someone or something if its lacking kindness through its very core.

 

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[T.H. Oughts]

Kindness.... for without kindness you could not have a passion....

 

[Zephan]

I would have to choose passion.....

Kindness is something I give easily to just about everybody. Passion is reserved for a select few.

 

[Guest]

Compassion. Now there is a concept.

 

[Laurel]

Passion, in relationships, is self-centered - it's a need, a craving. Kindness is selfless - it's attention to the feelings of others. Passion is fun, but kindness wins in all taste tests.

 

[freescorfr]

Your right Dillinger it's a choice between two different categories. Kindness is a quality of personality - passion is the energy generated in response to the stimuli of life.
So passion is a sign of being alive and, for me, great, great and great. It's that unstoppable excitement which propells me on. I think it is possible to cultivate passion - to feed yourself with energising experiences, like fuel.
Without passion we wither, become bored, depressed mundane - we die.

Some passionate people are kind - others are cruel. All great dictators are passionate - so was Mother Theresa.

 

[Yoni]

kindness..and the ability to empathise.

 

[Yoni]

Your right Dillinger it's a choice between two different categories. Kindness is a quality of personality - passion is the energy generated in response to the stimuli of life.
So passion is a sign of being alive and, for me, great, great and great. It's that unstoppable excitement which propells me on. I think it is possible to cultivate passion - to feed yourself with energising experiences, like fuel.
Without passion we wither, become bored, depressed mundane - we die.

Some passionate people are kind - others are cruel. All great dictators are passionate - so was Mother Theresa.

mother T was passionate about her work..her calling ...
what she gave to the world was her unselfish compassion and kindness.

passion perhaps gives us that impetus ..kindness is what blunts the jagged edges.